My FIL’s wife has always been an insecure, huge yenta. Can’t understand why someone would not want the same relationship with her that she wants with them, then feeds you guilt about it. Also asks 100 questions, then talks immediately to others about it-I have multiple episodes of proof. So I’ve kept my pleasant distance. Not sure if it’s the menopause, anxiety or depression, or the huge IDGAF anymore after all of the incidences, but my 10 year old daughter came home a few weeks ago and told me that not only she asked her 50 questions about our recent vacation (after the 50th question that was literally, “How was the service at the hotel restaurant?”, and my daughter saying, “that’s enough about the questions”) but she also asked her what she was doing with her real grandmother the next weekend (they often invite grandkids over before or after “big” events that they are looking to gather info for bc we have set limits), when she told her that they were going to the salon and get nails done, she said to my daughter,”I asked you and you said no, why didn’t you want to go with me?!” My daughter came home upset so I sent the yenta this message:
Xxxxx doesn’t remember you asking her if she wanted to do nails a few months ago and saying no She said that you made her feel bad when you brought it up. Please don’t create drama with her and make her feel bad about things anymore. I don’t want to have her coming home and telling me things like this. And please stop comparing to things she does with xxxxx. Xxxxxis also tired of all the questions as well.
No response and apparently SHE is looking for an apology from me, not the other way around. I told my husband I will never give her an apology. He’s angry that I get so upset about these things bc she is just an insecure gossipy person and always will be, so I can’t talk to him about it and he won’t tell me how he feels or even acknowledge that he will take my side. I am so done with his family.
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