So there was a girl some time ago that would call me a pussy for wearing gloves in the gym. I figured she is just a dumbass. Today, I had two female “friends” and one started calling me a girl and a pussy out of nowhere jokingly (or probably bullying) and the other one nodding in agreement. Well, the one girl who started saying this really unnecessarily is a bully but I wonder why people reach this conclusion about me. What could I be doing wrong that is so unmanly?
What is a man? Called by women that I am a girl and a pussy
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You’re probably too polite. You probably ask before you do things and look for permission and validation. A lot of the times people are reeking of low self-esteem and low self-worth.
If girls are calling you pussy, you must be a pussy. Unless they are obviously joking with you. Just say I am what I eat haha and wink at them.
You need to get better friends. Wearing gloves in the gym does not make you a pussy. You’re probably not doing anything unmanly, they are just assholes
Next time one comments on your workout gloves, tell her you’re keeping your hands soft for her and wiggle two fingers in the air.
That comment is a reflection of how this woman thinks she can hurt you. And women being the creatures they are, they’ll find something they think/know you’re already insecure about.
Beyond that, it has nothing to do with reality, so don’t worry about it too much.
yeah id start over with a new set of friends
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Sounds to me like you may need thicker skin. Ditch the gloves and build those callouses my dude
Gloves in gym omg noo shame!!! /j
Duh. Why do drummers wear gloves. Why do rugby players wear gloves? .
I wore em In the gym is because calluses due to prior mentioned and umm some folks dont clean the damn handle bars.
Sounds like you’re a bit of a wimp, I mean the fact that you actually posted this on reddit confirms that
Well they are bitches
If someone is going to make a jab against you for your equipment while at a gym, should talk to a manager next time, most gyms will not condone those types of comments.
The next time they call you a pussy, respond by calling your friend so manly. If they say it jokingly, you also say it jokingly. If they take offense and claim they were only joking you also say you were joking. If they take offense, as they probably will and should, one can hope they see their statement in a new light. If not ¯_(ツ)_/¯
If you wore a wig and a dress, these idiots would insist that you’re a man
A miserable pile of secrets?
Say I’ll spot you then just leave
Just kidding that would be horrible
A man is someone who will use gloves if he wants too regardless of what others say because their dumbass opinion is irrelevant to him.
People who try to manipulate your behavior based on their own opinion of what you “should” be doing through bullying are never worth listening too.
A woman trying to insult you… by comparing you to her own gender… is not very bright.
Approach it as this with girls, since women would behave in a better fashion. It’s always a matter of time with girls where they WILL find something to critique. You wearing gloves to preserve your hands does not reflect on your masculinity. But what they said to you about using said gloves has a lot to say about those girls and what they will end up attracting down the road. The mentality they have breeds immaturity and a power struggle. So be thankful you’ll never have to wake up to one of them and call them your wife.
I actually asked my girlfriend this about a month ago. Just for clarity, I’m 42. On paper I’m ‘doing great’. Kids, great girlfriend, good career, own a house. All the boxes but my previous girlfriend left me for ‘not being manly enough’.
After the breakup, and thanks to that comment I lost weight, got healthier, all the things I thought were manly.
My current girlfriend answered… A man is someone who’s secure in his life. Has his own shit together and values genuine connections. Not someone who ALWAYS depends on someone else for his happiness but has a life he enjoys and is proud to share with those close to him. Someone who doesn’t put down other people to make himself feel better. (looking at you ‘Alpha’ guys) someone who is kind and genuine. Also, when it comes to partners, she said she would hate that if she had to go on a work trip for a week, I would sit at home pining and waiting for her return. That my happiness was dependant on her being around. At first this struck me as odd but it makes sense. Don’t be too needy. Share burdens and wins. Anyway. It ended up being a rather long, complex chat about what we both think in terms of what’s a man and what’s a woman.
I hope my answer helped.
Nothing. They are just miserable cunts.
I wear open back lifting gloves (basically just a leather strap that protects the palm from calluses, with a velcro wrist strap) because my woman complained too much about my rough hands. Nobody makes fun of me for it.
One thing that might help you is to finish puberty
“What could I be doing wrong that is so unmanly?”
Getting on reddit and making this post. If you are truly a man, stand up for yourself. If you are wearing training gloves, thats one thing.. If you are wearing gloves because you are afraid of touching things, I see why they say this..
