It just seems like every misbehaved kid I’ve seen had parents that created it or enabled it in some way. Kids are learning how to interact with the world around them by observing others. The ones they observe the most are usually the parents.
It just seems like every misbehaved kid I’ve seen had parents that created it or enabled it in some way. Kids are learning how to interact with the world around them by observing others. The ones they observe the most are usually the parents.
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But I give my kids all the screen time they want…
This is unpopular so take my upvote. I was terribly behaved. It wasn’t their fault. I have terrible adhd.
I was a shithead and my parents are perfectly fine parents
Jokes on you because my kids were well behaved AND I was a bad parent! In your face!
Most the time it’s true. Sometimes kids just need years to pass by. Original Willy wonka had a song by the Oompa Loompas about misbehaving kids lol.
Is this even unpopular, like 75% of the time that’s just a fact
Your gonna catch a lot of parents feeling called out, children are not strong enough to reject the environments created by their parents.
It’s so weird how people think they know enough to assess something so complex with such little information.
I’m not sure how unpopular this is. When children are poorly behaved I almost always blame the parents
Had bad enabling parents. I was a good kid. Polite kind and helpful. Now I’m not bc I ain’t enabling druggies
OP isn’t a parent and it shows.
To clarify your ignorance, a lot of parents are trying to break cycles of abuse from their childhood. Not only are they trying to raise their kids to the best of their ability, keep up with the current parenting best practices, and work through all the crap of life non parents also deal with, but also work through their own brokenness from their parents or post experiences and learn a completely new and unfamiliar system of relationship.
Also, in this economy and the current state of the world, parents are under more pressure.
It’s not an unpopular opinion because so many judgemental childless love to have uniformed opinions without the experience of actually being a caregiver.
Daring, bold, innovative
To an extent, you are right. Parents should be equipped with enough knowledge about children/childrearing. I know everyone’s expected to just wing it or follow how they were raised but looking into psychology, nutrition, or whatnot would help greatly.
My mom was terrible, she gave me anxiety. I was behaved because she was a terrible adult who gave me nothing but fear and paranoia.
I definitely don’t think is unpopular, so many turnip parents raising turnip children nowadays. Entitlement and main character syndrome running rampant the world over like a new pandemic. We’re in a turnip era due to Klik Kloks and InstantGrams. Don’t forget SnappityChitChat.
Some kids just behave bad even with fine parents. It could be due to genetics. Sure, bad parenting can be a cause too but it’s not always the case
No shit
Says someone without children.
Research Grant Amato.
Sometimes kids are just garbage
Not all of the time, there’s surely the occasional kid that is just different. Otherwise, for sure, not an unpopular opinion. I often see other parents with kids and see them be awful parents, and sometimes the kids are still good, but often they’re awful.
Hard agree. It’s the parents who teach their kid how to be a lil shit.
In a lot of ways it’s one of the similarities between parenthood and dog ownership. You need to teach them how to properly behave in various situations. You also need to be aware of the signs that indicate they are overstimulated, or nervous, or any other emotions becoming too much for them to handle.
I’ve seen people today call people Karen’s because they discipline their kids. SRS.
I agree. If your kids are out of control, watch Super Nanny. I know it probably sounds corny, but her system really works.
Nah. I had great parents, but I was a little shithead
I believe life experiences shape you more than your parents do, once you gain free will and start interacting with the world is how your behavior can form.. and this starts around 5 years old
It does have a lot to do with it but environment plays a large part.
I use the old “Devils at home, Angels away” when talking about kid’s behaviours.
They should be pushing boundaries and learning appropriate responses thus devils at home. Then when they are away from home they behave due to learning about boundaries.
Generally true but definitely not always. Some kids are just fucked up, unfortunately. Mental illness and behavioral issues that go beyond parenting do exist.
That’s not to say those kids cant have shitty parents too, though. Then you’ve got a real problem on your hands.
We all know that children only and exclusively interact with their parents in their initial years and follow rules like good little robots don’t we? Seriously have you ever seen a child? Even a little cousin, anyone at all?
It’s true it all starts from home there’s proof in so much history on how these kids are nowadays
When I was a kid I knew a lot of shitty kids that had good parents.
Not every kid will react the same to every situation. My brother and I are extremely different people despite going through most of the same life experiences. I was always chill and well behaved. He was always a troublemaker. There was literally no difference between how my parents treated the two of us except when he was acting up. I just didn’t do that, and it wasn’t fear of repercussion. I just didn’t like being bad. I still don’t
I’m a teacher, and it’s remarkable how matched the children are with their parents. Entitled child? Entitled parents. Obnoxious child? Obnoxious parents. Friendly and polite child? Friendly and polite parents.
This is a universally accepted truth.
Badly behaved all the time or in the moment?
I have two kids. My oldest one came out the sweetest kid you ever met. She was warm, happy, easygoing, willing to just go along with whatever we wanted to do. She slept through the night a like 6 months. She was such a good sleeper in fact that we had to confirm with the pediatrician if we were okay letting her sleep so much. She never argued. We were convinced we were amazing parents and therefore needed to have another one!
So we had our second one and… what? She’s colicky? She doesn’t sleep? She is finicky and prone to tantrums?
OHHHHH, different person! Same parents, but a different person!
If you met us when our youngest was 2-3 years old, you’d think we were terrible parents. We were constantly arguing with this tiny little shit of a human. An adorable, loved little shit of a human, but she was a real goblin for a few years there. Now that she’s rounding past 6 she’s a lot better and a lot more easygoing. But even now at 6+ the likelihood that we get a report from the afterschool that one of them acts up it’s 90% the younger one. She has a temper. She’s prone to feeling put out.
We’re the same parents. We use the same techniques. We’re told often that our first one is a DELIGHTFUL kid. The words the teachers use are like “model student” and “we’d take even more of her.” And as our youngest gets older she’s getting more positive feedback year-on-year, but if you met her just two years go? Hooo boy. You’d have ammo to call us shitty parents based on singular interactions.
So again, long way of asking: singular interactions or living with those parents? Because I guarantee plenty of WONDERFUL parents get caught looking awful in single moments when their kids act up in public.