A bully who specifically picks on that one person and only that person often got some infatuation for them. The bullies are obviously jealous of their victims. It can be because the bully finds them more talented than them, better looking than them, or about other things.
It’s true. Bullies often self project their own insecurities on their victims. The bully then becomes a stalker to their victim, constantly bullying, almost feels like the bully wants their attention and wants to be notice by them badly.
And most of the time, the bullies after maturity will admit their envy or jealousy for their victim, and their envy can be rooted by secret admiration. Similar to how Instagram have monitoring spirits. That’s what bullies are.
Bullies do this when they really like someone deep down. We’ve seen it in elementary school when that one boy would mess with that girl in her class all the time, and the girl thinks he’s mean and not a nice person, but that boy only bullied her because he likes her and doesn’t have a way to express himself.
As a man, I had women in my childhood who admitted later on when we got older that they bullied or treated me horribly in school, and only with me because they had a crush on me and didn’t know how to express it well. Or another guy was a bully to me in school because I can draw better than him, and he used to try to put me down for no reason. And I didn’t even know the guy well or didn’t have class with him. He just targeted me for nothing. Then that’s when a classmate said he was hating because I was a better artist. And he used to spy on what I was drawing or making.
Bullies are stalkers who become obsessed with their victims. They need to be studied, because it’s always rooted in insecurity and jealousy. And jealousy and envy is derived from admiration.
This might not be a true unpopular opinion, but from my own experience. Most of my bullies admit to me much later in life that they always admired me hard for something but surprised it with envy and jealousy. Any thoughts?
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I kind of agree. But maybe the victim also reminds them of their own insecurities, and in that case there might not be any envy or infatuation involved.
I dont know what bullies you dealt with, most bullies dont even think aboit their victims. They always see it as a bit of horseplay. Thats why teachers usually let them get away with it. They assume you’re over reacting
Most of the time bullies don’t even think about what they say or do as they subconsciously don’t see the other person as a fellow human that deserves respect or kindness because there is something wrong in their brain that is blocking any kind of normal empathy
Rarely. Everything you said is the case.
I have doubts on that
After reading the comments, we’re just romanticising and fictionalising bullies and their actions