I just need to vent about this piece of work, might delete later.
So my MIL constantly feels the need to criticize me, undermines me, whatever I do she does it better, blah blah. If I make a cake or a dish, she makes it few days later to prove that hers is better, if she comes over she finds a fucking spot or something else to criticize again. I usually ignore her, but sometimes I’m really pissed and I snap. Then she acts like a goddamn victim, and it drives me crazy.
Well, few days ago my husband took our baby (15 months) at her place. I had a driving lesson, then needed to clean the house and rest a bit (I’m 8 weeks pregnant and I’m always tired). Before they went, he showed me something on his phone, and a message from MIL popped up. I guess he told her that he’s coming over with the baby so I can clean in peace, because her message was something like “x (my name) can’t clean properly, I’m gonna show her how to do it” and I was like ???
I don’t know what was his answer, but I’m really tired of her bullshit. Like, is she the only person on Earth who can clean? Also, it’s not like we live in dirt and mess, we just have a toddler and sometimes we don’t bother with picking her toys up because they are going to be all over the place anyway.
I can’t with this bitch.
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Why isn’t your SO shutting that shit down? He should be telling her that that isn’t acceptable
Ask her to tell you if there is anything that you are doing right. Tell her you need encouragement and support, not criticism. Then smile broadly.
Her brain will meltdown as she attempts to think her first positive thought in years…
I don’t know what it is with these people. Is it fear or a complete misunderstanding of what love is? My MIL does the same kind of thing. Sorry you have to deal with it.