I’ve noticed that not only has my physical preference in my taste of men done a 180, but also when it comes to their qualities and personalities.
Also recently I noticed that I finally seem to have gotten the difference between being treated right and being adored- if that makes sense. After 30 i started looking for men that was ”acting right”, but it has taken me 5 years to realize the difference between right and genuine.
What are your experiences with this?
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Everybody grows up and their tastes and priorities change with time and experience. What she used to consider insignificant can become important once you get older, and what you want considered important, sometimes considered trivial once you have more experience.
Yes.. I now don’t want to taste men at all lol! 😜
I feel like I am going in the opposite direction. Now I go more for the physical attraction than when I was young
As I approach 30 I’ve certainly found that my taste in men has changed. I agree with there being a difference between being right vs. genuine. A person can do all of the right things but have an absence of sincerity and heart.
I want a man who does the right things because that’s truly who he is and not because it’s what he thinks is expected transactionally.
Yes my taste has changed a lot. I used to go for men based on the negative way I felt about myself (tall, large men because I felt like I was too big, older men because I thought my youth was the only attractive thing about me, etc). Once I gained confidence and self esteem I could finally figure out what I actually found attractive.
Yeah. Physically I used to be into tall clean-shaven athletic men, now I prefer bearded bear type of men, dad bod is ideal.
As for personality, I used to prefer neurotic high-achievers, type A. Now I want someone nice and lowkey who gets shit done but doesn’t stress about it.
Yes and no. I think my taste in personality has remained the same, but I’m less picky about physical attributes. I also find older men more attractive than I used to; when I was in my twenties I would think of needing to find someone in their thirties at oldest, now I’m into my thirties myself care less about that.
Yes, I’m married so my attraction to my husband hasn’t changed but even as I’m watching TV and just experiencing the world now, I feel like my tastes have changed quite a bit. I remember watching The Big Bang Theory in my twenties and feeling completely befuddled by the idea that anybody would ever find Leonard attractive as he just seemed to very obviously – well, not, to me. Maybe a year or two ago I saw some old episodes of the show, and thought – waitaminute, Leonard was actually a real cutie! No wonder Penny fell for him over time 🤷♀️
It’s random stuff like that that makes me realise I’m not as glued to conventional attractiveness standards as I used to be, and not even out of any conscious effort to change them; I just seem to see the world differently now. I’m also not attracted to boybanders the way I was as a teen and early twenties, even though I still think they’re very beautiful men. Otherwise, though, I think I’m still pretty consistent… like the celeb I currently find most attractive is Manny Jacinto and he fits a similar mold as men I had posters in my locker of back in high school (Won Bin anyone, lol) 🤓
It definitely did. I prioritise men who are acting like an adult over anything else now. The real test would be how they treat me when I’m sick/unwell.
My taste hasn’t really changed, but I’ve definitely gotten sharper in what I look for. I can now look back on past relationships and see where someone was stringing me along or where I tolerated things for way too long. It’s less about physical preference and more about recognizing what’s truly compatible with me. Like you mentioned, there’s a big difference between being treated right and being adored, and I’ve gotten much better at recognizing when someone is genuinely invested and not just putting on a show.
My shift happened in my late 20s but yes it was significant. A bad long term relationship followed by living completely on my own for the first time really allowed me time to create my life and my own peace and I had more drive to protect my new way of living. Before, chaos felt like a normal thing and I didn’t have clear boundaries or ideas on what was acceptable and normal.
My taste in men hasn’t changed all that much, but I have figured out I am a LOT gayer than I realized. I used to think I was nearly straight and yeah, that is definitely not the case.