The friendship ended. He ended up dating another one of his best friends. We met up a few years ago and I texted him for his birthday and we reached out to each other randomly over the past 3 years, but that’s it.
I think it ran its course. The situationship sucked for me.
Well I did it once in high school and he quickly became super obsessed and weird so I broke it off and it ruined our friendship. I ended up doing it again in college (these were about 8 years apart) and now we’ve been together for 11 years June 2nd and married for 6.
We are still best friends. Nothing changed between us. We were friends for years and had a lot of trust in each other, and at that moment we were both single, and horny… so we were like “Uh, I guess we could help each other out”. We fucked and continued the friendship like nothing happened.
We dated for two years. He had been my best friend in high school. I had a MAJOR crush on him—I actually think I was in love with him. Eventually, our relationship plateaued and was going nowhere, so I ended things. I found out recently that his dad (who was always so kind, welcoming, & respectful) passed away earlier this year due to complications from diabetes and it took me a whole weekend to process it.
We stayed best friends for years after that. But he turned into a complete asshole who would sleep with 18 year olds (he is 32) and did other things. So I broke off contact. He messages me every now and then but that’s it
We dated for a couple years, but then broke up because I don’t want to have children and she does. It was a really messy breakup in the sense that we knew it had to happen because of the kid thing, but we still loved each other just as much as always. So we just kept putting it off and then once we were officially broken up we still ended up hooking up and hanging out all the time. Just a whole mess. She then moved to France (not because of the breakup, she was gonna do that anyway) and the physical distance helped a lot. We didn’t see each other at all for over two years and barely talked in that time. It helped create some distance and make the feelings go away. And then we became friends again. We have a much more casual friendship these days than we used to have, but we’re all good.
this was one of my best friends and we dated for a bit before we broke up (we were each other’s firsts and both young). about 6 years later we are now just good friends 🙂 otherwise i cant say ive ever slept with a best friend.
He cheated on me, lied to me about his job and then broke up with me. Now he stalks me and has little friends telling him about all the changes I make in my life
Met a guy on Tinder. It started out no strings attached, casual and nothing emotional but over time we became crazy about eachother and it moved into romantic territory but I soon ealized that, as much love as I had for him (and by the end of our friendship, I was seriously in love with him), I had some deep seated commitment, trust, and abandonment issues. It would have been unfair to put that on him. So we (albit reluctantly) mutually agreed to keep it as just friends with benefits, which eventually became too confusing, and we dialled it right back into just a close friendship. (Yes, rather messy, I know)
That friendship ended when he started getting serious with someone new. I was devastated. He had become my best friend. We talked all day every day about everything and nothing. To have that suddenly disappear overnight was heartbreaking.
He had met my friends and family. He even met my son once, just in a fleeting moment, but still — he was a huge fixture in my life. He would come over after my son went to bed, and we would share a bottle of wine and talk the night away. He was the first person I called when something good happened, and the first person I called when something bad did too. He was my person.
I completely understood why things had to change. His new partner was not comfortable with our history, and I get that. He needed to prioritize that relationship, and I respected his choice. But it did not make the loss any easier. I was not just losing a friend, I was losing the man I loved.
It has been about a year now. It does get easier, bit by bit. That said, I am still very much in love with him, and I still miss our friendship more than I can explain. For the first eight or nine months, I tried (probably against better judgment) to reach out and see if he would want to catch up, coffee, or something casual. He was always very polite but detached and vague. But I have come to terms with the fact that I needed to respect his boundaries and stop reaching out.
I have bumped into him a few times since, just out and about. He always seems happy to see me — he rushes over to hug me and ask how things are going. But to be honest, it is awkward on my end. Last time I saw him, I was shopping with my mum, and all he said was “Hey!” I flushed tomato red and went all awkward and flustered, which anyone who knows me would tell you is completely out of character. I am never like that. It is like seeing him knocks the air out of me for a second and sets my whole body on fire.
Will I move on? Who knows. Unfortunately theres no unsubscribe button to feelings (that i know of)
Would I recommend? Only if you enjoy slow emotional torture, crying in supermarket aisles, and the thrilling experience of having your heart fractured into oddly shaped pieces.
10 out of 10 character development, though. Would cry again.
Hooked up with her and her boyfriend, caught feelings for her, stopped hooking up. Now I’m just friends with both of them. I wish I could do casual with her cause it was really fun but I don’t think I’m built for that
The first time we met was on New Year’s Eve a couple years ago and we instantly connected and vibe and danced and ended up staying the night with me and we did have pretty damn good sex. The reason we never ended up together or more than just friends with benefits is because I am non-monogamous and he prefers monogamy when it comes to dating or seeing someone in that capacity.
