What’s the most shallow reason you ever rejected someone and do you regret it?
What’s the most shallow reason you ever rejected someone and do you regret it?
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What’s the most shallow reason you ever rejected someone and do you regret it?
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He misspelled ’embarrassed’ after bragging about his literature degree and how much he knew about words.
I regret nothing.
I thought he had said bad things about me but it was someone else with the same name. I found out months later so I do regret it
He scarfed down a very large McDonalds meal of a Big Mac, a quarter pounder, 10 piece nuggets, large fries, and a large drink on the phone in under about 12 mins bc he had a 30 min lunch break and the other half was the drive to and from. It just made me so disgusted to see how he gorged himself on that found and I just got the ick. Do I regret it? Not really because we weren’t “dating” for very long so no clue even if I would
I wasn’t attracted to them and no, I don’t.
He sat in his fugly recliner like an old man after work and exclusively watched Fox News! It’s a no for me, dog! ✌🏼
He was really into astrology, like genuinely believed the stars dictated his personality and controlled/heavily impacted his actions. Just couldn’t get past it. I don’t regret it exactly, I’m sure we would have been a mismatch on many levels. BUT he was super cute so I kind of regret not just going on a couple casual dates for fun.
He didn’t like cats
His voice was too high pitched for me. Never told him this was the real reason because i didn’t want to make him feel insecure or something. He was a good guy. I don’t regret it.
His voice. The moment he started talking I just couldn’t see it working out. No I don’t regret it, I can’t imagine dating someone I never want to hear talk.
She kept moving her hand in a wave motion while saying things like, “ohhh yeeeeah!” and “coool beeeeans.” No regrets.
He smelled like grape chewing gum. I do not regret it.
Horrible table manners. Didn’t want to sit across from him and watch him be a slob. Parents teach your kids good table manners. If you don’t know yourself then YouTube it. Break the cycle. Learn how to properly hold your fork and knife. Chew with your mouth closed. Don’t use your fingers to push food onto your fork. It will serve you well in life. You will be eating with potential romantic partners, employers, in laws. If you sit down at a set table and don’t know which bread plate or glass is yours. Take both hands and make the ok sign 👌. The left hand forms a B so that is the bread plate. The right hand forms a D so you know that is the drink side. I’ve seen people who have lots of money and success and they eat like a caveman.
I met his friend before I met him, she was my coworker and wanted to be friends and I was stuck with her hearing her talking about expensive bags and stuff. trying to get rid of her (his friend) because she was just annoying (literally) and so cringe, I told her some big lies so she leaves me alone…. I met him months later and we exchanged instagram, I saw pictures of them together and I knew this would never work out because of what I told her. I regretted at the time but I now just knew it wasn’t meant to be because I meant to be with my now boyfriend.
He had a huge tattoo of his exes name. No regrets, could not date someone with that little foresight.
He was really short and bald. I saw us in the mirror next to each other once and I felt like his mom and he was just a giant baby and I could never unsee it again.
He was a virgin. I was 31 at the time and didnt feel like we were in the same stage/phase of life. Some stuff about him was already making me give it pause, but the virgin thing sealed the deal.
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He was very handsome but he wore flip flops to a bar. This was in 1997. People dressed better then but I would still do the same thing now.
Boring men ie no activities together besides eating food. And no real passions outside of work an porn.
I dont mind planning stuff but ifim the one coordinating all of the fun and romance its a dealbreaker
He said he didn’t own a single pair of pants and only wore shorts. I asked him what he did in the winter and, he wears shorts then too. I asked him what he did when he wanted to dress nice for dinners, weddings whatever, and he said “I don’t have and nice clothes maybe we can go shopping together and you can help me pick out some stuff.” Um, no sir. I’m not showing a 37 year old man how to properly dress. Also he had bad breath and the final blow was when he said “You can’t say with 0% certainty that the earth isn’t flat.”
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He had boney fingers with nubby nails.The thought of him touching my body repulsed me. Not that other guys haven’t repulsed me for various reasons, but I remember those fingers.
Very shallow but I can’t handle people with bad and gross hair. Had one date with a guy and his hair looked wet from the amount of grease in it. He didn’t smell or anything but he had long greasy hair and it was such a turn off. I have no regrets, I know I can be judgemental.
His nose was too big for his face. After he flashed his penis I was convinced “If they have big noses…” and the hands thing was a lie…at least for him. Weighed the option one night when I was lonely, but still was a nope. (Ran in the same circle) And no, don’t regret it.
The dude had crusty lips and dirty finger nails. No regrets.
He was allergic to cats
He had this teeny tiny little moustache that might as well have been brushed on with mascara. It just looked gross.
I spent long hours on the phone over multiple days with this guy I met online in a chatroom (yeah yeah, showing my age) and we had so much in common, I absolutely loved talking to him.
