Weather it’s friendship or romance – I frequently see people say they want their partner/companions to be ‘funny’ and that’s what they find desirable
My issue with this is the conceptual framing – what’s “Funny” or not is completely subjective, most people think (Or know, rather) that they’re funny according to their own sensibilities, even if they generally lack the social skills to deliver their humor in an encapsulating way they still do (and neurologically, have to) think what they find is funny
I think a better framing for this is “I like people who are humorous” I.e. – has a social framework that enables jokes to be made and told – in my experience, how funny something is mostly based on the atmosphere, how funny anything is is usually based on the when and the energy in which it’s said. Still highly subjective but there’s *generally* universal ways to determine this – if somebody laughs easily and validates your own sense of humor, that’s a better metric than “They say things that generally make me laugh” because that person sets an atmosphere where humor is conductive, or the ability to self-deprecate without coming off as insecure.
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To me, the fact that it’s subjective is kind of the point. It’s a sign of shared interests and indicates that we can communicate ideas to each other effectively
OP says “umm actually” way too much.