I was talking about some issues and I’ve never discussed something sexual with her ever even though we’ve discussed many many deep issues before. But I said something about an incident that happened in the bedroom and she did look slightly scandalized for a second but then she got over it in a second.
But now I feel tooooooo fucking weird and I feel super embarrassed to go back for another session. I know that we will be unpacking a lot more serious and twisted things about me in the future but I don’t know how to move on from this.
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I know it isn’t easy but I think you need to either own it, embrace it and go in there all ‘well if that surprised you wait until you hear this…’
Or
Find another therapist.
I think a therapist is someone you should never feel bad about over sharing to as it is kind of the point of what they do and I bet there was a reason for why you shared. She will also be aware of how you feel and likely aware of the look on her face.
Good luck!
Edited: spelling
A seasoned therapist has heard people openly say they were SA’d by their fathers, brothers, bosses, and siblings.
A seasoned therapist has heard extremely graphic details of every orifice, fantasy, feeling, and infidelity.
I’m guessing they did not mean to appear judgemental. They’ve heard it all and worse.
I’m a therapist – please tell her about your reactions to this, especially that she seemed “scandalized.” We’re human too and sometimes things surprise or shock us, even though, yes, we’ve heard just about everything (it’s also possible that you were projecting a bit onto her if the incident is something you feel weird about already). If she’s been a good therapist overall then this shouldn’t ruin anything and you two can process what that was like for you to share that. I really appreciate it when a client talks directly with me about an issue or their feelings about a sensitive moment in a session, rather than ghosting the therapy.
I’ve been in that situation before, it’s like walking into a room full of mirrors when you’re not prepared for a close-up! But hey, therapists are trained ninjas, they see all, hear all, and forget nothing… unless they’re taking that little blue pill. And even then, not really.
is it even possible to overshare with a therapist?
I used to avoid talking about sex with my therapist but it turns out it’s actually extremely helpful. I don’t generally get into graphic detail but the context it provides is also really helpful for the care she provides.
Is that not what a therapist is for?