My in laws want to come see my 3 month old twins this weekend and we are moving. They have been in town before and not visited but have chosen this weekend, knowing it’s our busiest weekend of the year. My husband said they wouldn’t be asked to help as they’re in their 70s. My parents, however, are helping and have helped us box up everything. I can’t ask my ILs to watch the kids because my mother in law tried to kiss them the one time she met them, rubbed her face on one twin even though we were requiring masks, tried to scratch cradle cap off one twin’s eyebrows and left a lingering sore, and then dropped her phone on the other twin. The whole time, she complained about having to wear a mask even though the girls were 5 lbs and it was flu season. She’s just not someone I’d trust with my child.
Am I being unreasonable to not want them there? Just the idea of them coming for “tourism” when everyone else is doing “mission work” that weekend is driving me insane, especially when they were in town two weeks ago and didn’t even bother to come by.
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This isn’t a weekend for entertaining guests. Since they want to be hosted, and you’re not available for that, they can’t visit this weekend.
Not being unreasonable. You will be way too busy to visit, they can’t be trusted with the babies, and they won’t help. What’s the point?
You sound perfectly reasonable to me.
Send your parents and the twins to a nice hotel/motel that has a pool.
That will provide a nice “thank you“ to your parents, and get the twins out of your hair while you are moving. It also has a side benefit of keeping your in-laws away from the babies.
Since your husband wants to make proclamations about what Will and will not happen, busy yourself with packing and let him entertain his folks. When they are in HIS way, he will change his tune.
Where are you having the twins while you’re moving? Take them to your parents house while the inlaws visit your spouse.
Tell your husband, since they are guests, they can come when you are ready and able to entertain. So not this weekend.
If they aren’t helping they will just be in the way.