Hello everyone, I listen to to THT all the time and love how everyone in the comments and on the podcast give friendly advice. I also posted this in another group called disability, I don’t know how to use Reddit very well… Sorry this is going to be very long but I feel like I need to give a bit of backstory.
Okay so my brother (20 M) has a learning disability and has been waiting to do everyday tasks like anyone else but I don’t feel like he can do them alone.
When my brother first started Pre-K his school noticed his delayed speech and did an evaluation on him. Doctors and the school told my parents that the way his brain works is that he thinks like a person half his age and has autism . Every year he was in school he would get yearly evaluations since he was in a life skill program. In high school the school encouraged my parents to get guardianship over him before he turned 18 because they believed he would need guidance for the rest of his life but my parents never got it done…
When my brother turned 18 I noticed my parents didn’t really take my brother’s disability seriously as much as they did when he was a kid. My brother turned 20 recently and he has been telling my parents that he wants to drive, get his drivers license and wants to get a job. My parents think he can just take a driving class and he will be fine. I worry about him driving because any time I have a conversation with him he doesn’t understand a lot of things and I have to repeat myself to him. He is also very unaware of his surroundings, he will asking me the same question about five times and he still doesn’t get it when I answer it. Also this past year my brother drove my parents cars around their land without them knowing and either dented their cars or drove into their fence. They’ve had to hide their keys and explain to him that he can’t do that but he still tries to drive their cars or anyone’s cars without permission. I worry for him alot. When I lived with my parents I was able to help them find resources for my brother but since I moved out they haven’t done much for him. I want help them but I don’t know what to do ? I tried doing google searches but I see so many different answers.
Would he have to get reevaluated as an adult?
Has anyone gone through the same thing as my brother? Thank you for taking the time to read my post, any advice is appreciated!
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Backup of the post’s body: Hello everyone, I listen to to THT all the time and love how everyone in the comments and on the podcast give friendly advice. I also posted this in another group called disability, I don’t know how to use Reddit very well… Sorry this is going to be very long but I feel like I need to give a bit of backstory.
Okay so my brother (20 M) has a learning disability and has been waiting to do everyday tasks like anyone else but I don’t feel like he can do them alone.
When my brother first started Pre-K his school noticed his delayed speech and did an evaluation on him. Doctors and the school told my parents that the way his brain works is that he thinks like a person half his age and has autism . Every year he was in school he would get yearly evaluations since he was in a life skill program. In high school the school encouraged my parents to get guardianship over him before he turned 18 because they believed he would need guidance for the rest of his life but my parents never got it done…
When my brother turned 18 I noticed my parents didn’t really take my brother’s disability seriously as much as they did when he was a kid. My brother turned 20 recently and he has been telling my parents that he wants to drive, get his drivers license and wants to get a job. My parents think he can just take a driving class and he will be fine. I worry about him driving because any time I have a conversation with him he doesn’t understand a lot of things and I have to repeat myself to him. He is also very unaware of his surroundings, he will asking me the same question about five times and he still doesn’t get it when I answer it. Also this past year my brother drove my parents cars around their land without them knowing and either dented their cars or drove into their fence. They’ve had to hide their keys and explain to him that he can’t do that but he still tries to drive their cars or anyone’s cars without permission. I worry for him alot. When I lived with my parents I was able to help them find resources for my brother but since I moved out they haven’t done much for him. I want help them but I don’t know what to do ? I tried doing google searches but I see so many different answers.
Would he have to get reevaluated as an adult?
Has anyone gone through the same thing as my brother? Thank you for taking the time to read my post, any advice is appreciated!
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Oh my goodness, that’s really hard. I hope people on here can give you advice on what to do. Unfortunately, if they’re in denial, I’m not sure what you can really do. You’ve said what needs to be said and if they’re not listening to you, that’s on THEM. I hope you can find some peace and good advice on here. You’re a really good sibling. It’s so hard to see what people are burying their head in the sand to avoid.