I have always been a bit of a loner but it occurred to me that women often have way more support than guys, and that most guys seem to be lone wolves that suffer in silence.
Im tired of being alone and want to create a group of brothers in arms that support each.
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If you want to make friends, find something you can do with other people.
I have made so many friends through shared hobbies. Hiking, MTG, Warhammer, boardgames night at the local hobby shop, or just volunteering around the community. You’ll meet people, have some fun together, and chat. Do this enough and you end up with friends.
Unfortunately the best way is to live through a trial together. That’s why military troops or fraternity groups are so close and forever friends. Highschool/college can be similar if not as good.
When younger it’s also really common to go out drinking and chasing women together.
Your best bet if you can’t go through some type of close bond creating scenario like these is to bond over hobbies. Whatever it is you love doing find other guys who also love the same thing and bond over that. Sports are the easiest example but anything can work. So playing golf, basketball, or soccer in a local rec league are great but running, hiking, video games, comic books, board games, wood working, fishing, cooking, fantasy football, public speaking, model building, painting, playing an instrument or whatever all work.
Guys are different from women and it’s not nearly as common for us to just get together to talk and most men don’t want to consistently do that. We usually need some activity to bond over and it’s pretty common for that activity to have some competitive aspect to it.
Good luck!
Id strongly disagree. Most women I know have been rotating in and out friends for their whole lives and seem to always have something to bitch about when it comes to them.
Male friendships seem to be far more permanent and far less judgey.
Anyways I’ve always believed in adage that we are the company we keep. If you want to have great supportive friends, be a great supportive person.
The only advice that I could start out giving is make sure these are not virtual friends, you know the ones that are connected to each other with a headset on a gaming console. Make sure they are friends in real life, real humans that you actually can stand next to or go do something with Without using virtual reality or any type of headset. That’s a great start. I know it can be challenging in today’s times because everybody seems to have those consoles and stay at home but a good strong circle of friends actually our friends that you are face-to-face type of people. You develop these friendships when you are young and as you get older, you know they’re your friends because your friendship with stands the test of time and changes in not only relationships, but also socioeconomic conditions as well. Having said that, at 46 I have a small group of friends, I would say my circle is tight with less than seven, but they’re all within my close area less than an hour drive away now and although we don’t hang out like we did as children in high school, as we all have families, we still get together, maybe individually but not as a group. Families become your friends as each person grows up and has a family. That doesn’t mean you can’t do something with just your friend only, but it takes a little bit more planning.