However, still to this day, we are great friends and yes, we do occasionally have sex with each other couple times a year I would say in all honestly this is a try and true healthy friends with benefits relationship.
We never talked after. It’s been 20 years. We were both drunk and I dont remember well what happened, judt flashes. He avoided me at all costs and we never talked again. It happens i guess
She started acting like we were dating (we agreed it was a one time thing) and got upset whenever I spent time with another friend. Broke off the friendship (there were other reasons involved, but this one made me REALLY look at everything), haven’t spoken to her since, don’t want to.
It was SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUPER fucking awkward, mainly because it was also both our first times with another girl
We still talk nearly every single day, and both agreed not to do it again and just never talk about it again, we’re actually going out tonight to a new arcade, she’s my best friend still
Still friends with one like it never happened. The other one made things weird. Told me she didn’t know she loved me until we slept together. We stopped talking for a while. She reaches out from time to time but I don’t engage in conversations due to knowing her feelings.
Confessed our love for each other, dated she did and said very horrible things near the end. She will email once every few years faking for forgiveness, I will never respond.
My girl bestie and I are still best friends, we’ve had sex a million times over the last 13 years. My boy best friend and I lost our virginity to eachother and we don’t talk anymore lol
He died, so…..
Not from the sex though! The first time we did it was actually for a dare. It ended up sparking a 12(ish) year relationship, so I think I won that one really lol
It was kinda weird and now we never talk, its been about 10 years. There so a lot of sexual tension for years before hand, but nothing ever came of it once we did it. He seems happy, but I miss our friendship and it will never be the same.
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We’re still best friends.
We’re married😂
Probably hasn’t changed since the last 500 times this question has been asked.
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The friendship ended. He ended up dating another one of his best friends. We met up a few years ago and I texted him for his birthday and we reached out to each other randomly over the past 3 years, but that’s it.
I think it ran its course. The situationship sucked for me.
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Well I did it once in high school and he quickly became super obsessed and weird so I broke it off and it ruined our friendship. I ended up doing it again in college (these were about 8 years apart) and now we’ve been together for 11 years June 2nd and married for 6.
Married 😃
We’re cuddling on the couch in our underwear right now.
Still friends, he now has girlfriend, i really like her!
We are still best friends. Nothing changed between us. We were friends for years and had a lot of trust in each other, and at that moment we were both single, and horny… so we were like “Uh, I guess we could help each other out”. We fucked and continued the friendship like nothing happened.
We don’t talk anymore
We dated for two years. He had been my best friend in high school. I had a MAJOR crush on him—I actually think I was in love with him. Eventually, our relationship plateaued and was going nowhere, so I ended things. I found out recently that his dad (who was always so kind, welcoming, & respectful) passed away earlier this year due to complications from diabetes and it took me a whole weekend to process it.
We celebrate our 7 year wedding anniversary in October!
Reader, I married him (21 years ago…)
We are still married. 25 years in two weeks
We stayed best friends for years after that. But he turned into a complete asshole who would sleep with 18 year olds (he is 32) and did other things. So I broke off contact. He messages me every now and then but that’s it
We dated for a couple years, but then broke up because I don’t want to have children and she does. It was a really messy breakup in the sense that we knew it had to happen because of the kid thing, but we still loved each other just as much as always. So we just kept putting it off and then once we were officially broken up we still ended up hooking up and hanging out all the time. Just a whole mess. She then moved to France (not because of the breakup, she was gonna do that anyway) and the physical distance helped a lot. We didn’t see each other at all for over two years and barely talked in that time. It helped create some distance and make the feelings go away. And then we became friends again. We have a much more casual friendship these days than we used to have, but we’re all good.
this was one of my best friends and we dated for a bit before we broke up (we were each other’s firsts and both young). about 6 years later we are now just good friends 🙂 otherwise i cant say ive ever slept with a best friend.
He cheated on me, lied to me about his job and then broke up with me. Now he stalks me and has little friends telling him about all the changes I make in my life
Still doing it
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Met a guy on Tinder. It started out no strings attached, casual and nothing emotional but over time we became crazy about eachother and it moved into romantic territory but I soon ealized that, as much love as I had for him (and by the end of our friendship, I was seriously in love with him), I had some deep seated commitment, trust, and abandonment issues. It would have been unfair to put that on him. So we (albit reluctantly) mutually agreed to keep it as just friends with benefits, which eventually became too confusing, and we dialled it right back into just a close friendship. (Yes, rather messy, I know)
That friendship ended when he started getting serious with someone new. I was devastated. He had become my best friend. We talked all day every day about everything and nothing. To have that suddenly disappear overnight was heartbreaking.
He had met my friends and family. He even met my son once, just in a fleeting moment, but still — he was a huge fixture in my life. He would come over after my son went to bed, and we would share a bottle of wine and talk the night away. He was the first person I called when something good happened, and the first person I called when something bad did too. He was my person.
