Taking accountability. Not just saying “sorry,” but actually changing behavior. That’s not bare minimum,that’s emotional maturity, and sadly, it’s still rare enough to feel like a flex.
i would say eating out at expensive restaurants frequently.. some couples may do that once every few months (or even less than that). so anyone who’s eating out at a steakhouse several times a month is above bare minimum.
We’ve been together for 8 years and when one of comes home to the other, he acts like I’ve been away for months. He attacks me, lifts me off the ground, kisses me like it’s our wedding day… that feels so good and I adore it. I’ve never had that until him
My husband brushes my hair when I’m extra tired or sad. He’s very gentle and sweet and typically doesn’t say much, it’s just a quiet expression of I see you and want to take care of you and I’m here if you’re feeling low. Not a bare minimum thing imo but it makes me feel so loved and treasured I could cry happy tears that I married the best and kindest person on this planet.
My partner sends me flowers at work, he buys me flowers randomly at home, he sends me money when I go out for dinner or drinks with my friends. I love and appreciate all of it.
For me, planning fancy dates. I don’t really like fancy things. If a dude says “Let’s hit our favorite cafe for breakfast!” or “I picked you up a cupcake from the public market for Valentine’s Day!” That’s good enough for me. I don’t need him to be constantly outdoing himself to “wow” me.
Him always being the default driver. I can drive and do so often to get to work and run errands etc, but if we’re going somewhere together, he drives. It’s definitely not something I expect or require from a partner, so it feels extra nice that he always does it.
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I would say getting beauty treatments paid for. I think it’s a kind gesture, not expected but appreciated. Definitely above bare minimum.
Honesty.
Genuinely liking your partner’s family and spending time with them.
Actively listening when the other person is talking.
be able to make fun of each other without going overboard or taking offense at each other
Doing your share of everything (cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc) without being asked or told.
Taking accountability. Not just saying “sorry,” but actually changing behavior. That’s not bare minimum,that’s emotional maturity, and sadly, it’s still rare enough to feel like a flex.
Goddamit, read the post ya’ll. It says “NOT” the bare minimum… Jesus… 😒
yall the title says NOT the bare minimum 😭💔
i would say eating out at expensive restaurants frequently.. some couples may do that once every few months (or even less than that). so anyone who’s eating out at a steakhouse several times a month is above bare minimum.
Uff trust, communication, trust, acting like a partner, good hygiene, doing equal share of chores, paying for fair share of things
Excitement.
We’ve been together for 8 years and when one of comes home to the other, he acts like I’ve been away for months. He attacks me, lifts me off the ground, kisses me like it’s our wedding day… that feels so good and I adore it. I’ve never had that until him
Mutual respect
Gifts – Nice to be received, especially if they’re considerate of the receiver, but should not be expected or feel entitled to.
not the bare minimum:
going on hikes with me. Not everyone thinks climbing a mountain is fun.
complimenting me ALL the time. Maybe hot take but this for me is not bare minimum but nice anyway!
paying for everything: not my current relationship but this would be above and beyond.
cooking for me. Dinners multiple times a week. Lunch from time to time. I can make my own food but its nice! 🙂
always asking if i need anything. Its just sweet and thoughtful.
From my side:
im buying clothing items for him all the time because hes always cold.
picking him up a pastry or coffee cause im getting one.
Him (if I had one) being close/friends with my cousins. I don’t have any siblings so I am really close to my cousins.
My husband brushes my hair when I’m extra tired or sad. He’s very gentle and sweet and typically doesn’t say much, it’s just a quiet expression of I see you and want to take care of you and I’m here if you’re feeling low. Not a bare minimum thing imo but it makes me feel so loved and treasured I could cry happy tears that I married the best and kindest person on this planet.
My partner sends me flowers at work, he buys me flowers randomly at home, he sends me money when I go out for dinner or drinks with my friends. I love and appreciate all of it.
good lord. NOT the bare minimum. meaning above and beyond.
Not bare minimum but a nice to have, multiple shared interests.
For me, planning fancy dates. I don’t really like fancy things. If a dude says “Let’s hit our favorite cafe for breakfast!” or “I picked you up a cupcake from the public market for Valentine’s Day!” That’s good enough for me. I don’t need him to be constantly outdoing himself to “wow” me.
Big expensive gifts.
Picking me up at the train station which is a 2 block walk from our house. Ha.
IMO: coming with me to doctors appointments. I very much can go alone. Having my partner come with me is special.
Him always being the default driver. I can drive and do so often to get to work and run errands etc, but if we’re going somewhere together, he drives. It’s definitely not something I expect or require from a partner, so it feels extra nice that he always does it.
Actively, frequently, and enthusiastically participating in your hobbies that they don’t have a personal interest in.