I’ve never posted before but I’m so angry and upset that I can’t sleep and need to rant. My (26 F) little brother (24 M) broke up with his ex girlfriend (23 F) a year ago. He just realised that they wanted different things in life etc. They had bought a house together which they eventually mutually decided to rent out. They are both now in new relationships and ever since she’s been with her new guy (not sure how old he is, I think he might be the same age?) she’s started being really nasty to my brother and now wanting to sell the house immediately. We think so she can buy a house with new guy. This is a stupid financial move for both of them as they would have to pay some kind of fee plus they have tenants in. They sent increasingly nasty and threatening legal actions against brother. He offered to buy her out and has just completed all the paperwork in order to do that.
Last night he went back to the house to collect some of his belongings from her (ex) that he had been told would be at the house. When he got there he found that they had changed the locks without telling him, meaning he had to call up the ex who told him that she would be there in 10 minutes. She rocks up with her new partner (who does some sort of jujitsu quite seriously from what I could tell online – he has a whole account dedicated to it), his dad and his mum (both in there 50s I believe). Both the Dad and the new partner are massive blokes and my brother is over 6ft and lean. Hes super into his triathlons and marathons. He’s not scrawny by any means but not a body builder like this new guy. They immediately start having a go at my brother, who had gone to the house alone. He starts trying to say that he’s got all the paperwork so she can get her money but they’re answering for her (the ex) while she’s staying quiet. The dad is getting right in his face and spitting at him. They somehow get my brother into the house where they push him to the ground in the corridor. The new guy gets on top of him and strangles him and then the dad proceeds to do the same. The mum has to get the dad off of him in the end and I am sick to my stomach thinking about what could have happened had she not done that. I could have so easily lost my baby brother last night! If you’re wondering where the ex was during all of this, she was in the kitchen vaping and crying…(I obviously wasn’t there and I don’t have all the play by play but this is what I know right now).
My brother then tries to call the police, the mum snatches his phone out of his hands and he statches it back (they’re trying to now say that his wounds are because the mum faught back but that would cause the scratches and bruising on his neck). Eventually the police arrive and my brother is taken into the station to give a statement which somehow takes all night. He’s FINALLY seen by the paramendic who can’t believe he hasn’t been seen because he has a head injury! He was finally taken to A&E (accident and emergency for those that aren’t from the UK) where the nurses properly documented everything and say that all of his wounds are consistent with the story he’s told. Not a single one of them was arrested. In fact they were giving their statement today! Right now it’s their word against his. I am so fuming! How on earth can scum like this walk around and think it’s okay to treat someone like this over £12,000!!!!! We all want to press charges but there’s a lack of evidence that it was them that attacked him. What can we do? How can we make sure they face the consequences of their actions? Or is the system just screwed?
Side notes: -We’re worried for the ex – we think the new partner and his family are controlling her and trying to get the money. Alternatively she’s been spinning some story for them to think that this is justifiable?!
I can’t stop thinking about how premeditated this all was! I might be super worked up right now but could you even go as far to say this was attempted murder?!
How do we get these mofos to pay but not by stooping to their level? I’m sorry if this is all over the place. Its midnight and I’ve just been holding my 4 month old baby girl super tight wondering what kind of a world this is and when did we stop remembering that each person is someone’s baby? Our mum is currently staying with me and my heartbreaks for her knowing someone thought it was okay to treat her baby boy like this. He has done absolutely nothing to deserve this. No one ever does. But he is such a beautiful human and I am so proud to be his big sister. I have so much post partum rage right now as it is. I feel like I could take all four of them on. Please tell me there’s some hope for justice?
TLDR: my brother was lured to the house he joint shares with his ex girlfriend, she shows up to the house with her new boyfriend and his parents. They then attack him and strangle him inside. There were no other witnesses because they took him inside. Is it just his word against theirs? What can we do to make a case to get them charged?
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Backup of the post’s body: I’ve never posted before but I’m so angry and upset that I can’t sleep and need to rant. My (26 F) little brother (24 M) broke up with his ex girlfriend (23 F) a year ago. He just realised that they wanted different things in life etc. They had bought a house together which they eventually mutually decided to rent out. They are both now in new relationships and ever since she’s been with her new guy (not sure how old he is, I think he might be the same age?) she’s started being really nasty to my brother and now wanting to sell the house immediately. We think so she can buy a house with new guy. This is a stupid financial move for both of them as they would have to pay some kind of fee plus they have tenants in. They sent increasingly nasty and threatening legal actions against brother. He offered to buy her out and has just completed all the paperwork in order to do that.
