I {12} am so sick of of older men who are 20-40 hitting on me. I want it to stop.

r/

I talked with my mother about how much it bothers me and it makes her REALLY angry. I am mature for my age and. I often see men staring at me, looking at my butt, winking at me. One guy checked me out asked for my number and my mother told him off, one guy said I was beautiful and I said thank you awkwardly, then after that another guy who looked very very old said he wanted to marry me. I don’t mind compliments from friends or close people in my life saying I’m beautiful. It makes my day. It bothers me ALOT that old guys are lusting over me when I walk outside and It bothers my mother too. YUCK !!!

Comments

  1. RemarkableJoke3186 Avatar

    Uhh, you’re 12, this is an odd case. Idek what to say

    this is prolly above reddits pay grade, I hope someone can help. I’m really sorry that this is happening

  2. Vegan_Digital_Artist Avatar

    Call them pedophiles to their face. “hey thanks for outing yourself as a pedo. i’m 12”

  3. NecessaryCaptain3656 Avatar

    It’s good that you’re angry. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this. The world is a sick place. You’re a kid, you should be concerned with kid things. I’m really sorry

  4. fr4gge Avatar

    What country are you in where this is happening?

  5. Turbulent-Power-5514 Avatar

    It happens to my daughter all the time, she started developing at 10, and now at 13 she has a woman’s body. It happened with my eldest daughter too who is now 23. It seems ridiculous that they could mistake her for a grown woman when she was 10-16, but now she gets ID’d for energy drinks.
    Your mum can’t be there to step in on your behalf the whole time. So I suggest just saying “I’m 12 and this is making me uncomfortable-please stop.”

    Try not to show your disgust because that can be dangerous.

  6. This_Cauliflower1986 Avatar

    I’m 12. Please stop. You are making me uncomfortable.

    Say it loudly and walk away.

  7. Scott_4560 Avatar

    How is this a regular thing? Are they that blatantly obvious about it? Blows my mind.

  8. notmyrealnamepapi Avatar

    Just wait until you find out that the majority of men are like this. The younger the better for them. The only reason they don’t go lower than 18 is because of the age of consent.

  9. MissyCharlie Avatar

    I actually had the same thing happen to me when I was your age, also by cops! I always pretended like they were air and made sure I was surrounded by people.

  10. No-Boat-1536 Avatar

    I Am 12. What is wrong with you?

  11. Ok_Masterpiece_9321 Avatar

    Happened to me too. I’m 32 now.
    Please don’t ever fall for it and learn to say no strongly. Don’t be afraid to hurt them (emotionally and physically) if necessary.
    My mom always ignored this issue (she is very bad at confronting and ignorance is bliss for her…), so I didn’t realise that this is very wrong and problematic. I also had no father, so I longed for male attention.
    I didn’t want to have a sexual relationship with older men. I just didn’t know how to stop them. I learned to say no the hard way.

  12. Sea-Ad9057 Avatar

    Next time ask them if everyone knows they are a pedophile

  13. 3kids_nomoney Avatar

    I’m convinced you ARE a professional cat cos no 11/12 yr old kid writes and posts on Reddit like you do. 🤨

    If this does happen – give a disgusted look and be loud when you say EWWW…

  14. Thekiddankie Avatar

    I was about to call bullshit until I saw you were in South Africa… Be safe out there!