Ignoring my MIL doesn’t seem to work.
She’s a little delusional and has poor judgment. When I ignore her, she still thinks everything is fine between us.
She doesn’t know how to read the room. And while ignoring her gives me peace of mind, I don’t like that she thinks there’s still hope like she randomly expects to come see my baby. Even though I’ve been mistreated, she doesn’t see it or believe it.
For example, her daughter threw a water bottle at my stomach while I was pregnant and pushed me after an argument. She behaved like a child, even though she’s older than me. MIL thinks that behavior is normal, but if her daughter complains that I don’t talk to her, then suddenly MIL thinks I’m the problem.
I don’t talk to her daughter because she physically assaulted me while I was pregnant. But MIL overlooks that completely and only sees an issue because I’m not talking to her child.
Because of all this, I’ve decided to permanently ignore MIL. But she keeps acting like she’s on good terms with me especially when she talks to my husband which makes me feel gaslit. Now my husband thinks the issue is one sided because she pretends to love me in front of him.
I need advice. I don’t think continuing to ignore her is helping her understand that I want nothing to do with her. I feel like I need to say it verbally, make it clear, and then cut her off for good.
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“MIL, due to your treatment of me and the fact that you condoned your daughter physically assaulting me while I was pregnant, combined with everything else that has happened during my marriage, I will be going no contact with you effective immediately. This means that you will not receive texts calls, emails letters or social media posts from me. I will be blocking you on all platforms and devices. You may not come visit my home as you are not welcome here. You will also not have any contact with my children. Do not attempt to contact me or reach out to me in anyway.”