Not in a movie-villain way. I mean emotionally, socially, or physically. What are subtle red flags or behaviors you’ve picked up on early that made you feel like a guy wasn’t safe to be around or trust?
What are signs that a man is “dangerous”?
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Displays of anger, resentment, etc. Little passive aggressive jabs followed by “I’m just kidding! God you’re so serious.” Also any kind of negging or pick up artist bs is a huge red flag. And finally, while confidence can be hot, arrogance is always a flimsy armor for the dangerously insecure.
closing doors or slaming car doors really fucking loudly: is aggressive, violent
It was a slow progress, early into us dating, but he constantly asked where I was and who I was with, what we were doing. He’d randomly show up wherever I said I was. He became very controlling and it led to physical abuse.
If he tries to humble you, if he talks to much about himself and doesn’t ask you anything, if he keeps bragging about how much money he’s got, if he insist on the first date to just Netflix and chill, if he doesn’t text you back atleast within 24-48 hours or doesn’t have a valid reason for not calling or texting you back within a certain time frame, if he views gift giving as a means to gain access to you, if he makes you pay for all the dates, if he acts like one person in public and another behind closed doors, and those are to just name a few
Say “no” to something he expects you to say yes or go along with and see how he reacts.
All his exes are crazy! (Unaware of common denominator)
When every woman in their past is a villain, and he has no idea why they’re all so crazy.
Depending on their post history,
Either op is an AI bot in training.
Or has a small mid life crisis
The way he talks about his exes. If he’s pessimistic or “hates people.”
Emotional highs and lows all the time. You’re over the moon one minute, sobbing the next. It’s no way to live.
boundary pushing (this is a big one, you shouldn’t have to say “no” twice to anything), poor emotional regulation (angry outbursts over tiny things), proud of high risk behaviors, like boasting over how black out drunk he’s gotten or how he punched a hole in a wall. generally they’re just full of high-risk behaviors like the drinking, fighting/violent outbursts, driving intoxicated or speeding, etc.
They were born in a red state, the entitlement is insane.
I always have to fix my “attitude” and actions but he never has to change
Can’t take an obvious hint or read body language when someone is uncomfortable. Can’t take no for an answer.
Moving too fast, love bombing, “whirl wind romance,” saying I love you and talking of the future(marriage, kids, etc) within the first few months, trying to move in before at least a year passes, all their exes are “crazy.”
That’s off the top of my head.
If they say you’re too sensitive, you can take a joke, you don’t have a sense of humor etc
Men who can’t take a joke and get defensive or pissed off easily are a huge red flag. If small things make them moody, it’s not worth sticking around to see how they’ll react to a real problem
HAS to see himself as the smartest person in the room no matter how educated or intelligent the company
They downplay shitty behavior by other men.
They deny or downplay the role of sexism in current society.
“Females”
Ignoring or testing your boundaries, pushing you to do things you don’t want to, inability to control anger, controlling who you can and can’t hang out with, or jealousy. If you add in external stressors like losing a job, or you threatening to leave, even more dangerous, statistically.