What emotions do you often hide because you’re afraid others will misunderstand you?
What emotions do you often hide because you’re afraid others will misunderstand you?
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What emotions do you often hide because you’re afraid others will misunderstand you?
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I usually hide most emotions surrounding my chronic illnesses.
When I’m proud of myself. I worry it’ll come off as bragging, so I just sit with it quietly like… good job, I guess?
I’m not sure if this counts as an emotion, but I’ve noticed something about myself. Most people see me as tough, confident, and strong-willed. And to be fair, I think I am those things. But over the years, I’ve realized that I’m also afraid of coming across as helpless or weak. Because of that, whenever I do feel those emotions, I tend to hide them or bury them deep.
It feels a bit ironic, really. People open up to me easily, and I’m someone others turn to for support. But when it comes to my own negative emotions, I struggle to talk about them.
Therapy has helped me with that, but it’s still difficult.
I don’t compliment others often, because I’m worried about making them feel uncomfortable, or that I’ll mess up my words and actually offend them.
my bad attitude irritating everything
Anxiety.
I am anxious about 80% of the time. Ranging from mild discomfort to I want to run and jump out of a window.
I tend to cover it up and just pretend like I’m fine because I don’t either want to be brushed off, seen as dramatic or annoying .
Anger, it’s an emotion I never allow myself to feel/show to others. It’s unhealthy but I just hate the way being angry makes me feel afterwards.
My annoyance and disagreements.
I hate conflict and I suffer from people pleasing. So if I contradict someone too much, they’ll hate me.
Pretty much all of them. For some reason people feel the need to make fun of me for having emotions. Still don’t know why it’s okay for most people but not for me.
My sadness. Most people will never know because I hide it behind a big bright smile. It’s better than being dismissed or belittled for your feelings because people would rather you act fine than talk about what’s actually bothering you. So I’ve learned to keep it to myself.
How sad, lonely, isolated, unloved, worthless and invisible I feel all the time. My game face is permanently on and people think I’m doing good when I’m barely treading water.
Anger. I can’t think of a single confrontation I’ve had with someone where they acknowledge their wrongdoing. It’s always somehow flipped back on me for being my fault, and I have no right to be angry about whatever happened. Somehow, I apologize all the time when someone else is angry at me, but when I’m angry at someone else, I end up regretting ever expressing it to them.
Overwhelm. Is that an emotion? I’m not actually sure. But that’s what came to mind.
Essentially, all of them.
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Mental exhaustion from physical pain. I’ve had chronic pain for over 7 months and I’m losing the ability to not appear worn tf out, so I’m having to self isolate instead.
I don’t tell anyone because honestly no one cares. I hope to have it corrected soon, and I know there are many women with absolutely debilitating chronic conditions.
Especially as mothers, we often just bear it alone and keep on going. There is no other choice.
I even pick up my son when he asks, even though it hurts, because I know one day he’ll stop asking. And I’ll never forgive myself for missing out.
And no, I’m not saying it’s easier for women without kids. Don’t come at me for anything, I told you I’m tired.
Anger, for the sole reason that when I get angry I start tearing up. I can’t just shout like a normal person, it always ends with me trying to be angry through crying and that just makes trying to express said anger all the more.
This is worse in the rare care I get angry with family or close friends. Its fifteen -twenty humiliating of trying to get a sentance out over the sniffling and throat closing and more humiliating then anything.
I hardly talk to people anymore.
I have one friend that I have very strong feelings for too, so I have to hide my sexual and romantic feelings.
He knows I’m interested, we both have feelings for each other but he takes it slow due to previous pain and some other struggles.
I’m happy he is in my life. I hate having the urge to be with a guy that I like, I’m going to talk to my therapist about it this week.
How much I dislike myself. I always feel like I’m an absolute idiot, no matter what I do.
I was so uncomfortable with myself when I worked for my degree, I let it go after 7 years. Because I felt not good enough to do the job properly…
Sadness over not being pregnant yet. We’ve only been trying for just over a month, so I feel like I have no right to be sad or disappointed this early on, but I couldn’t help crying when I got that first negative test.
How much I hate myself
How much I hate myself
All of them. Sometimes my friends check in to see if I’m having a good time because I don’t express it as openly as others do — especially when I’m happy or excited.
Frustration, especially in the workplace.
Most negative ones in general. They weren’t well-understood growing up, but I’m trying to unlearn that in therapy.
Joy. Excitement. It depends on who I am with.
I’m a big fawkeen geek and have always been trashed and bullied for it in school ans now, in the workplace.
At work I hide them all as much as I can and garnered the moniker Wednesday at the office.
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Sensitivity
Sometimes I feel sad because I’m afraid they will think I’m just being dramatic
Only at work, I hide any negative emotions from colleagues after my boss said we need to constantly be in a constant state for the sake of our students. It isn’t realistic but at the same time I don’t need another talk about being “too emotional”. I cried (not in front of my class but during my plan period) when I received some bad news about a family member’s health.
Emotional vulnerability in front of my family. I just don’t want to be made fun of or told I was lying and making shit up lol.
My family also used to get pissed off I would show no signs of stress or worry about stuff in front of them. So I developed a good poker face around them. Which is ironic because I have one of the easiest to read faces for people who know me well.
It wasn’t until recent years my mom learned I have anxiety. She thought I was making it up. Until she saw me have a full blown panic attack. The interesting thing was it was setting off worse because it was front of my family and they were crowding me. Asking me a billion questions lol.
My mom has anxiety and depression. So me going through stuff like that in front of her sets her off.
I’ve always had a crippling fear of heights. My mom was like no, you never did. When I was a kid I worked through it because I thought that was what you were supposed to do. But as an adult I’m like. I’m tired of that lol. I think it’s keeping me alive. When I feel safe and secure my fear of heights doesn’t go off.
I don’t ride rollercoasters or do huge water slides anymore. My mom blames my current partner for why I changed so much. She always thought of me as very brave. I’m like I’ve always been like this. This is how I’ve always felt. I just didn’t express it. It’s actually really annoying because she feels like he’s abusing me. My current partner has been extremely supportive of anything I want to do or don’t want to do.
Saying no. It used to scare me a lot to say no to everything with everyone. Saying no to plans, intimacy etc. Absolutely everything. I’m very confident now. I say No very easily. So i don’t hide it anymore but i do have some days where i fear that if i say No the person might attack me. Hit me. Do something to me. It’s scary now when I think about it. But yeah. Healing from it 1 day at a time! 🙂