My husband and I (both late 20s) visited MIL (55) early May. She’s your textbook martyr/energy vampire, visits usually end with a bitter taste in our mouths.
This visit was unusually okay.
However, BIL told us that MIL has been spreading the rumour that I am also pregnant, just like his wife, my SIL. I’m not, there were no hints or ambigous signs during our visit to suggest otherwise, and I don’t look pregnant. She just made it up.
Today, while DH was on a call with her, she asked what our baby’s gender is. That’s when DH confronted her, and he asked why she would even think that we’re expecting a baby. She said: “well, I thought you were”.
DH said we weren’t and hung up the phone shortly. He was furious and so was I. Now we want to go no contact. Only problem is, our vow renewal/wedding celebration is in 2 months. DH promised he won’t let her ruin it with malicious gossip, and then we’ll cut her out of our life.
IDK what I can do at this point.
INFO: DH is good at establishing boundaries, so I have no doubt he’ll come through and actually stop his mom’s madness – either with no contact or confrontation. I’m just not sure if this level of madness can be solved with assertive talks, and I worry about our wedding.:(
INFO2: No, MIL doesn’t have dementia.
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Setting boundaries involves more than asking someone not to do something. You have to follow through with a consequence, like uninviting MIL to your vow renewal.