My JNMIL has been an issue for 8 years. Before I got engaged we got along well. After we got engaged her true colors showed, but the absolute worst of it all was after we had a baby.
I still can’t stand her but with therapy and serious boundaries including extremely low contact (just me) things in my marriage have improved. My DH doesn’t see her terrible behaviors.
Recently he brought up again that he wishes I gave her a chance to clear the air but I was trying to explain to him why I don’t trust her.
Tonight while scrolling I came across a video that said ChatGPT will read a conversation or texts and tell you who the problem is. I laughed but also decided to try it.
I copied the text message she sent and labeled it person 1. I copied my response to her and labeled it person 2. I copied her response to me and labeled it person 1 again. It broke down each message by saying how the tone sounded, the points that were being made, wether it was fair or not. This gave me validation and ideas how to rephrase this to my husband. It pointed out that she was using emotional manipulation and did not take any accountability.
So, silly as it sounds, maybe this will help someone else in this group get some validation.
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