It was a different time then. Now that I’m older and have distance from it, I’m ready to talk. Whether you’re curious about what it was like navigating teen pregnancy in the 90s, how people around me reacted, where the father is now, how it affected my family
Thank you everyone for such a positive experience! I hope it helped you as much as it helped me. Big hugs to all of the kids of young moms, you’re out there doing your best with the life you were given and I’m proud of you! Maybe I’ll get my daughter to do one from her perspective!
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Are you okay I mean I know in the past people looked at grooming differently and age gaps but damn
What was your families initial reaction?
Do you have a relationship with anyone in your family now?
Did you keep the child? How did it alter the trajectory of your life and what relationship does the father have with you and the child today?
Did you consent?
Did you keep the baby? Did you stay in touch with the father. I’m sorry, no matter how it turned out you derserved to have the high school experience. You should have reunions and prom.
Do you have a relationship with the child and or the father. Does your family as well? His family?
What were some of the most difficult parts of being a parent at such a young age?
What are some important lessons you learned as a result that you few you would not have learned otherwise?
How did you afford to take care of your child? Who helped you out?
How was it raising your child and going to school at the same time? Is the father involved?
How and where did you meet him? Were you ever in love with him?
Did you attend high school with a visible bump? Did you graduate high school (or beyond eventually)? Were you able to eventually date someone your own age while in high school with a child? Did you have other teen parents attending school with you if you stayed?
Was the relation hypergamous?
Are you still in contact with him
Are you still with the father? How are things with the child?
What is your relationship like with your child now? Are you close? Did you have help raising your child, like parents helping and what not?
My mother got pregnant with me at 15 and gave birth to me when she was 16 in 1991. She was with a few different men, some older, some closer to her age as I was growing up. She didn’t have much help raising me(I’m her first born)and my siblings. She was an addict and alcoholic. Untreated mental illnesses. I was taken from her at the age of 7, my father got custody of me. I think I have a post in my profile that tells a story of my last memory of her. But if you decide to read it, fair warning, it’s about her death and it’s a bit triggering. You don’t have to read it. Just wanted to mention it.
I didn’t get a chance to get to know her and it’s always been very hard for me, cause I remember loving her so much and her loving me.
Do you still talk to the guy?
My mom got pregnant with me at 15, my dad was 18. It was ‘95. They were the last two awake at a party and she had a crush on him. I was born in ‘96 and my mom was 16. I was adopted for the first few days of my life but my family unfortunately went to pick me up and brought me back. She was trouble before me but after me she struggled with drugs and even OD’d a few times. She still struggles today, she just got out of jail in March.
Do you feel like there was a huge struggle?
How many kids do you have now?
What do you and your kid love doing the most?
Also, favorite food?
How old is your kid now? Are they okay? How’s your relationship with them?
Where is the father now?
What was the con that he used on you?
What was it like being pregnant while in high school? Did people give you a lot of snide comments and or did they just leave you alone?
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What do you think of the tv show 16 & pregnant?
As someone that also became a mom at 15 I applaud you! It’s not easy specially when you have little to no help.
I am a child of this exact situation. My mum was 15 when she got pregnant and my father was in his 20’s. Australia.
I was also in the same age gap as you (did not get pregnant) and dated my older ex boyfriend for most of high school and once I grew up a little and I looked back on it it made me repulsed. I can’t even understand what he saw in me being 8 years older than me, it actually is quite traumatic the trajectory it put me on to escape that relationship. I think in my 15 year old brain I actually wanted a family with him, even in high school. My whole idea of love was messed up.
In my senior year I was introduced to a girl from another school and ended up dating her for a little bit and taking her to my prom. I found out later she had had a baby at 15 and her parents decided to raise it as her little sister, since the parents were still young themselves. I can’t imagine what it was like for her, and I was too immature back then to appreciate it in any event. Anyways, good job navigating that major life challenge, and still becoming successful.
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