As you mature you learn that love requires action and it’s a choice not just a feeling inside.
A lot of people are stuck with it only being a feeling. That feeling especially in the early stages is mostly lust not love. Love is giving without expecting in return, it’s committing, it’s calling you out on your shit, it’s caring and kind, it’s so many things. Sadly its meaning is different for everyone and it’s rare to find someone whom shares your view on it.
It’s less skipping through fields and more having someone that occupies a huge part of your life that would leave a massive void if they weren’t there.
Honestly, the older I get the more I’ve realized this concept of a ‘unconditional love’ is a facade. At some point you move past this Disney fairytale line of thinking and find everything comes with an expectation.
For men, you’re expected to have a decent job, your own place, a car etc..be put together at some capacity. And then everything else is transactional. You do this, she gives you that.
I’m not calling anyone a gold digger but love doesn’t pay the bills. I’d even say it’s my fault for Romanticizing relationships in this ‘lovey dovey’ nature.
When I was younger I thought it was more of a poetic fairytale thing that suddenly manifests on its own or you get awestruck by someone. But now that I’m older it’s more about caring or being devoted and having someone who will still care for you regardless of your situation and not choking to death or slipping in my shower while being alone in my apartment.
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That love = care
You don’t always have to be around a person, or even talk to them, but you can still love them
It’s about serving the other person and being served by the other person
Yes! And I think it’s because I have more realistic expectations now and I had time to get to know myself
Its less fairytale like.
You don’t need to do anything or feel amazing all the time.
Love is a choice.
You wake up and choose to do things for another person without caring if it benefits you or not
It’s less selfish and more about commitment.
As you mature you learn that love requires action and it’s a choice not just a feeling inside.
A lot of people are stuck with it only being a feeling. That feeling especially in the early stages is mostly lust not love. Love is giving without expecting in return, it’s committing, it’s calling you out on your shit, it’s caring and kind, it’s so many things. Sadly its meaning is different for everyone and it’s rare to find someone whom shares your view on it.
It’s less skipping through fields and more having someone that occupies a huge part of your life that would leave a massive void if they weren’t there.
Love is active, not passive. And more importantly: Love is about YOU, not the other person.
I used to think love was about finding the ‘perfect’ person. Now I know it’s about growing with someone, through both the easy and the hard parts
Honestly, the older I get the more I’ve realized this concept of a ‘unconditional love’ is a facade. At some point you move past this Disney fairytale line of thinking and find everything comes with an expectation.
For men, you’re expected to have a decent job, your own place, a car etc..be put together at some capacity. And then everything else is transactional. You do this, she gives you that.
I’m not calling anyone a gold digger but love doesn’t pay the bills. I’d even say it’s my fault for Romanticizing relationships in this ‘lovey dovey’ nature.
When I was younger I thought it was more of a poetic fairytale thing that suddenly manifests on its own or you get awestruck by someone. But now that I’m older it’s more about caring or being devoted and having someone who will still care for you regardless of your situation and not choking to death or slipping in my shower while being alone in my apartment.