Straight feminine looking men, how have you embraced your predicament?

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Nothing wrong with looking a certain way and it’s not even a big deal. Just inquiring minds, how have you embraced looking feminine or maybe people assuming you’re gay.

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  2. jenny_loggins_ Avatar

    Predicament? Not my taste personally, but plenty of women love pretty/soft/feminine men

  3. HappyVermicelli1867 Avatar

    I just own it and focus on confidence. People’s assumptions don’t bother me anymore.

  4. kjforu2000 Avatar

    I’m an interesting case where my face looks feminine but my representation does not. I still dress and behave as a typical masculine person. It was easy for me to embrace having a woman-like face because surprisingly women have always really liked me for it lol

  5. Mister_Dane Avatar

    I used to get called gay a lot, and people weren’t making fun, they just thought I was gay. Confidence is a skill that can be learned, hone that skill. If you’re confident you probably won’t care as much about other opinions and preconceived notions people have, especially incorrect ones. 

  6. PopUpClicker Avatar

    I think my situation is more by choice as I like to play around with fashion that crosses traditional genderlines – But I do have a less wide frame and smaller feet than many men in my country.

    I navigate it by not caring, having fun with who I am – having a supportive girlfriend helps.

  7. Efficient-Log8009 Avatar

    I embrace it by having long hair and dressing like a rockstar. There’s enough generic Mr. Clean looking bold men with beards out there. Someone like me stands out more to women.

  8. eflyfree Avatar

    It’s a predicament to « look gay » ? Also, did you know that you can be a gay man and not having a feminine looking ?

  9. TranquilConfusion Avatar

    It only bothered me a little, but in middle age took up barbells and put on 20 lbs.

    I like myself better this way. And it helped with my insomnia and back pain.

  10. karspearhollow Avatar

    I’m not sure if I’m feminine looking but I was kind of scrawny for a long time and I never felt like I carried myself like a man. Hunched shoulders, looking at the ground, etc. 

    I tried embracing this for a long time. And it was fine when I was in a relationship. But since then I haven’t gotten the results I want from dating and I’m done embracing it. I am actively fighting it. 

    I started going to the gym and eating more and I’ve bulked up a fair bit. I have a ways to go but I’m impressed with what I see in the mirror. I still carry myself like I’m small but I think it will improve with time. 

  11. Actual-Slice-146 Avatar

    That’s a rabbit hole you’re getting yourself into. Don’t worry about people

  12. SnooSuggestions9830 Avatar

    If you’re concerned with penis’ going in your mouth you could just use the phrase “no homo” when interacting with other men.

  13. JackedBrew906 Avatar

    Wouldn’t say gay, but definitely had more responses as someone whose closer to the feminine side. My longer curly hair and skinnier body type makes me look more feminine I guess than masculine? But Idk dude, I’ve always loved having medium longish curly hair kinda like Casey rocket / yung gravy has. I’ve gained some weight and toned out a bit from eating differently (went from 160ish pounds to 175 pounds) and my dad / others have been saying my arms filled out more along side with my chest from working more often. Before that, I just kinda rolled with it I guess? lol. I’ve had women give me the odd ball compliments before years ago where they said they liked features on me like my eyelashes, good skin, etc; and some even said I was pretty up front. It was kinda weird at first but I actually don’t mind the compliment now lol! Better to be called pretty vs ugly lmao

  14. FabulousPanther Avatar

    Well, I am what I am. If someone else gets the wrong idea, that is their problem. Getting older and bulking up have cleared that up quite a bit. I look a little more rugged, but I am still too pretty.

  15. Drd2 Avatar

    I put bigger tires on my Honda Ridgeline.

  16. Cheesqueak Avatar

    I grew up in the 80s and 90s in the mostly rural south. It fucking suuuuuucked. Lots of violence and what would now be termed sexual assault.

    Honestly I never embraced it… way too much trauma.

    Sexually I’m straight but was termed “lesbian training wheels” long ago as a joke. It’s true though every woman I’ve been with got with a woman later.

  17. jaosky Avatar

    I have no problem with women. You will be surprise a lot of them are into androgynous guys.

    I also don’t mind getting misidentified as a gay or a chic I just laugh it off.

  18. baconwrath Avatar

    idk bout u but bi baddies love me

  19. FraudKid Avatar

    Maybe not ‘feminine’, but still baby faced at 27.

    It’s done me well so far.

  20. BetterAfter2 Avatar

    People who make judgements based on your looks have a “them problem”.

  21. BeerNinjaEsq Avatar

    As i get older, I think it works for me because it also keeps me looking a bit younger

    And now I just have the reputation as the stylish guy.

    Also, i work out, so i may be facially more feminine, but I’m pretty muscular

  22. flying_rat_sass Avatar

    Just got used to the comments and I’ll happily explain to respectful people. I was skinny with curly hair and just dressed a little more feminine on certain days. I’ve had people scream slurs at me and other shit but whatever, I’m hot and they’re not. Life goes on. Oh and certain women love slutty hips on men lol

  23. Ok-Elk-1316 Avatar

    women find this hot btw just lean into it look at timothee

  24. Due-Ad4292 Avatar

    I’m a straight guy and I’ve always been asked if im gay or bi and I just say no and laugh. I’ve become very comfortable with myself and my body over the years. I’m skinny and the way I walk sometimes makes people think that. But also the way I carry myself. I’m also autistic so it really throws people off. Honestly I’m just very comfortable with myself and I don’t feel the need to act macho or wear more masculine clothing. If it feels good and looks good to me I’m happy.