I completely understood why things had to change. His new partner was not comfortable with our history, and I get that. He needed to prioritize that relationship, and I respected his choice. But it did not make the loss any easier. I was not just losing a friend, I was losing the man I loved.
It has been about a year now. It does get easier, bit by bit. That said, I am still very much in love with him, and I still miss our friendship more than I can explain. For the first eight or nine months, I tried (probably against better judgment) to reach out and see if he would want to catch up, coffee, or something casual. He was always very polite but detached and vague. But I have come to terms with the fact that I needed to respect his boundaries and stop reaching out.
I have bumped into him a few times since, just out and about. He always seems happy to see me — he rushes over to hug me and ask how things are going. But to be honest, it is awkward on my end. Last time I saw him, I was shopping with my mum, and all he said was “Hey!” I flushed tomato red and went all awkward and flustered, which anyone who knows me would tell you is completely out of character. I am never like that. It is like seeing him knocks the air out of me for a second and sets my whole body on fire.
Will I move on? Who knows. Unfortunately theres no unsubscribe button to feelings (that i know of)
Would I recommend? Only if you enjoy slow emotional torture, crying in supermarket aisles, and the thrilling experience of having your heart fractured into oddly shaped pieces.
10 out of 10 character development, though. Would cry again.
married
Hooked up with her and her boyfriend, caught feelings for her, stopped hooking up. Now I’m just friends with both of them. I wish I could do casual with her cause it was really fun but I don’t think I’m built for that
My two best friends are now my best friends in a more life-partner-y way
The friendship ended, and we haven’t seen each other since
We started and never stopped. He and I happily have a baby on the way now 🙂
He’s sitting next to me yapping about football, we’re currently watching CL final at his place, and he’s taking care of my sprained foot 🥰
He’s married to my other best friend, whom he started dating a couple months after we hooked up. We all enjoy a good laugh about it
We’re married. 💕
15 years on, still having sex with him.
He wasn’t my best friend at the time we met.
The first time we met was on New Year’s Eve a couple years ago and we instantly connected and vibe and danced and ended up staying the night with me and we did have pretty damn good sex. The reason we never ended up together or more than just friends with benefits is because I am non-monogamous and he prefers monogamy when it comes to dating or seeing someone in that capacity.
However, still to this day, we are great friends and yes, we do occasionally have sex with each other couple times a year I would say in all honestly this is a try and true healthy friends with benefits relationship.
He is a close friend
We never talked after. It’s been 20 years. We were both drunk and I dont remember well what happened, judt flashes. He avoided me at all costs and we never talked again. It happens i guess
She started acting like we were dating (we agreed it was a one time thing) and got upset whenever I spent time with another friend. Broke off the friendship (there were other reasons involved, but this one made me REALLY look at everything), haven’t spoken to her since, don’t want to.
It was SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUPER fucking awkward, mainly because it was also both our first times with another girl
We still talk nearly every single day, and both agreed not to do it again and just never talk about it again, we’re actually going out tonight to a new arcade, she’s my best friend still
But man was it awkward LOL
Still friends with one like it never happened. The other one made things weird. Told me she didn’t know she loved me until we slept together. We stopped talking for a while. She reaches out from time to time but I don’t engage in conversations due to knowing her feelings.
We are still best friends. Talk everyday.
We’ve been together 12 years and have a 2 year old son.
Confessed our love for each other, dated she did and said very horrible things near the end. She will email once every few years faking for forgiveness, I will never respond.
She’s still my bestie, my husband loves her. I couldn’t live without her.
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My girl bestie and I are still best friends, we’ve had sex a million times over the last 13 years. My boy best friend and I lost our virginity to eachother and we don’t talk anymore lol
We are not friends. I unhealthily still have lots of bad feelings if not hatred towards him even about 7 years later.
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That was almost 50 years ago. We still exchange texts and photos from time to time. He came to my 50th high school reunion just to hang out.
We don’t speak 😬😬
Still have sex with her 33 years later.
We’ve been married for 18 years.
We are getting married in October.
He died, so…..
Not from the sex though! The first time we did it was actually for a dare. It ended up sparking a 12(ish) year relationship, so I think I won that one really lol
We had an on again, off again relationship for 4 years and now we haven’t talked in almost 10.
We were together for 36 years 33 married until she died last October
Married with a baby. So I’m pretty happy
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It was kinda weird and now we never talk, its been about 10 years. There so a lot of sexual tension for years before hand, but nothing ever came of it once we did it. He seems happy, but I miss our friendship and it will never be the same.
Still best friends, married with two kids. I feel so lucky to be living the dream.
We’re married with kids, and we’re still best friends lol.
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