I did not kneel. When we were dating when giving her things I would say cos your eyes and open your hands.
When i proposed she was on the couch and I came up from behind her and told her to close her eyes and open her hands. That was almost 14 years ago, and we are still going strong.
Must be an American thing.
I know of noone who kneeled when proposing.
For me: we were in s church and she said how beautiful it would be to marry her someday. Used the opportunity and said “Why someday? Why not next year?”
My fella would always make the joke to hint he wanted me to propose to him. We were laid on a picnic blanket on the beach that we met. I was waiting for the perfect moment and he says it while his face is covered with my t-shirt. “I wish I could finger your ring”.
I placed the ring on the picnic blanket and lifted up the shirt covering his head. We’ve been engaged for 3 years now
My fella would always make the joke to hint he wanted me to propose to him. We were laid on a picnic blanket on the beach that we met. I was waiting for the perfect moment and he says it while his face is covered with my t-shirt. “I wish I could finger your ring”.
I placed the ring on the picnic blanket and lifted up the shirt covering his head. We’ve been engaged for 3 years now
We were sitting next to each other on a big rock next to a cliff. No one for a few miles. Proposed. She knew we were getting engaged because we are responsible adults and planned out what we wanted our life together to be like. But when we went on this hike she did not know how much was already in motion. She said yes. ….And then we had sex using the rock as a seat.
7 years later still hopelessly in love. She’s the best decision iv made.
Excellently! I had two close friends help me set up the surprise, and on the set of instructions I gave them it explicitly said “don’t point out that I am not kneeling, it’s on purpose”. My (now) wife got a kick out of that part when she eventually read it, much later.
I built a small treasure chest to hold the engagement ring and rigged it to light up and play the “chest opening” chime from the Legend of Zelda when opened. Suffice it to say, she was not disappointed that kneeling wasn’t involved.
If you’re required to kneel to prove or demonstrate something that ought to be clear with emotion and compatibility that’s just the beginning of a long road of random and unhelpful expectations.
Didn’t kneel. Tried to get the conversation to go there but each time she would just cut me off and switch to another subject. Eventually I just put it on the table and she goes “oh! We’re exchanging gifts?! Open mine first! Mine is better!”
We’re still married… she still doesn’t listen well, but I love her a little extra, just in case she wasn’t listening the first time.
I’ve proposed twice. The first one, I didn’t bend a knee and she died before we were married. The second one, I didn’t bend and she was cheating the entire time.
Final analysis: don’t get married. Save the money and go places and buy shit
Pretty good. I’d always said we weren’t getting married until we had our housing situation sorted. So, the night we finally moved into our own home, after moving and unpacking, we were laying in bed just falling asleep.
So, that was the perfect moment. We’d moved into our house, she was exhausted and emotional from a long day. No way she could say no.
We were outside at a mountainside lookout during sunset. We were standing and I said some romantic things and gave her a pendant engagement gift (white gold love knot with ruby centre
peice).
We were standing on a lakeside dock in Pictou, Canada. No one else around. We’d just travelled a few thousand miles through US/CA during Covid meeting all her family and friends (making sure to test so as not to infect everyone) and I asked her if I’d passed the approval test from everyone. She said yes.
I motioned her hand toward the ring box in my pocket. Didn’t say a word. She fished it out and opened it. I’d forgotten to put the ring in it.
She didn’t flinch. She cried and said “yes.” A little while later I showed her the actual ring I’d stashed in a backpack pocket for safety. Been married four years now…
My wife picked out her engagement ring herself. Our logic was it’s going on your finger for the rest of your life so it should be something you really like. Before you say “OMG that’s not romantic at all!” We’ve been married for almost 36 years in a world where 50% of marriages fail. And we still like and love each other.
My rule of thumb is the more elaborate the proposal the less likely the marriage lasts
I asked my now wife to marry me when we were sitting on our bed. I didn’t even have a ring yet. I was planning on doing it all special on a weekend trip we had coming up. But I decided to ask her sooner because I needed to get her on my dental insurance to get a bunch of work done. We got married, small ceremony and with placeholder rings until her real one arrived. Then when her real one arrived I surprised her with it by pretending to want to look at her nails she just did and I slipped the real ring on her finger.
It wasn’t some crazy romantic proposal but neither of us cared. Neither of us are the type that want some big crazy thing, we love each other and that’s all that matters.
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Went well. Gave her the ring after she came home from seeing her grandma. She was so happy she jumped on me before I even knew what was going on. Haha
They prob are gay and the other guy proposed first.
She brings it up every now and then, but I still see it as an antiquated tradition.
She said yes, it was never an issue. She was super pissed off though when she found out I didn’t ask her father’s permission first.
I did not kneel. When we were dating when giving her things I would say cos your eyes and open your hands.
When i proposed she was on the couch and I came up from behind her and told her to close her eyes and open her hands. That was almost 14 years ago, and we are still going strong.
Divorced now but we had a decent run.
She was quite the tomboy and also pretty non traditional.
So I decided that while I still wanted to put something around her finger, I wasn’t gonna go the normal route.
I told her during the proposal I wasn’t gonna get on my knees cause I wanted a partner, and someone who would watch my back.
Pulled out the box. But it wasn’t a ring box. It was to a handgun.
She loved it (and yes I did get a ring too)
Side note, her father loved it too. Her mom, not so much, though she at least understood
Must be an American thing.
I know of noone who kneeled when proposing.
For me: we were in s church and she said how beautiful it would be to marry her someday. Used the opportunity and said “Why someday? Why not next year?”
She said yes, we then proceeded to have five children together and raise a happy family.
What’s the big deal with kneeling?
Went well! 21 years married and we have 3 kids.
