Dr.sherrie on IG
“When you marry into a low-effort family, the lack of warmth, support, and emotional engagement can be jarring. You may feel like an outsider, expected to accept surface-level interactions while deeper needs go unmet.
Over time, their indifference can take a toll, unless you set clear boundaries and protect the peace you’re building in your own home.
Today we’re going to talk about what happens when you marry into a low effort family. You become the outsider to the system and the system does not know what to do with you and very often they will turn on you. But make no mistake the system was already fragile. You are not the cause and source of the problems. Low effort families survive on low expectations, unspoken rules, and emotional minimalism. When you come in with family standards, emotional presence, or god forbid, boundaries, they do not see this as a sign of strength. They see it as a threat. So whether you want this role or not you become the mirror to the dysfunction you reflect everything they’ve been avoiding, the favoritism, the silence, the neglect, the manipulation, and instead of facing that truth they label you as the problem. You’re too sensitive. You’re disruptive and you’re not one of us. The pushback you feel is going to look like them excluding you talking over gossiping about you behind closed doors, especially after or if your partner starts setting boundaries on them as well because to them, preserving dysfunction is far more comfortable than any type of evolving process. I want to remind you that you’re not causing the problems, you’re simply refusing to enable them and that is really powerful. You’re showing your partner a new template for family, one built on effort, reciprocity, and real connection. So if you’ve married into a low effort family and you feel like the enemy for simply existing with boundaries,
you are not wrong.
You’re just aware.
And that is your therapy for the day.
Hope you can use it well.”
Dr.sherrie on IG httpsf://www.instagram.com/reel/DJuAkJiup3C/?igsh=MW1uYmphMXN5cmFu
I saw a video on IG that I just REALLY needed to hear and I had to share bc I’m sure so many ppl in this group are experiencing this. 🫶