I have two old high school friends(23f)and(23m)that have become more online friends in these later years.Knew my girl friend for 6 years then reconnected after five,and knew my guy friend for 8 years.Both messaged me first about reconnecting basically saying cause they enjoyed my friendship.My male friend was one of the healthiest relationships in high school when I was very unhealthy.And I had ups and downs with my girl friend,but recently she reached out and did apologize for things she did & is trying to do better.
Now my guy friend and me have been talking longer since reconnecting after 2019.We’ve met up some,but then things got busy for him & he started to move around so we’ve been messaging instead.I thought things were going good,but the times we message/called started to get farther apart until we rarely messaged even.And now it’s difficult to even get a conversation going through.And last we talked on the phone it was me carrying the conversation,and him talking about all his stuff going on.Which would be fine,but he didn’t even bother asking me anything.And it’s just been him send online videos.So now I’m doubting if he’s even interested in talking anymore.He’s a very social guy,but prefers talking in person and just seems he’s only focused on a boyfriend or finding another.
And my girl friend is very recent,and I’m still
feeling out if a friendship would be good.She did a big apology,talked about how glad she is I’m doing better,and is trying to do better herself but still has life struggles similar to me.So I thought we could talk,and understand eachother.And she’s done a lot of info dumping.Which I thought was fine at first cause we were catching up,but she does it a lot especially since she has a lot going on.I get that,but also there’s not a lot of asking me stuff.Majority is her speaking though she will listen when I bring stuff up.
Overall it just feels like I’m an info dumping ground for my guy friend if anything at all,and a trauma dumping ground for my girl friend.Starting feel like my girl friend being kind especially was just her stroking my ego to just do this.They both have a lot going on themselves,so I’m unsure if this is just the case for them because of current circumstances or not😪
TL;DR,Online friends from high school keep info and trauma dumping on me,and barely asking me anything recently.Trying to figure out if there’s a chance this is just a hard time for them,or is this just them using me.