What’s something people often think is sexy, but actually turns you off?

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What’s something people often think is sexy, but actually turns you off?

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  1. agroupofone Avatar

    Dumb questions

  2. FailureSpecialiste Avatar

    FORCED bedroom voice makes me cringe so hard to the point that i want to throw myself off a cliff

  3. harlameme Avatar

    I don’t want anybody singing to me. Ever. Do. Not.

  4. fatbabyotters_ Avatar

    Thirst traps.Trying to be sexy. The secondhand embarrassment makes me want to disappear.

  5. Outrageous-Proof4630 Avatar

    Calling themselves daddy

  6. LocksmithComplete501 Avatar

    Can’t be doing with lingerie with all the garters etc I think women are way hotter in yoga pants and a crop top

  7. BlasphemousFriend Avatar

    Cum shots or spitting

  8. subtletytame Avatar

    I don’t know anyone who thinks it’s sexy and idk why it even happens but any “baby talk” = disgust

  9. sdbabygirl97 Avatar

    😉 in texts. just gives me the ick

  10. Toucan2000 Avatar

    Dirty talk. Pet names

  11. drainbead78 Avatar

    Anything that seems even remotely unpleasant for the other person involved. I hate the porn thing where women are gagging on dick during blowjobs, for example.

  12. Littlewing1307 Avatar

    If we don’t know each other and you call me a pet name. No! That shit is earned

  13. Weird-Syllabub-1054 Avatar

    Dirty talk and role play. I just want to have a shag, not to be part of an amateur dramatic performance.

  14. supwenzzz Avatar

    Men that post selfies. Call me a hypocrite. I don’t care. Lol

  15. Petite_Paula Avatar

    Any guy that uses the term “alpha”

  16. badjokesrad Avatar

    Controversial opinion , but abs. Or overly toned /built up muscles. A lanky guy with some soft squishy spots is what really gets me going

  17. RunEnvironmental208 Avatar

    When a man thinks intensity is power, and not restraint.
    The way some men “grab” like the desire should justify itself.
    But the ones who wait…
    that silence before touch—
    that’s what undoes me.
    Everything else feels like noise.

  18. kyra_reads111 Avatar

    Writing a poem or love letter for your partner.

  19. ajuicycontradiction Avatar

    Nibbling my ear, holy fuck. My ex husband thought he was so sexy doing that but the sound, the sensation EVERYTHING about it made me cringe. And I told him I hated it repeatedly yet he’d still do it. Thank fuck that’s over with.

  20. quien-quief24 Avatar

    the two finger tongue flicking thing.

  21. popzelda Avatar

    Calling themselves dominant when they have no idea what it means. This usually ends up as toxic behavior.

  22. fallen_angel017 Avatar

    Men over 6ft tall and really buff dudes. I don’t want someone who can easily overpower me, that’d I’d have no chance in getting away from in an altercation.

  23. Affectionate_Law1287 Avatar

    Anyone but LL Kool J doing that lip thing

  24. glitterbombbae Avatar

    Boys wanting “as it was seen in porn” body

  25. hailasushi Avatar

    acting nonchalant, calling themselves “daddy”, calling me “pet” or “kitten”

    disgusting.

  26. Jolly-Persimmon-7775 Avatar

    Do most people think Prince Alberts are sexy? I’ve discovered I do not think they’re sexy anymore after having experienced one.

  27. iloverocket26 Avatar

    Guys who wear skinny jeans 🤢

  28. ThrowyMcThrowaway04 Avatar

    Uniforms, especially military uniforms.

  29. Faith_over_fear826 Avatar

    Rubbing my clit like they’re trying to scrub food off a plate…good lord

  30. skinnindbones Avatar

    Biting my lip during kissing. STOP! IT’S AWKWARD!!!!!

  31. Informal_Walk5520 Avatar

    Men with muscles and bulging veins. Visual lumps of veins is so gross.

  32. LittleRedShaman Avatar

    Spit…spitting in my mouth…spitting on a dick…spitting on my pussy…I get so grossed out even watching porn when someone does that. 🤢🤢

  33. ThrowRAboredinAZ77 Avatar

    The V shaped lower abdomen area some men have.

  34. Rad1Red Avatar

    Men asserting themselves and trying to dominate me.

    God, it dries me up.

