I’ve recently started therapy to address issues with myself so that I can live a happier life and not self sabotage my relationship. Today at 7am, I was reading a post about relationship OCD and the obsession over cheating, and marked off behaviours that affect me. This was meant to go to my therapist, to prepare for our next session in 3 days. I try my best to not let these thoughts manifest into behaviours, and I feel I’ve been doing a good job at combatting them with logic and open conversations in the relationship.
Whenever I open my messages app, I usually click on my chat with my LDR girlfriend. So without thinking, I sent the screenshot to her. My phone didn’t allow me to Undo Send for that message, so I had to just swallow it and accept that she’s going to see that screenshot. I sent her a massive paragraph about how I do not believe she is cheating, but that I want to address this fear so that I can handle it without it affecting my behaviours. Im worried that this may cause her to get anxious about our relationship, when this is an issue solely in my head. I was hoping to solve this insecurity cleanly, but that clearly can’t happen. As a disclaimer, in no way do I think she is cheating on me. At all. She reassures me constantly and we have check ins to make sure both of our needs are being met, which they are. Something like this has happened where I sent something to her that was related to my OCD and I didn’t handle it well. I’m shitting my pants right now and I’m worried this is going to cause her anxiety to flare up when she needs that least right now.
TL;DR, I sent a post about relationship OCD (cheating obsession) to my girlfriend instead of my therapist by accident and now I’m shitting my pants
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Oof. Tough one. Good relationship test though. How well does she handle knowing that you talk about her in therapy?
I’d be mortified if I sent that message. Super embarrassing, but I bet it works out in the end. You’re opening up. Either GF values that and you guys grow together, or she acts immature and you get some insight into how she handles surprise emotions. Hunker down for the short term fall out and hope for some healthy long term growth.
I’m starting to wonder about these “I accidentally texted my therapist” posts. Who has a number for their therapist?
Honestly, that you two have check ins about if your needs are getting met and that you are independently seeking help to better yourself and how you show up as a partner is attractive. It was a mistake and I sure would extend you grace.
I suffer the same thing and it’s come close to ruining my marriage. Do you have any tips? I haven’t been able to figure out what’s wrong with me and I can’t afford therapy (no insurance).