My in-laws have not made the effort to interact with my child in the last few months. They haven’t asked me about my pregnancy aside from occasionally asking how I’m doing. Now that I’m close to giving birth with our second child, they’ve been FaceTiming my firstborn every weekend.
I find it to be a little too convenient that all of a sudden they want to be involved grandparents. I don’t want them anywhere near us postpartum. They disrespected me when I was a new mom, kissed my baby and stomped on boundaries. They heavily contributed to my postpartum mental health decline. Thinking about them holding my second baby makes my skin crawl.
I know they’ll have to meet the new baby eventually and I’m ready to enforce my boundaries with more consequences this time but I just wish I didn’t have to see them ever again. Not looking for advice just wanted to rant.
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The amount of women having to deal with this shit is unreal….
What’s different about the second one that suddenly they care – is the new baby expected to be of a different gender
You need to shut this down, before it starts. Otherwise, you’re going to go through hell, possibly for decades. Moms should say exactly what they want.
is it possible they would be expecting to watch your first while you are in labor?
Stop the face timing. That just encourages that they’re making progress and everything is hunky-dory and they can act like the previous stuff never happened.