Then he came to meet me (he lived 2 hours away) and I took one look at him and his eyebrowless face and noped right out there.
Do not regret it. He had no explanation for it other than he liked it that way, no thanks.
I was a young mall punk/raver and the chick was dressed super “preppy”. I looked at her and figured we wouldn’t mesh well and wrote her off.
I ran into her a couple years later at a concert and realized I should’ve taken the time to get to know her when I had the chance.
He was a picky eater. I don’t regret it at all lol
When I was in high school, this one guy who had mocked me a lot at summer camp sent me a message asking me out. Said he played lacrosse, like that would make me interested in him. I’m thirty now, and ya know what? Fuck you, Josh. You should’ve been honest and said you liked my tits rather than making fun of them.
He was fat. Joke’s on me, I later became morbidly obese lol.
He showed up for our (evening) first date with bed head. Assume he hadn’t bothered to shower. I had one drink and left.
I didn’t like the way he looked, but I liked everything else about him
He had extremely yellow teeth and dry crusty lips. As the daughter of a dental hygienist I just couldn’t get around it 🙈
His breath constantly smelled like milk and I’m lactose intolerant. No I don’t regret it he made me gag
The way she dressed. I wish I could take it back.
He confessed to being in love with me on the first day we met😭😭. We’ve been friends since and he’s genuinely a very good, outgoing person. But I don’t actually like men so I don’t regret it.
Turns out he was the guy dragging his guitar around campus, taking his shoes off, and playing a lil diddy in the oval.
I looked at what content they followed, type of content, etc. and was like “Yeah, no” and never texted them back 🤷🏻♀️
He was really fat and refused to exercise. I like to exercise and stay fit. We were incompatible. No regrets.
Someone with a micropenis and an annoying laugh, and someone who doesn’t like dogs. By the way, they are all different guys.
He was kinda dumb, but thought he was a genius.
His birthday was 2 days before mine. I had already dated someone whose birthday was 2 days after and it never went well. Also, he was a lame kisser.
He had feminine hands…
This guy had a hair growing off the bridge of his nose. I got out of there within moments. Thinking about it makes me squirm. Ick
He doesn’t capitalize. Immediate turn off after reading his messages.
His teeth. He was English. And no I don’t regret it at all.
He baby talked my dog. I got the ick. I couldn’t get over it. I do not regret it.
Another guy I really liked for years was finally single when I was so we went on a couple dates. By the time we dated gd had started to bald but he had long hair and it was pulled tight into a ponytail. The hair always looked too tight like it hurt. It was too distracting and it made me less attracted to him sadly. I don’t regret it.
Their choice in sports teams
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So it sounds shallow, but it was a multitude of things and this was just the tipping point. He had really bad skin. Postulating zits that would pop and bleed down his face.
I wouldn’t care about that, but it was the fact that he controlled so much of my life when we were barely dating (2 1/2 months) made suggestions about how I should spend my money, take care of my mother ( she was sick and lived with me at the time). Made fun of me for not being intelligent enough, all this crap. Basically he tried to belittle me. I just think he was insecure because I’m a bit attractive.
I think when we ditch guys for shallow reasons, it’s never the shallow reason. I learned this in therapy. It’s the compiling things that the shallow thing just over shadows, but it’s really not the shallow thing. It’s everything else piling up, and the shallow thing becomes the tipping point where he start to view them as ugly on the outside, which matches the inside. Because he was a really nice guy, just not to me.
His photos looked fine, but in person he looked like my brother. Instant no for me.
His voice. He had a really effeminate inflection. Not his fault and not a turn off for everyone, but definitely is one for me. I don’t regret it. Voice is a pretty difficult thing to get past, and he deserved to be with someone who doesn’t have to get past it.
He was an Alabama football fan. No regrets.
I’ll start by saying I absolutely don’t regret it because my partner is incredible and the man in question is living his best life with his family (and his life is absolutely 100% one I would have no interest in). But it is my shame of my life, I was such an ass.
This pour soul, when we were 16 I had the biggest crush on him, and he was so intelligent. I mean, honestly, we were both huge nerds and he was physics/math smart while I was chemistry/biology smart and I just was wholly briefly obsessed. Then this boy asked me out on a date and I DIED. We both liked a particular sports team so we went to watch a playoff game at a local sports bar and everything was perfect. Until the check came. The way this man took, I kid you not, a full 20 seconds to calculate what ended up being a 15% tip (which was considered very good at the time) just left me wholly disinterested. No weird rounding on the tip or to make the charge an even number, just a round number to the closest $0.50 mark… poor mofo was probably horribly nervous and I just did not go on a second date after that. I was like “who can’t do that math in their head? He’s so math smart, wtf?” Smh.
He didn’t like nor appreciated the rock opera genre. Also his favourite band was AC/DC.