  35. luckysilverdragon Avatar

    People who flirt by pointing out size differences. So many men will try to flirt by acknowledging how much bigger they are compared to me (height and hand size usually being the most common things) and it just feels threatening in my opinion. I also hate the flipside where I see women flirting with men by pointing out how small or petite they are compared to the man they’re flirting with. It just feels so icky and cringe.

  36. Pottheadpotato Avatar

    Nibbling on my ear. I fucking CANT stand it. Ugh. I don’t want a soggy fucking earlobe. Just leave it alone.

  37. --Miranda-- Avatar

    Tall guys. I’m pretty tall for a woman (5’9″) but never really been particularly attracted to tall men. Not necessarily a “turn off” but I’ve always preferred pretty average height and before I married I dated plenty of “shorter” men.

  38. oxfordcommaalways Avatar

    Excessively long fingernails. I think women that have them think men like it but I have found it to be the opposite.

  39. Photog_72 Avatar

    Completely bald down there, don’t understand the fascination and just seems wrong.
    A nicely manicured one everyday please.

  40. rj_sherbs Avatar

    Muscles that look like they’re about to explode

  41. Successful-Ad4992 Avatar

    Men trying to be dominant or assuming all women want to be submissive during sex 

  42. 1FolleSurT3rre Avatar

    Comparing himself to other men I had. Like « I give more pleasure than your ex » dude can we not talk about other people rn

  43. Livid_Parsnip6190 Avatar

    Opening doors for me.

    If you want to show me you care for me and make my life easier, just pick up after yourself or wipe down a countertop or something.

  44. WistfulQuiet Avatar

    Dirty talk or even what people call praise kink. Like ” You’re doing so good.” What…am I a fucking dog? Or it feels like he’s doing something to me when they say shit like that. As if I’m not participating too.

    Any kind of porn moves turn me right off. And degradation. I’m not into that shit.

    So…that eliminates a lot of sexual partners these days.

  45. Lynx45467757 Avatar

    Baby talk
    Acting tough
    ‘mommy’
    ‘baby’
    Flexing muscles

  46. Mrs_Naive_ Avatar

    Posing like the coolest guy ever. Approaching like the absolute winner that is so generous so as to graciously paying you some attention, but not very much… disgusting. Either socially awkward or natural.

  47. Tree-Hugger42 Avatar

    Playing with my ears at all.

  48. EverydayGG Avatar

    Growling. Had a guy literally snarl at me like a lion and I’ve never been so dry so quick

  49. Sufficient_Oil_3552 Avatar

    I’m a guy , but I know that woman in my experience don’t like it when guys name their penis.

  50. regularforcesmedic Avatar

    Fully removing body hair. No pubic hair. 

  51. rosegoldblonde Avatar

    Anything degrading. Sorry but if your idea of sexy is degrading your partner I’m running far far away.

  52. thislifesucks3 Avatar

    muscular men, like body builders or extreme puffy muscles, i would even say puffy muscles in general. it’s very weird when you watch tv shows/ movies that reiterates how attractive it is, like jason momoa, it’s so annoying to constantly look at him shirtless. that’s just me tho.

  53. Raza_Sus Avatar

    Probably BDSM or BONDAGE listen im not going to start hating on you just because you like certain things and whatnot but unfortunately that makes me uncomfortable

  54. StrongFreeBrave Avatar

    Any sentence said by a dude where he addresses women as “females”.

    Instant sex talk, jokes, innuendo, hints, turning anything I say into something sexual. Some guys peg you as a prude which isn’t the case. Go flash your lame jokes and community D elsewhere to somebody who’s desperate.

  55. Tough-Midnight9137 Avatar

    I hate HATE anything to do with spit. literally gives me chills and makes me feel like I’m going to vomit.

  56. ScottPetersonsWiener Avatar

    DONT call me baby unless we’re in a long term relationship

  57. RunEnvironmental208 Avatar

    When he bites my neck like it’s supposed to be primal…
    but he’s doing it with zero rhythm, zero pause,
    like he saw it in a movie once and thought pain equals passion.
    It’s not the teeth—it’s the absence of presence.

  58. Natataya Avatar

    Honestly, the dominance shit makes me uncomfortable not only the dominant guys. The overly submissive ones are worse. My ex was one of those and he would make me cringe so bad. So much that I stopped enjoying sex.

  59. limonadebeef Avatar

    i don’t. want to swallow a dude’s cum. i don’t want to taste that thing. it’s gross.

  60. Hoboken27 Avatar

    Dirty panties,

  61. Pallastro Avatar

    Beards and overly masculine appearance