So this just happened like 3 hours ago and I’m still trying to process wtf I did.
Met this super sweet guy on Hinge, we’ve been vibing for like 2 weeks, all cute and flirty but nothing too crazy. Finally decided to meet IRL. Plan: coffee date, casual walk, maybe a kiss if the vibe’s there.
Reality: chaos.
We meet, it’s going great, he’s even cuter in person, we’re laughing, walking, all those cheesy rom-com things. Then, we pass by this random little park with swings and he’s like, “Wanna hop on?” I’m thinking, sure, let’s be quirky.
BIG MISTAKE.
I go full send, hop on the swing, try to be all cute… and immediately flash him because I forgot I was wearing a wrap skirt with basically nothing underneath. 🫠
His face went BEET RED and I’m just sitting there like a malfunctioning NPC, legs mid-air, skirt flying, brain buffering. He just blurts out “nice” (??? bro wtf) and then deadass offers to push me like nothing happened.
I. Am. Mortified.
But also??? He kept making all these little comments the rest of the date about how “spontaneous” I am and how he “wasn’t expecting that”. Same, dude. SAME.
We ended up walking for like two more hours and ngl… the tension was palpable. Didn’t kiss though — mostly because I couldn’t stop thinking about my accidental park peep show.
Now I’m home, overthinking everything, and wondering… should I text him? Should I just let it be the chaotic meet-cute it was? Idk.
Anyway, moral of the story: always check your outfit before attempting to be quirky in public.
TLDR: went on a wholesome first date, accidentally flashed him mid-swing, now I’m debating if I should text or wait for him to slide into my DMs first. 👀
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Note to self ~ always go commando on a first date!
Except this incident everything went great! Id say text him and explain him the situation ! It would be sad to end things like this
doesn’t seem like a major fu, sounds like he thought you did it intentionally? Just flirt around that.
You read annoying.
Nothing terrible happened. Text them saying you didn’t mean for it to happen but oh well and move on. People have sex all the time on first dates.
Explain what happened and see if he’d be down for a second date. Never know what’ll happen
Meanwhile hes texting his friends about the best date ever lol
Sounds like yall are young and he is trying to be respectful.
Hahaha
‘Nice’ isn’t a terrible reaction. What was the right thing to say there?
I’d have probably thought “Don’t mention tacos, do not mention tacos, talk about anything other than tacos”, then suggested we looked for somewhere to get a kebab.
I think date was great and this little fail will be a funny thing you will be laughing at in the future
You should definitely text him. Good vibes and good people aren’t that common. If you can both avoid overthinking it enough, then maybe the vibe comes back, and you have a very cute first date story that you probably can’t tell your families haha.
Plus, did he get creepy after? Lots of guys would, and it doesn’t sound like he did. Not that the bar is that low, but maybe it is something to consider. Might show some good character.
Anyway, try not to let a little embarrassment ruin a good thing. Edit: I don’t want to come off like I’m minimizing your feelings there, just saying, if this is the worst embarrassment of your life in the next decade, you should play the lottery often because you have incredible luck lol.
Life is too damned short to get hung up on stuff like that. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but take it from a guy in his 40s. Feels like I was turning 30 yesterday, and 25 the day before. Don’t waste the chance.
Good luck, OP.
How was that chaos?
What do you think you did wrong?
I don’t understand why this is a fu? Its mildly embarrassing at best
Edit: just noticed its AI slop, the fucking em-dash always gets me
Bro blurted out “nice”
I laughed, and honestly, you probably should too. He’s trying to play it down. Laugh at the mistake (and also his choice of words haha) and keep on keeping on. It ain’t that deep.
Just text him, go on a second date if you really felt it. Gotta get out of your head, and back up on that proverbial swingset.
I’m going to need an update because this sounds like the beginning of a rom com anime and I’m all for it.
”Sorry for the clothing malfunction, anyway I had a great time, would love to meet up again…”
Simple flash of your coochie by mistake.
If he doesn’t want to see you again because of something like this. He’s just not into you.
Forget about him & move on.🌺
I’d have mentioned you didn’t mean to do that, it’ll help him gauge your personality too. As in if a girl did that to me intentionally, I might decide she’s a bit too spontaneous, but everyone has mistakes.
Hell yeah
What are you talking about? This is the perfect first date! You should go for it.
And that’s how I met your Mother
Sounds like you are making a huge deal out of an honest mistake and letting it distract you from something good right in front of you
> He just blurts out “nice”
“Nicer with your cock in it..”
” Nice “
In a couple years from now, you will both laugh about your first date.
Yeah bruv, text him. Thats not chaos, thats a memory, something to laugh about down the road. He was trying to break the tension by making those little comments but you were full send in your head.
A text as simple as, ok I get it, my lady bits introduced themselves this evening, eager beaver style, however, she’ll stay covered up for the time being but hey, hope the peep show didn’t scare ya off.
If you still dig him, send a special ops joke: Sorry, my commando mistakenly ambushed you at the park. Apologies for this war crime. When is the court martial?
Did you match with a priest or something?
Most guys are not going to be bothered by this. Surprised, but not annoyed. You do realize you in fact gave him something he likely wants ultimately? In other words, if he’s attracted to you, he wants to see you naked at some point. Just explain it was an accident unless you’re ready for him to see you naked. His brain was farting just as much as yours was with the unexpected.
The worst way he could interpret this is that you were acting like a tease. So you really should explain that it was unintentional and just move on. You were having fun and so comfortable with him that you forgot to think about possible consequences of using a swing.
honestly, he sounds chill, just text and see
I think you should lean into this. Just go on a 2nd date with him and have sex. Let him get a good, closeup look at ya.
Go on a second date. Don’t let a silly flash mess with the potential for something great. If he’s weird about it, he’ll be weird about other things.
Something similar happened to my wife and I when we started dating. We were at a water park and she was sitting Indian style and her bikini crept sideways and caught a flash but didn’t know what to say. Years later I told her and she was aghast but were happily married more 7 and together for 19 and it’s the silly shit that makes relationships special.
If he’s anything like me, he’s probably kicking himself too. “Nice? Nice?? A cool girl show you the Crown Jewels on a first date and you say Nice? What are you, twelve?”
Reddit is full of stories of disastrous dates leading to long term relationships. Go get him, sport!
Aww, I want to be OP’s date. Don’t overthink it, he’s just a good dude trying to navigate the scenario. Give him a minute and hit him up again. Mebbie wear pants next time 😉
Men nowadays are nervous. Hes probably worried about saying anything too direct or something that will make you upset.
If you want to see him again, just be direct and say “Hey, I’m sorry I flashed you on our last date. It was completely unintentional and really kinda ruined the whole thing. I want to see you again, can we go out again?”
Because that boy is as mortified as you are and you’re likely both in the same mental boat of “The less I say, the better it’ll be”
Just text him “ok your turn”.
Lol. That’s cute, kind of sounds like something that would happen in a slice of Life anime. Keep us posted on if things work out in the future, sounds like a fun guy