I posted a while back about my MIL trying to move in with us – she is now living with my parents temporarily (I hope). My cousins were in town recently and my parents invited us over for a family dinner. Before the dinner MIL pulled my husband aside because she felt she had a really important message that she had to tell him.
For background, our dog just had a lump on his chest biopsied. We are awaiting the results and are of course very worried about our dog. He is young still, and part of the family and the vet said that the lump did not look good.
MIL said that she spoke with her “psychic” friend and the friend told her that the lump is not cancer, but was caused by… our house being too messy/dusty? She told my husband that it’s very important that we take everything out of our house and clean everything thoroughly. She also said that it was the cause of my husbands illnesses and our daughter (our daughter is very healthy and I’m not sure what she’s talking about.
This is completely rude and inappropriate, right?! It felt like a way to blame us for our dog getting sick, criticise our house, and insert herself into our business in a way that we definitely did not ask for! It also feels very upsetting to be commenting on our dog’s diagnosis while we are still waiting for the results. It’s also extra rich coming from her because her apartment was absolutely filthy, hoarder levels of mess. She just recently brought over a box of kid’s books that smelled so moldy, I had to throw them out. Is this as rude and inappropriate as I think it is?
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Yeah, it’s rude, invasive, manipulative, and hypocritical. Weaponizing “psychic messages” to criticize your home and parenting? Classic guilt-trip tactic wrapped in fake concern. Total boundary-stomp.
DH should tell her he got psychic message that she’s going to be moving soon. Then you ask your parents to kick her out.