So I (18F) had a guy over from Tinder last week. He was 21, kinda hot, and I’d been talking to him for a few days. I showed my friends his picture and they knew him, not directly but they’ve seen him at parties before and even chatted. So it was safe to assume he wasnt some random person, i did my homework before I finally let him come over. We ended up chilling, watched a movie and then hooked up – it was alright, but I didn’t finish. Whatever. It happens.
He slept over, and in the morning, I left to grab us some iced coffee and bagels. I told him to make himself comfortable.
What I forgot is that I had a vibrator sitting on the floor by my bed, like half under my nightstand, not totally out in the open, but not hidden either. It had been a long week, okay? I use it, I toss it, I clean it later. It’s my room.
When I got back, I immediately felt the energy was off. He gave me this smug look but didn’t say anything. I handed him his coffee and we awkwardly ate our bagels in silence. Then as he was leaving, he goes, “guess I know why you didn’t finish last night.”
I was like, “What?”
He smirked and said,
“You dropped this,”
and pulled my vibrator out of his hoodie pocket.
I was mortified. I snatched it out of his hand and just said “are you serious?” He laughed and walked out. I was in disbelief and as much as i wanted to say something i got caught up in the moment and just froze.
I texted him an hour later saying, “That wasn’t cool. You could’ve just said something instead of being a dick about it.”
He replied with just:
“You seemed proud of it, figured you wouldn’t care 😉”
I didn’t answer.
A few days later, I found out from a girl I kinda know through mutual friends that he had posted a Snapchat of my toy with the caption “my competition 😭💀” and apparently, a few people saw it and recognized my room. Same bedsheets, same LED lights, and even worse: the coffee cups from that morning were in the background.
Now people are asking me if it was really me. A guy I used to talk to screenshotted it and texted me, “damn, that thing beat me too?”
I deleted my Snap. I’m honestly embarrassed as hell. I didn’t even realize he took the picture while I was out and I don’t even want to show my face again. I don’t think I’ve ever felt this way before about anything. Nothing comes close to this pitiful feeling in my stomach.
TL;DR: Let a guy sleep over, forgot my vibrator was next to the bed, he found it while I was gone, took a picture, and posted it to Snapchat as a joke. Now everyone knows what I use, and I’ve basically become a meme.
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Sounds like an insecure moron. Toys aren’t competition. If he was worth your time he would have been more excited about your pleasure.
Not a fuck up on your part. He’s just an asshole.
That’s shitty for him to do
Fuck that asshole. You’re allowed to self pleasure and not be ashamed.
The way he told on himself
That guy is absolute trash. You deserve better. And I wish you had better friends…or felt comfortable owning it and just saying “yes I have sex and sex toys. I wish you would have sympathy for me rather than feed into someone trying to embarrass me”
He’s an asshole.
Immaturity unfortunately comes with being in your age group. Posting it to SC was a super shitty thing to do tho. I hope youre able to look back on this and laugh one day, OP
Oh hun. I would have turned that bugger on… Until you spilled your guts…. Love l
The fuck up was not vetting this dude better. Thats likely not the first messy snap posted.
He should have encouraged you to use it together. I guess his ego was too large and fragile.
Nearly all women use a vibrator and his dick ain’t all that.
Take it from a 50 year old, you’re fine and this is 100% a him problem.
Sounds like creative writing project to me… timeline doesn’t jive….
Nope this guy is a dick. He wanted to end the encounter with a power move for dominance and control and to compensate for the fact that he couldn’t bring you to orgasm.
Be proud that you have a vibrator and are in control of your own orgasms. Next time find a man who will help you with your orgasms, with or without a vibrator.
Your battery operated boyfriend has more class than that dope.
I would have told him he’s the reason you didn’t finish. It’s not competition it’s an assistant
chatgpt ass story
What a douchebag, totally not cool at all.
Honestly, it’s just the mark of immaturity. I’ve said it once I’ll say it again, toys are tools, not competition, guys.
A smart guy would have offered to use it next time. An even smarter guy would’ve kept quiet about it for if there is a next time and then suggested it.
Dodged a bullet it sounds like.
Ditch the douche. The vibrator would never disrespect you like that.
Ignore them.
It’s not like any of them are innocent of jerking off (not that I think it’s a crime).
Drop them if they won’t drop it.
wow dudes a piece of shit
Sounds like his fuck up, not yours.
Sorry he shared that info publicly, that’s not cool.
People will move on from this, don’t sweat it.
I mean, the pulling it out of his hoodie wasn’t that bad but posting it online is a big issue, no you made the right choice
What a fucking asshole.
My ex never hid her vibrator from me. Granted we lived together but it never bothered me. Mostly on days when we have sex before I have to work she’ll think about us having sex and use it because I’m not home. I thought it was kinda sweet because I’m a secure human being and I know when I’ve gotten her off
I understand feeling embarrassed, but I at least wanna say, own it. Confidently say, “hey, yeah, that’s mine, and yeah, it is better than that dude. It can get me to finish, when some dude who thinks he’s hot shit, can’t. It also doesn’t take pictures of my private life and post in on social media. Vibrator one, shit ass dude, zero”.
Ugh people suck. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this!
Cool story, bro.
IMHO (m53) If he’s not secure enough to accept that you are in charge of your own satisfaction and be mature and not make a big deal about it he’s a little boy not a man and you can do better.
INFO: Why were the coffee cups “from that morning” in the background of the photo? Did he take the photo in front of you??
Put him on blast for not being able to finish the job.
Once I hooked up with a girl and while we were fucking she pulled out a vibrator and started using it while I was in her and it was super hot. She got off and the vibration felt good on me too. That guy is just immature.
Girl, all he is doing is exposing himself for not being able to please a woman. You are completely fine. If sex toys dont excite you as a man, you shouldn’t even be having sex.
Well the dude sucks obviously and none of it is your fault. I understand that you feel embarassed but honestly there is no reason to be ashamed.
I guess you are both young and he seems pretty insecure.
It’s an OF ad. Look at her profile.
A real man and a gentleman wouldn’t have said a word about it and just left it where it was under your nightstand. Some things are private and he wasn’t invited in that door yet.
You are better off without him and you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
Personally I would have replied to his public post something to the effect of “if you were better I wouldn’t have needed to break it out after you fell asleep.” But that’s just me and I’m petty like that.
I mean, at least there weren’t slugs inside of it
Own it! It was immature what he did, and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Self exploration and satisfaction is a fact of life. Everyone masturbates, toys can be healthy.
What kind of weaknut dude is scared of a vibrator
Nothing wrong with using personal items to help yourself out. He’s an immature asshole and you have nothing to be ashamed of.
both of you are stupid
Don’t worry, this dude will be disappointing lots of women for many years to come.
He is a dick. Be proud of your sexuality.
The only fuck up you had was sleeping with an asshole
Why is the guy advertising he can’t make a girl finish? What a loser.
Haha
I mean, he should have asked if he could use it on you as well and not be an ass.
What? At least you learned he is trash right away.
Everyone commenting might want to see her other posts before judging if this really happened.