Hello (27M) I’m looking for advice on how to get rid of my humiliation and degradation kink.
I started noticing that I was into humiliation and degradation ever since I was 14. I would watch porn videos or read hentai mangas that had a very attractive dominant woman humiliating and degrading a submissive man. The more humiliation and degradation is in porn the more aroused I become.
I have never had a woman humiliate and degrade me in real life simply because I never had a girlfriend.
So can you please help me get rid of this kink?
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You can’t chose what you’re into. It’s not illegal so why bother ?
Can somebody please tell me what could be the source of having such kinks?
Therapy, something happened which cause this self hate. Do you remember what event caused it?
This is not a problem, some women are into it too. But porn addiction may be a problem…
See a counselor. First step is wanting to get rid of it.
Okay so just some honest advice, stop listening to people in the comments telling you to embrace this “kink”.
This clearly stems from you being insecure and having a porn addiction. In most cases, porn addictions can literally make you think you are attracted to something or have a “kink” when you really don’t. You know this is wrong and something you want to change, so I suggest seeking therapy. It will help a lot so that you can work through your insecurities.
I think step one is to stop watching porn. That shit is poison to your masculinity.
Ur all good bro, it’s normal, much more than we would like to think😂 you say you’ve never had a gf, idk if you mean you have had sex but especially if you haven’t, vanilla will be more than satisfying. I find that a man being “dom” is actually a form of submission which really gets me going rather than towards the extremes of it. Think of submission to service of pleasure even if on paper you’re on top. Regardless, many women, especially as they get older, are happy to be dominant in bed.
However, they won’t like to hear it, but a lot of women who want to dom men (and the other way) are very narcissistic and will bring that mindset outside of the bedroom. It’s better just to steer clear dating people like that for sexual pleasure unless you have a good read on people and get lucky.
I forbid you to watch humiliation porn you lowlife nerd. Otherwise i’ll tie you up and whip you like the bad boy you are.
Genuine advice: start by cutting out porn. /.r/nofap and therapy go a long way.
But then you have to think about why you want to get rid of your kink altogether instead of, you know, finding a healthy outlet for it?
You can’t help that you have this kind, and imo it’s akin to conversion therapy for gays or ABA for autists. You can probably “pavlov” the behaviour out of yourself, but I doubt that’ll leave you happy, healthy and fulfilled.
Instead, work on finding healthy ways of interacting with it. Safe ways to cope. Safe ways to talk about it.
I was going to say, a kink or fetish that doesn’t hurt anyone really is nothing to be ashamed of, but in your case it’s disgusting and you should shame yourself to death you filthy pig. 😉 /j
Best of luck!
I’ve read the comments. You say you’re insecure. That’s your sign to give up porn for a long time. You need to build up your own confidence by yourself. What gets your mind going without watching? You’ve stated you fear when you have a gf you dont want this to interfere and you’d rather vanilla. I’m F 28 and if my husband went vanilla on me I’d cry😅. Don’t completely change who you are in hopes of being excepted by someone. Widen your mind and thoughts.
You can’t change what you’re into, you can make sex much easier without your kinks by no watching porn