The ultimate truth is that you are free to do what you want, so be secure in your choosing. Hell, you may want to crack a joke on them to let them know that you arent just going to take their shit.
But definitely man up and manage your emotions appropriately, if you are a man.
Just say “and I’m still better at that than you.”
wearing gloves in the gym isn’t unmanly it’s just smart lol. sounds like they’re just looking for something to poke at. honestly, people like that just project their own insecurities lol there’s nothing wrong with protecting ur hands. keep doing u man
Well gloves at the gym is kinda…. well you know now
If wearing gloves so my sweaty hands don’t let the weight slip and decapitate me, I will gladly be a pussy, as long as I have any remaining will to live at least.
Some people are shitty. Shitty people throw insults at people to see what will stick.
If they’re people who don’t matter, ignore them. I know that it’s easier said than done, but it’s the best option.
If they’re people who do matter, then talk with them about how it hurts and how you don’t like it when they say that. If they keep it up, you might want to rethink whether their opinion matters.
Once you stop hanging around 14 year olds, things will get better.
Perfect example of women engaging in that toxic masculinity thing everyone complains about. Just do you, start over with different friends if they’re always treating you this way. They may be trying to friendly tease you, I had a hard time sorting that out when I was younger, but that’s for you to decide. Try not to let these things bother you, you’ll run into assholes everywhere in life.
Ignore them (or pity them if you wanna get on their nerves), 90% of the time bullies usually just have a worse life and/or are jealous
They sound insecure about something in their own life. Definitely need better friends
It’s unmanly to think women decide what a man is. And ironic enough a lot of women that always talk about what a “real man” is grew up with no father figure. Maybe stand up for yourself and stop looking to redditors for help and you won’t be called a pussy
That’s odd when it doesn’t come from male friends. Dudes say that shit all the time but mostly for funsies.
No clue how you look or act, or what was being discussed when they said it, but it’s time for some new friends bro.
I would have said something like “Yeah. I keep the hands soft because my girlfriend/ wife says she doesn’t like to get fingered when my hands feel like sand paper.” 😂
In all honesty just brush it off and get new friends
Add to your gym attire: over the ear headphones and a baseball cap. Get back in your own head. Wear the gloves if you want.
I don’t wear gloves but I’m also not at the gym to be social or to be concerned with anyone else. I’m there for my family, so I can be the strong man they deserve.
Please tell me you said something back using a certain c or b word, rumors about her smelling like dead fish, etc.
Just tell them you’re part of a circle jerk club, and thought the men appreciate your strong grip from working out. They really don’t like the callouses that come from working out.
Kinda like all those anonymous men that complain about your genital herpes blisters, before they begrudgingly drop that $20 bill on your dresser on the way out.
The only thing you are doing wrong is having shitty friends.
If you’re going to hang around with mean girl types like that you have to learn how to strike back hard enough to make them think twice before doing it again.
For example, just yesterday my wife and I went out to lunch with a friend of hers. She takes one look at my shirt and says. “That thing is hideous, it looks like the quilt your grandma sewed.”
She was kind of right, it’s an odd patchwork looking button down shirt, BUT…this bitch was wearing a brown spotted jumpsuit thing that was every bit as odd looking so I said back.
“You’re right it does, but at least I don’t look like the couch she hangs that quilt over.” Owned.
I’ll wear that shirt out next time I know we’re going to see her just to rub her nose in it too.
I (as a younger man/ older teen) never acted like a nervous rabbit around girls. Many thought I was gay because I never hit on them or acted that way. Not gay, just respectful and treated everyone like humans. Even my wife’s friends thought I was when I first met them.
Don’t worry too much about what people think of you, and (always) respectfully correct their misconceptions. You’ll garner way more respect and honesty that way. Being a man isn’t about being macho, it’s all about respect and composure.
“I’m wearing the gloves out of consideration for your mom, she’s been very sensitive since she had to push your weirdly large head out into this world.”
A man has rough strong hands that can hold burning coal but are also soft and refined to the touch, is in tune with their emotions but never feels anything inconvenient etc.
If a hoe ain’t shit they never satisfied with a man.
Same for bitch boys claiming a woman needs to be hot, smart, subservient a virgin etc…
Bottom line, haters ain’t shit.
‘I am what i eat’ is a classic. but if you’re letting someone bully you…check her.
You’re only as good as the company you keep.
You’re not being “bullied.”