He resembled one of my friends who’s a female. He wasn’t feminine at all, but he looked like a male version of her. I just couldn’t kiss him without thinking of her. I kept seeing her in his face. Too weird. I told him I didn’t want a long distance relationship. He was in medical school (in my home town; met during summer break) and I was in college 250 miles away. I would have gladly had a long distance boyfriend, with the right person, but how do you tell a man that you are repulsed by him looking like a girlfriend of yours?
I regret that I couldn’t bring myself to get to know him better. He went on to be a renowned heart surgeon. I hope he’s having a happy life.
The surfaces in his bathroom were a little bit dusty. Weirdest all consuming ick I ever discovered. Great person but no regrets.
Yes. He was short.
He didn’t have good guest parking at his apartment complex.
White dude with insanely long dreads, down past his butt. Went on two dates, held hands, nothing else. The first date all he talked about was work (we worked at the same smoothie place, he was the general manager at another shop) and on the second date he wore a shirt that said “I <3 to fart” which, I did think was kinda funny, but the entire date he talked to me about his daily hair routine. I couldn’t stop looking at his hair and realized it was grossing me out (don’t get me wrong, I love dreads but not on white dudes). He was in my area one weekend and asked to hang out, I told him I was busy (I actually had a date with my now husband lmao), never heard from him again. I don’t regret it, I was starting to see my husband around the same time as well and it worked out perfectly 🥰
He was a triple Virgo (Astro chicks know)
He was too tall. He was 6’6”, I’m 5’3”. I caught our reflection in a window one day and I looked like a small child next to him. I just couldn’t.
He had a lot of earwax
He smelled funky and seemed like a creep, I later became friends with his sister (found out after becoming coworkers and getting along and talking about family) and well no, absolutely not even a tiny bit.
The first boy that ever showed interest in me, in 7th grade. I was like, a teensy bit interested just to see what the fuss is a boyfriend was about, but overall he made me really uncomfortable with his clinginess in the three days we dated, and the reason I called it quits is that my friends were all making fun of me for it. He was…even more awkward than me. He ended up at a different high school than me and played football.
Fast forward thirty years and his name comes across my desk in a professional capacity. I took a little sneaky peak at his record and was really shocked to find out that at the time I was rejecting him on my doorstep at like 730 AM for a week, he was sexually abusing his toddler sister and being court-ordered to anger management for causing severe physical harm to another boy.
I always felt bad for the way I went about things with him, and for the fact that I let other people influence the decision of who I liked. But I never ever had any regrets for not continuing to date him, and seeing his record all those years later just validated it even more.
As an adult, the most shallow reason is I finally met up with a guy from the internet irl and he had a build, demeanor, and hairline like my dad. I just couldn’t. And it was even worse because I wasn’t actually trying to meet him in person yet, but he finessed my roommate by pretending to be someone she used to work with 😳 I showed up home from work one day and he was sitting at my kitchen table.
He kept his left thumb nail long and pointed. He deemed it necessary for his desk job because it apparently helped him separate papers. But it was just that thumb nail. And it was very pointy.
Walked on his tippy toes idk I just couldn’t do it
His mustache/beard attacked my face when we kissed. He would trim it right before a date and his hairs were thick and sharp and I would have red swollen skin around my mouth and nose after kissing. He also didn’t understand why dress shoes weren’t keeping his feet warm in the winter.
I was in my early 20s and this guy got my number from coworkers. I let him call me and in the first 10 minutes he asked if I thought he was cute. I was turned off by the question and I was like, “uhhhh, gotta go!” No ragerts.
He had a hole in his pants, and I saw his butt crack when he stood up.
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He took a bite of my dessert with the fork he had been eating with. I gave him my dessert and he happily ate the whole thing.
Another one flicked my cat in the nose. I told him to not do that. He did it again. I packed his bags and called his dad to come get him.
Another one made a snide comment about me ordering the most expensive dish on the menu. He was the one who picked the restaurant. I paid for the whole bill and let him know I wasn’t interested.
Another one spent the entire walk talking about how much money he made, even showed me pictures of his house. He told me I could pick where we ate. I picked the subway inside a Walmart. He had never been to a Walmart. We walked around and I watched his mortified look. Definitely wasn’t interested in him after that. I guess I’m not sure if it’s a shallow reason or he was shallow? He wasn’t rude.
He had odd stains on his teeth. He also showed me what he looked like with his pants off. I was…unimpressed with what I saw, and the only thing I could think of to compliment him on was the color of his underwear. I’ve gotten to a point where I miss the relationship more than the other person.
took her to a party, we made out later in the night & she had just eaten doritos (the basic nacho flavor, worst one!) and still had crumbs in her mouth … i couldn’t get past the turn off.
When I finally showed interest in him he asked me if I was drunk. I wasn’t but I said yes and then never showed interest again. I don’t regret it
His teeth were really yellow/coffee stained in person. They looked okay in photos…
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