Mothers who do not like babies but had kids, how was your motherhood journey throughout your kids’ childhood phases?
Mothers who do not like babies but had kids, how was your motherhood journey throughout your kids’ childhood phases?
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Mothers who do not like babies but had kids, how was your motherhood journey throughout your kids’ childhood phases?
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I can’t say I don’t like babies. I love babies but I don’t like toddlers or small children. I have 5 kids. I loved the baby stage but like age 1 1/2 til age 9 or 10 I was mostly in survival mode lol
The potato phase was ight, breastfeeding was the pits. Thankfully I am an awesome toddler Mom and am looking forward to the rest of childhood as I love kids!! We are pregnant number two and we both say how we just need to survive labor and the next two years. I believe all parents and kiddos have super powers so it’s ok if you’re better at one phase than another. My friend loves the potato phase and does not dread it like me. But she struggles with toddlers. Soo you know do your best.
Wouldn’t say I don’t like babies but I’m definitely loving the child phases more, which is good as the baby bit is just hard work for a year or two. The other phases last longer.
I have a child. I love babies and dislike kids. Believe it or not babies are easy.
I didn’t particularly like babies, but I loved my own. It’s like I feel disgusted by poop and throw up, but had zero issues with cleaning up my kids bodily fluids. It’s exhausting for a lot of reasons, but the thing is you get to know someone from the very beginning and majorly shaping who they become. So even if it exhausting now, you think, if I do this now, I will have a wonderful friend later on. My kid is 10 now, and I adored him the same through all the years, but I love the phase since about 6 years old. He is such a fun buddy and we just hang out now.
I wouldn’t say I didn’t like babies, but I never wanted kids.
Didnt have experience with babies really until I had my own.
Ended up pregnant and couldn’t in good conscience abort. I ended up caring more about my child than I did myself. And I know it sounds cheesy, but when she was born, it was an epiphany, as if true love never truly existed until that moment, holding her, marvelling at this perfect little being I somehow created. She’s 14 now and rude AF, but that deep love is still there lol. When she was little, I used to sing to her, when she was around five or six she told me to stop singing to her because “it made her sleepy” which I think was a compliment. That being said, it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. Raising kids is HARD and sometimes completely miserable. It’s definitely a sacrifice of what you want for yourself vs being a mom. But ultimately, being a mom is incredible. Never wanted kids, but now, I can’t fathom existing without them. There is no other feeling like when your baby or child or even teenager cuddles up to you, clinging to you as their safety and security, because you’ve always been that. And I get to pass down my little knowledge and my home and items when I go, to this little person that is kind of half me and loves me more than any spouse could. Never wanted kids, but I don’t regret having them at all.
The best advice my spouse and I received was that “it’s okay to feel negative emotions”. The words used were stronger. 😀
The first 8 months were tough. Got easier after that.