so hey, i 15m dont know what to do with this situation or how i can make this better. yesterday i met up with one of my friends 14f to chill out, however i wasnt allowed to leave the house as a week ago i was suspended from school, anyway all is well, i meet up with her and were hanging out but she tells me she wants some alcohol. me, not wanting to upset her and to make her happy get her some jack Daniels. she has a small amount (roughly 50ml) and is done with it, she seems good, until around 10 minutes later. shes crying her eyes out giving me her life story for the best part of 2 hours. im trying my best to comfort her and get her some help that she might need but she is refusing it. by this time (around 7pm uk time) she was meant to be home or on the way home but she was not, her phone starts to blow up with calls from her family to see where she is, and they are also messaging me however neither of us answered them as we didnt know what to say as her parents didnt know she had had a drink and was drunk. so at the point i get a call from my father asking why they have a message from my friends parents asking whats happened / happening. i tell him but my friend takes my phone and starts talking to him saying its her fault for what happened. after around 20 minutes my parents arrive home to see her trying to leave, while barley being able to walk and not knowing where she is so im not letting her go because she could hurt or even kill herself and i dont want that to happen. at this point im bringing her back to my place and get my parents to call her parents. me and her get talking again but this time she tells me to lie to my parents to cover for myself, tell my parents that she was drunk when i met her even tho she wasnt. so i do that but i also try to protect her from getting into trouble. after maybe 1 hour (around 9pm) her parents arrive at my house to come and get her, she is putting up a fight with her parents at my house because she doesnt want to go with them, im not able to have her stay at mine as i dont have the space in my house for her to sleep and her parents had driven over an hour to get to her. when my friend goes to get her stuff from inside my house, her mother starts asking me questions such as where she was when i met her and if she was already drunk when i met her, to which i tell her the same as i told my parents but my friend has a history of this, with drugs and alcohol. anyway, i answer her questions and they leave. about an hour later (10pm) my mother gets a message from her parents again with some more questions such as did i meet her and was she already drunk? and asking me about a picture she took of us cuddled up together in my bed, asking if we were doing anything to which we were not so i tell my parents that and they seemed happy with that. but then because what i told my parents and what i told her parents about the drinks dont match up she asks again and again, i was being uncovered by my own parents after they had found the bottle of jack Daniels i had given her some of. so im busted, giving one of my friends alcohol as a minor myself. i dont know what to do at this point as it was too late to say anything else. i leave it until the morning (date of this post) to see what happened the night before. i find out that this morning, her parents have contacted my school with the picture and also contacted a child protection agency in the UK. this is bad news as my family are foster carers. i dont know what this could do for me or my family. please help me understand this.
TL;DR: got my underage friend drunk and her parents have contacted a child protection agency and i dont know what to do.
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Typical teenage stuff don’t even stress 🙂 i know it feels like the world on your shoulder right now, but in a year you’ll barely remember this incident. I was a horribly rebellious teenager, drinking every weekend, dropped out of school, stolen our friends mums car, broken elbow while stealing from a shop etc. I did alot of crazy and bad stuff. I’m now 30 with 2 kids, not a criminal or crazy, just a normal mum with 2 kids. Teenagers do teenage stuff, you do it and learn from it and never do it again.
Don’t be so hard on yourself okay, you’re only young once. Just learn from all your mistakes and don’t do them again, you’ll be fine 🙂
At some point, the adults are going to realize that they took were kids and did the same stupid stuff you did. Should you even had the alcohol? No. Should you have given it to your friend? No. You both are just going to have to cop to what you did and apologize. That’s the only way through. Just lying about it now will make it worse.
I think you are just going to have to stand up straight, try too do the adult thing and confess. Let the consequences work themselves out. Hopefully your parents will understand and help protect you from the worst of this.
You will probably be fine. In the end, neither you or your friend were hurt. It’s a screw up, but everyone will move on. Don’t worry too much!
Someone here will have better advice than me. However, i was you a long time ago. Am not from UK. I dont know how things work out there. Ive had girlfriends when i was around that age and in my older years that had very little tolerance for alcohol and it often did not end well. You do not ever want to be put in this position again. People will say what they want, i think your heart was in the right place. You didnt take advantage of her and it doesnt sound like she was ready to throw you under the bus. I also dont know how foster care and police etc. work out there. If this is something you can’t manage to sweep under the rug, you MAY want to just speak your side and sincerely apologize to your/her family and take whatever consequences like a man. Then again, i dont know if incriminating yourself is a good idea in this case esp if pilice are liable to get involved. Here, if you were 16 as opposed to her age, thatd be a whole different issue but youre both very young. As i said, someone else will probably have better advice but i hope that you and her get past this and that things get better. These things happen and you can only learn from your mistakes and not repeat them.. you have so much more to do in life and one day, this will be a foggy memory my friend. Best of luck
If you are ever in a situation like this again, please don’t give your underage friend alcohol.
So many rookie mistakes.
Don’t get shitfaced when you have to get home afterwards, and face the parents, I mean that’s just stupid.
Not answering the phone is also worsening every situation like you are better off lying your ass off, rather than have the parents not knowing anything and have their kid not answering the phone. Their next move was obviously calling your parents.
A photo of teenagers cuddling where is the problem?
OK, so, I understand all the people saying you’ll be fine and everyone will understand, but I doubt they are in the UK and know how the situation works for CPS in the UK. I’m not trying to scare you, but I’m telling you you and your parents need to protect yourselves.
This is a very complex situation in the UK. Talk to your parents and tell them to lock away all the alcohol and vouch for your story that you didn’t give her anything. Tell them to say you couldn’t possibly have access to alcohol as theirs is locked and you are a minor and couldn’t buy it yourself. CPS is no joke in the UK and the possibility of both you and your parents being in trouble is real.
I’m strongly against lying, but this situation calls for it, otherwise the consequences might be dire. You were trying to help a friend and don’t deserve to end up in the system for it.
And please, please, never do something like this ever again. Wishing you the best
Lesson learned: avoid women, at all costs.
Mods, can we please make a rule about titles in this sub and that they have to at least somewhat mention what the fuck up actually was?
Bro, for the love of god, learn how to use punctuation!
You were confused. You didn’t give her alcohol. She was drunk she came over and brought the alcohol with her. You don’t know what she said to her parents when she got home or why the story didn’t line up. She was drunk so she probably didn’t remember what she was doing. You were upset and trying to help her, and you are just a kid, so of course you got muddled when you were asked repeatedly what happened. It was scary. Got it?
Get your story locked down with your parents and don’t change it again. She was drunk and you weren’t. She has a history of drinking. Breathe. She’s already in trouble. You don’t have to be.
you could use double line spacing to create paragraphs
like this
so your fups are at least readable