I am a woman and I have always envied how quickly the men around me form friendships. What’s the secret??
How do men become friends with each other so quickly?
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I am a woman and I have always envied how quickly the men around me form friendships. What’s the secret??
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Just nod 🙂↕️
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How many times do I have to say, it is what it is
Its not that deep for us
Exactly, you saud it; envy. Women envy all the time other women, they check each other all the time. Friendship in them is frequently a false thing to get entertainment and avoid loneliness.
Anyways, friendship takes years to develope. What you see is not true friendship.
We literally connect or laugh over one thing and if you a good dude that’s it. Friends.
If we vibe, we vibe 😎😎
Because we usually don’t get too close and don’t overthink it when we click
Guys have a natural tendency to see other men as potential comrades vs women who view other women as adversaries / competition. People are gonna hate on this comment but it’s just the truth.
We’re not that deep and easy to please. We don’t need to know everything about each other in order to be friends. Low barrier to entry, low maintenance, and no drama.
One shared experience is usually plenty bonding for a baseline friendship. Don’t overthink it — we know each other’s names (optional), did thing together, vibe was fine, we’re friends now.
Men enter into light friendships much easier, but deep friendships with more difficulty.
Pluto Let’s GOOOO! Not only with men.
Usually it happens through shared wins, mutual interests, or deep insights. Team-based video games are a great example. When we work together and beat the other team, it creates a bond. We just accomplished something together and had each other’s backs, which builds respect and trust.
From there, the friendship either deepens or we start teasing each other about our quirks and interests. Playful roasting is part of how we connect. We’re also usually blunt and direct. For example, someone might say, “Come on, dude, lock in, you’re playing like shit.” But we don’t take it personally. We take it as accountability and step up, because being called out means you’re included and expected to contribute.
Shared responsibility strengthens the connection. That’s why friendships form quickly in environments like sports teams or military units—when you have to rely on each other, trust builds fast.
We just need one thing in common, and it can be pretty much anything.
I think a lot of us are content if that other person ain’t a douchebag right out the gate
It’s not that hard. Find common interests. I also engage with them about their interests. One of my best friends loves skating and punk music. I’m not a huge fan or have deep knowledge of either. But I listen intently when he’s geeking out about them.
I also think it’s easier for me because of the military. You are forced to live, eat and, work together with people from vast backgrounds. This makes it easier to make friends.
Being friendly and vibing isnt the same as being friends. Will i have a pint with a random dude and laugh like old friends? Sure.
Will i help this prick move the next day? No fucking chance.
We are dangerous to one another. Best to extend a hand in peace to alleviate the tension.
Probably because men don’t make demands.
Friendship means watching a movie and splitting a pizza.
As soon as you start asking for more… imposing your will… demanding time, insisting on loyalty… feeling hurt and betrayed when you aren’t included in every activity… then you aren’t really looking for a friend. You’re looking for a servant.
Because we literally don’t care if you’re wearing the same outfit that we chose for the same event.
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If guys have one thing in common they can talk about it forever and bond. We don’t look into things too much, are non-judgemental for the most part and just easy to be around when we get along.
Women make friends much easier according to a few studies.
Shared interests. That’s how men bond. We’re often into things more than people and simply like talking (and problem solving) about those things.
My secret for making good friends fast, whether male or female, is to treat everyone I meet like we’re already friends.
Have the confidence to be their friend first and they will likely follow suit and be your friend back.
One way to get people to like you and want to be friendly is to take an interest in what interests them and showing enthusiasm for what they bring to the world. As long as somebody has some interest going for them that’s good enough for me. Of course some people really seem to have nothing to express, nothing interesting they’ve learned or read or even watched on televsion recently and so on. I have a hard time showing much positive interest in people like that.
Dale Carnegie wrote a book about being interested in other people. You’ve probably heard of it.
Probably just wired that way
Anyways, low emotional vulnerability and an understanding of what’s generally acceptable.
It’s not really friendship, it’s just that men expect other men to behave in certain ways and they’ll generally get called out on it when they don’t. If one of my friends treats a random dude like shit (who didn’t deserve it), I’m not obligated to take his side. I’m going to tell him to stop being an ass, and we’ll both get on with life.
So you sniff each other’s butts (vibe check), and then just pretend that you’re better friends than you really are while avoiding topics that we’d all rather not talk about with strangers.
Real friendships take longer.
We don’t let our idea of other men orbit around their flaws.