Why would you even kneel to propose?!
My fella would always make the joke to hint he wanted me to propose to him. We were laid on a picnic blanket on the beach that we met. I was waiting for the perfect moment and he says it while his face is covered with my t-shirt. “I wish I could finger your ring”.
I placed the ring on the picnic blanket and lifted up the shirt covering his head. We’ve been engaged for 3 years now
My fella would always make the joke to hint he wanted me to propose to him. We were laid on a picnic blanket on the beach that we met. I was waiting for the perfect moment and he says it while his face is covered with my t-shirt. “I wish I could finger your ring”.
I placed the ring on the picnic blanket and lifted up the shirt covering his head. We’ve been engaged for 3 years now
My brother told me he got up on his elbows actually. And 32 years later still doing well.
We were sitting next to each other on a big rock next to a cliff. No one for a few miles. Proposed. She knew we were getting engaged because we are responsible adults and planned out what we wanted our life together to be like. But when we went on this hike she did not know how much was already in motion. She said yes. ….And then we had sex using the rock as a seat.
7 years later still hopelessly in love. She’s the best decision iv made.
Also rocks aren’t comfy
I pushed her down and made her kneel! Because I am a man baby! Yah!
/s just in case anyone didn’t get that
1 for 2, although the first one that didn’t work out, I ended. Happily married to the second person I proposed to sans kneeling
It worked. Still married after 29 years.
Excellently! I had two close friends help me set up the surprise, and on the set of instructions I gave them it explicitly said “don’t point out that I am not kneeling, it’s on purpose”. My (now) wife got a kick out of that part when she eventually read it, much later.
I built a small treasure chest to hold the engagement ring and rigged it to light up and play the “chest opening” chime from the Legend of Zelda when opened. Suffice it to say, she was not disappointed that kneeling wasn’t involved.
Happily Married.
If you’re required to kneel to prove or demonstrate something that ought to be clear with emotion and compatibility that’s just the beginning of a long road of random and unhelpful expectations.
Didn’t kneel. Tried to get the conversation to go there but each time she would just cut me off and switch to another subject. Eventually I just put it on the table and she goes “oh! We’re exchanging gifts?! Open mine first! Mine is better!”
We’re still married… she still doesn’t listen well, but I love her a little extra, just in case she wasn’t listening the first time.
I’ve proposed twice. The first one, I didn’t bend a knee and she died before we were married. The second one, I didn’t bend and she was cheating the entire time.
Final analysis: don’t get married. Save the money and go places and buy shit
Once she got over the shock she said yes.
I offered to kneel to make it official but we were out in the desert and she thought it was mean to make me.
Proposed with both of us sitting on a porch swing overlooking the lake. It worked for us. Still married.
I married north of the Wall. We do not kneel
I just blurted it out the second it entered my mind.
This August will be 44 years.
Pretty good. I’d always said we weren’t getting married until we had our housing situation sorted. So, the night we finally moved into our own home, after moving and unpacking, we were laying in bed just falling asleep.
So, that was the perfect moment. We’d moved into our house, she was exhausted and emotional from a long day. No way she could say no.
Second anniversary is next week.
We were outside at a mountainside lookout during sunset. We were standing and I said some romantic things and gave her a pendant engagement gift (white gold love knot with ruby centre
peice).
Marriage lasted 3 years (almost 10 in total)
I can’t stand this pathetic ritual…kneeling and then asking.
I explained to my girl that we were going to get married as I put the ring on her finger…
I had taken her on a first-class trip to her favorite place while standing under the moonlight on her favorite beach.
She was blown away, still refers to me as Mr romance as does her friends.
None of her friends or family looked down on this experience of ours as me not being proper because I didn’t get on my knee and ask her.
I think it sets a tone of weakness…all relationships both men and women need to hold up individual self-worth.
They still have the medical insurance for the coverage of any knee injuries
She said yes and then we had sex on the hood of my car lol
It went great! We were at the Aquarium, and I had a diver with a sign come out!
I pulled out the ring at our table for when she turned around. No kneeling until after she said yes, and we posed for photos.
Isn’t this a western cultural practice? You dont have to do things in any specific way, do what you will.
We were standing on a lakeside dock in Pictou, Canada. No one else around. We’d just travelled a few thousand miles through US/CA during Covid meeting all her family and friends (making sure to test so as not to infect everyone) and I asked her if I’d passed the approval test from everyone. She said yes.
I motioned her hand toward the ring box in my pocket. Didn’t say a word. She fished it out and opened it. I’d forgotten to put the ring in it.
She didn’t flinch. She cried and said “yes.” A little while later I showed her the actual ring I’d stashed in a backpack pocket for safety. Been married four years now…
I didn’t kneel and we are still married and happy after 17 years.
I didn’t have to, I got proposed too
My wife picked out her engagement ring herself. Our logic was it’s going on your finger for the rest of your life so it should be something you really like. Before you say “OMG that’s not romantic at all!” We’ve been married for almost 36 years in a world where 50% of marriages fail. And we still like and love each other.
My rule of thumb is the more elaborate the proposal the less likely the marriage lasts
Still married after almost 30 years.
I asked my now wife to marry me when we were sitting on our bed. I didn’t even have a ring yet. I was planning on doing it all special on a weekend trip we had coming up. But I decided to ask her sooner because I needed to get her on my dental insurance to get a bunch of work done. We got married, small ceremony and with placeholder rings until her real one arrived. Then when her real one arrived I surprised her with it by pretending to want to look at her nails she just did and I slipped the real ring on her finger.
It wasn’t some crazy romantic proposal but neither of us cared. Neither of us are the type that want some big crazy thing, we love each other and that’s all that matters.
Great! She proposed to me!