Y’all. My uncle is the epitome of a crusty butt wipe.
He’s often steps in to help family members, whether financially…or offering his house for shelter in bad weather…or the occasional act of service, etc.
However…he’s also condescending, arrogant, rolls his eyes when certain people (like myself) talk to him, sarcastically nods or mocks, and cuts people off in conversation because he doesn’t want to hear the rest of what you have to say.
If you try and make your point/politely correct him, he gets defensive and raises his voice and YOU always end up losing. And he never apologizes for a single thing. And he chalks that up to “being a man” and “men just have a certain way of communicating” and “I’m a problem solver, I don’t need to hear it all”.
In all my years, I have never met a “man” who acts like that.
Let’s not even get started on how one-sided he is with my dad about caring for my grandma. It’s okay when HE wants to go out/do something for himself. But it’s not okay when my dad asks for a break.
My birthday was a few weeks ago, and I made sure he wasn’t involved in any of the celebrations. And I could tell it hit a nerve.
Side note that’s pertinent to the story: I’ve been on prescribed weight loss injections, which have been amazing. Not only for weight, but also for the mental health aspect. They’ve made me happier, and so unbothered. Things just don’t pluck a nerve like they used to. I’ve mentioned that to family. But PMS ain’t no joke. If something bugs you, it’s gonna bug you. Even with the happiest effects of weight loss injections.
Today, I went to Sam’s Club and had a frustrating experience. So, I was telling my dad & uncle about it. I hadn’t even gotten to the actual story yet. And there my uncle goes, cutting me off and sarcastically mocking “but what happened to the Ozepmic????”
“I’m not on Ozempic”, I say.
He continues to chuckle into a complete belly laugh while he says “Oh but even on the medicine, if something pissed you off, it pisses you off???”
So…I calmly looked at him and said “You want to know what happened, Uncle? I start my period this next week!”
And then I walked away.
I could feel how uncomfortable it made him as he says “Well I didn’t need to know that!!”
So, am I the asshole for telling my uncle that I’m starting my period next week?
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Backup of the post’s body: Y’all. My uncle is the epitome of a crusty butt wipe.
He’s often steps in to help family members, whether financially…or offering his house for shelter in bad weather…or the occasional act of service, etc.
However…he’s also condescending, arrogant, rolls his eyes when certain people (like myself) talk to him, sarcastically nods or mocks, and cuts people off in conversation because he doesn’t want to hear the rest of what you have to say.
If you try and make your point/politely correct him, he gets defensive and raises his voice and YOU always end up losing. And he never apologizes for a single thing. And he chalks that up to “being a man” and “men just have a certain way of communicating” and “I’m a problem solver, I don’t need to hear it all”.
In all my years, I have never met a “man” who acts like that.
Let’s not even get started on how one-sided he is with my dad about caring for my grandma. It’s okay when HE wants to go out/do something for himself. But it’s not okay when my dad asks for a break.
My birthday was a few weeks ago, and I made sure he wasn’t involved in any of the celebrations. And I could tell it hit a nerve.
Side note that’s pertinent to the story: I’ve been on prescribed weight loss injections, which have been amazing. Not only for weight, but also for the mental health aspect. They’ve made me happier, and so unbothered. Things just don’t pluck a nerve like they used to. I’ve mentioned that to family. But PMS ain’t no joke. If something bugs you, it’s gonna bug you. Even with the happiest effects of weight loss injections.
Today, I went to Sam’s Club and had a frustrating experience. So, I was telling my dad & uncle about it. I hadn’t even gotten to the actual story yet. And there my uncle goes, cutting me off and sarcastically mocking “but what happened to the Ozepmic????”
“I’m not on Ozempic”, I say.
He continues to chuckle into a complete belly laugh while he says “Oh but even on the medicine, if something pissed you off, it pisses you off???”
So…I calmly looked at him and said “You want to know what happened, Uncle? I start my period this next week!”
And then I walked away.
I could feel how uncomfortable it made him as he says “Well I didn’t need to know that!!”
So, am I the asshole for telling my uncle that I’m starting my period next week?
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NTA, uncle sounds like he needs constant validation to feel like a “man”, but hes generally such a man child. just reading this made me feel so annoyed at the uncle. plus, he’s an adult, he should know that women experience periods and he shouldnt be grossed out by that. anyways, what does the rest of the family think of his actions ? do they support it or find it annoying ?
NTA, if he’s going to pry, he can fuck around and find out.
NTA, Fuck him and all entitled men.
Me & your uncle would be at eachothers throats constantly because I don’t put up with that shit.
Girl NTA. First of all, having a period is not something we need to keep secret in order to protect the men folk. Second, I know if I were you I’d be getting glee out of making this old jerk uncomfortable as often as I could. It’s so funny how the men who think of themselves as super logical “problem solvers” are so often the most emotional lil babies on the planet.
The first sentence of your post had me rolling.
NTA
NTA
Keep those comments up and maybe he’ll learn to STFU!
NTA. FAFO
NTA it sounds like you need to put him in his place and embarrass and or make him uncomfortable. Clearly, that’s what works on shutting him up. I will never understand how when people stand up for themselves they feel like they’re the AH or need to be the “bigger person.”
I always say if they wanna go low, you take it to hell.
Please put the whole man in the trash bin. He sounds awful
I am about to go all PMDD on you uncle, if you don’t know what it is, your smart ass should, but if not, LOOK IT UP, you’re about to get crushed by it!
Definitely not! Your uncle sounds like my brother. A narcissistic sociopath.
I love this!
NTA.
Frankly, I hope that was just the beginning of you calling him on his ego and making him uncomfortable.
Not an asshole but definitely should try to not get upset and telling others very personal stuff. I get that pms is brutal, mines been insane since having a baby but definitely should try to keep your emotions in check.
NTA.
But you reinforced his male-centric belief that women’s periods make us weak, and, by extension, men are stronger. Don’t engage with assholes.