Last year, I was walking home late at night when a guy standing by the road said hi and started a short conversation. After a minute, he offered to give me a ride. I said no, but then he asked for my number. I gave it to him because I was scared he might follow me and find out where I live if I refused. The next day, I lost someone close to me and was in a really bad state of mind. I didn’t respond to any of his texts. Then he started messaging me on WhatsApp, so I blocked him there. After that, he messaged me on Snapchat, and I blocked him there too. Yesterday, I got a phone call from a No Caller ID number. I answered, and it was him. He acted like we talk all the time and casually asked what I was doing this weekend, suggesting we grab a coffee. I told him I wasn’t interested, but he kept pushing, asking to meet just once. Is this normal?
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Backup of the post’s body: Last year, I was walking home late at night when a guy standing by the road said hi and started a short conversation. After a minute, he offered to give me a ride. I said no, but then he asked for my number. I gave it to him because I was scared he might follow me and find out where I live if I refused. The next day, I lost someone close to me and was in a really bad state of mind. I didn’t respond to any of his texts. Then he started messaging me on WhatsApp, so I blocked him there. After that, he messaged me on Snapchat, and I blocked him there too. Yesterday, I got a phone call from a No Caller ID number. I answered, and it was him. He acted like we talk all the time and casually asked what I was doing this weekend, suggesting we grab a coffee. I told him I wasn’t interested, but he kept pushing, asking to meet just once. Is this normal?
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When a person says no to anything, and the other person pushes, that’s unhealthy and NOT normal. He doesn’t need a speech about why you aren’t interested. Back off dude. Take the steps you need to feel safe.
I would definitely communicate the situation to someone else you know well, call the non-emergency to file whatever report you can. Obviously he hasn’t done anything but you want this to documented and communicated.
Sounds like you’ve made it clear you aren’t interested. Continue to block and avoid — but definitely make sure you’ve let friends/family know and consider formal reporting.
I would’ve blocked him the moment he texted me. It’s not normal. If you can, maybe get a camera so if he shows up at your place, you can get enough to file for a restraining order if possible. A good guy would’ve stopped at the first No and moved on.
Is there a confident male friend or relative that you are generally around ?
if so maybe let them know how this guy is pressuring you and when he contacts you again they can firmly tell him to back off
IMO. every woman needs a dummy number to give to the jerk in a situation like this. Back in the pre-smart phone era, I gave out the number for a funeral home and the address for a cemetery. The good ol’ days!
Next time this happens to you don’t be afraid to say no I’m not interested. Repeat it necessary and move to a neighbors house or a public location and say it again loudly with a witness. Leave no room for interpretation no means no.
I’m sorry, but never give your phone number to somebody you’re not really interested in.
No is a complete sentence.
I once was given the advice to get rid of someone like this by being bland, boring, not engaging, just kind of a potted plant. The idea is that if you’re nice, they latch onto that, and if you’re rude or mean or tell them off, they’ll latch onto that. But boring and bland doesn’t give them anything to latch onto. It did work in that case… I was just spectacularly boring in a phone conversation, didn’t ask any questions or say much of anything, all in kind of a bland, slightly dimwitted way. Maybe things have progressed too far to try this, but it’s a handy tool in the toolbox.
You actually gave him your real phone number? 😂