I love being told I am doing house chores wrong by my partner; whom I have never in 20 years seen vacuum or wash a dish.
But yeah. I am doing it wrong.
I love being told I am doing house chores wrong by my partner; whom I have never in 20 years seen vacuum or wash a dish.
But yeah. I am doing it wrong.
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Fuck that.
I mean, yeah, isn’t that just typical? They think they can critique our every move, but when’s the last time you saw them picking up a vacuum?
And sure, maybe we could do better too. But jeez, it’d be nice if they tried once in a while!
My dad has this thing (that he still does even though I’m 32 and live on my own) where he has to reaaaaalllly mansplain the proper way to put carpet powder down before vacuuming. It makes me insane.
Meanwhile he has to take 10 minutes to figure out how to turn the oven on to make a frozen pizza.
Don’t pay him any mind. He wants it done differently he can get his lazy ass up and do it himself.
Absofuckinglutely not.
“Why don’t you show me the right way then”
It’s even more fun when his method of “cleaning” is to just coat everything with febreze.
Just stop doing it, since you’re so bad at it. Maybe if your partner demonstrates a few times, you’ll get the hang of it.
Maybe.
“Okay. It’s your job now.”
It’s now their job. Don’t do anything anymore.
If you’re so bad at it, stop and let him do it.
Ok bub, it’s your job now
You are absolutely doing it wrong. What you should actually be doing is nothing for his judgemental ass.
I told my husband long ago if he didn’t like it, he could do it himself. I meant it, and he knew, so he kept his mouth shut. The thing is, if they’re going to do a job, then you have to shut up and let them. It works both ways. He leaves cleaning up the kitchen after dinner, often til the next morning. It bugs me, but I’ve learned to live with it because once I’ve cooked and eaten, I’m done. I don’t want to clean up. My timeliness isn’t his.
This happened once in our house. And now we split the chores, after I went on strike and didn’t lift a finger for weeks.
Every time they open their mouth, just stop and walk away. Sit down and do not get up again for at least an hour.
I didn’t like the way my wife did laundry so I took it over completely. No complaints, no advice. Just me doing it.
He’s right. He is now officially in charge of said chores.
Man I don’t miss having this kind of partner lol. My fiancé now would be like “why would i complain about how you do the dishes? You doing them means I don’t have to!”
Put the vacuum down, get your purse, and leave. Go have the most fun day you can imagine. Do NOT answer his texts or phone calls. IF you feel like returning, dont do any housework. Ignore him until he decides to apologize.
Fair Play book and card game if the relationship is salvageable. Lawyer if it’s not.
Why are you doing everything?
Evangelical men are really bad about this. Something something biblical gender roles. And you better have the right expression on your face while you slave away too!
Divorce and find someone that will go out of their way to make you happy.
Match that energy!
Why do you have to be perfect but he doesn’t even have to try?
Do you want to spend the next 20 years still doing for after them?
This shouldn’t be normalized, most men I’ve dated were able to clean after themselves.
So stop doing them, next time he says it calmly reply”ok, no worries I’ll stop then” and hold fast. Wash yourvien clothes, cook your own meals keep your things clean bug ignore everything else.
Tell him that.
That’s when I stop doing said chore. If I’m incapable of doing it properly, then hey, have at it! Show me how to do it right! And continue doing it forever.
My wife used to tell me I was folding towels wrong
I just told her it was better they got folded in any way than not folded at all but if she wanted it a specific way she could fold them, or she could be happy I was doing it.
We also made a great deal when we got married where I don’t have to run the vacuum 99% of the time because I hate running a vacuum cleaner but I will do 99% of all the dishes because she hates touching dirty dishes I figured that’s a fair trade especially since you do way more dishes in a house than you do vacuuming and I love washing dishes
I had a manager a while back who told me a story about her and her husband when they were first married. She was vacuuming the house one day and husband complained, something like she should be making straight lines on the carpet or something. She turned the vacuum off and put in front of him. Says she never said a word and never vacuumed the house again. Knowing her, I believed it. Be like Joan.
Time to get your partner to start doing those chores.
If he thinks you’re doing it wrong, agree and say that’s why it’s now his responsibility since only he can do it right
Fair play to my partner: he’s the one that mainly cleans the toilet. He does a good job on the top and inside, but he never cleans the bottom outside of the bowl. I don’t mention it though.
He also does daytime washing up and I do the evening washing up. He’s fairly good at that though a bit shit at wiping the counter sometimes.
He never vacuums though (TBF I rarely vacuum either!)
“You’re so right. You’re much better at that than me so I’ll let you do it from here on out. Thanks babe!”