Last night he went back to the house to collect some of his belongings from her (ex) that he had been told would be at the house. When he got there he found that they had changed the locks without telling him, meaning he had to call up the ex who told him that she would be there in 10 minutes. She rocks up with her new partner (who does some sort of jujitsu quite seriously from what I could tell online – he has a whole account dedicated to it), his dad and his mum (both in there 50s I believe). Both the Dad and the new partner are massive blokes and my brother is over 6ft and lean. Hes super into his triathlons and marathons. He’s not scrawny by any means but not a body builder like this new guy. They immediately start having a go at my brother, who had gone to the house alone. He starts trying to say that he’s got all the paperwork so she can get her money but they’re answering for her (the ex) while she’s staying quiet. The dad is getting right in his face and spitting at him. They somehow get my brother into the house where they push him to the ground in the corridor. The new guy gets on top of him and strangles him and then the dad proceeds to do the same. The mum has to get the dad off of him in the end and I am sick to my stomach thinking about what could have happened had she not done that. I could have so easily lost my baby brother last night! If you’re wondering where the ex was during all of this, she was in the kitchen vaping and crying…(I obviously wasn’t there and I don’t have all the play by play but this is what I know right now).
My brother then tries to call the police, the mum snatches his phone out of his hands and he statches it back (they’re trying to now say that his wounds are because the mum faught back but that would cause the scratches and bruising on his neck). Eventually the police arrive and my brother is taken into the station to give a statement which somehow takes all night. He’s FINALLY seen by the paramendic who can’t believe he hasn’t been seen because he has a head injury! He was finally taken to A&E (accident and emergency for those that aren’t from the UK) where the nurses properly documented everything and say that all of his wounds are consistent with the story he’s told. Not a single one of them was arrested. In fact they were giving their statement today! Right now it’s their word against his. I am so fuming! How on earth can scum like this walk around and think it’s okay to treat someone like this over £12,000!!!!! We all want to press charges but there’s a lack of evidence that it was them that attacked him. What can we do? How can we make sure they face the consequences of their actions? Or is the system just screwed?
Side notes: -We’re worried for the ex – we think the new partner and his family are controlling her and trying to get the money. Alternatively she’s been spinning some story for them to think that this is justifiable?!
I can’t stop thinking about how premeditated this all was! I might be super worked up right now but could you even go as far to say this was attempted murder?!
How do we get these mofos to pay but not by stooping to their level? I’m sorry if this is all over the place. Its midnight and I’ve just been holding my 4 month old baby girl super tight wondering what kind of a world this is and when did we stop remembering that each person is someone’s baby? Our mum is currently staying with me and my heartbreaks for her knowing someone thought it was okay to treat her baby boy like this. He has done absolutely nothing to deserve this. No one ever does. But he is such a beautiful human and I am so proud to be his big sister. I have so much post partum rage right now as it is. I feel like I could take all four of them on. Please tell me there’s some hope for justice?
TLDR: my brother was lured to the house he joint shares with his ex girlfriend, she shows up to the house with her new boyfriend and his parents. They then attack him and strangle him inside. There were no other witnesses because they took him inside. Is it just his word against theirs? What can we do to make a case to get them charged?
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You might want to try the UK law subreddit
I love being in the United States, the second amendment is a wonderful deterrent to this sort of behavior. That and I’d not role up to a ex”s spot non prepared for a blow out.
Accidentally 🔥
Let the process do the process, there will be arrests etc but things have to be properly documented to stand up in court.
These people sound dreadful and may well have criminal histories already.
Also, just to say, if every crime needed an independent witness, the courts wouldn’t be so full of criminal cases. Please don’t despair.
I am so so sorry this has happened, it sounds like an absolute nightmare for your brother and your fears for him are totally justified. This internet stranger is sending you and all your family my very best wishes for a speedy recovery for your brother, and for justice and safety.
It’s not your battle. You have a new baby and your brain is overactive with defence and stuff right now believe me ive been there. Try not to worry. The ex has left and made her own choices thats not yours or anyone elses problem except her. Your brother could have easily have been in the wrong and argued we just don’t know and evidence against that will be impossible to prove. Staying well away from all of them and your brother limiting all conversations with her outside of a mediation room would be a good idea. All the best to you and your baby 👶 relax and enjoy motherhood- don’t stress about other people no matter how much you love your family… it’s their live
Give it like 3 months then put sugar in their gas tanks. All of em.
Aside from that, are there any neighbors with outdoor cameras that could’ve caught some footage of the attack? Probably your best bet
GO TO THE POLICE.
PRESS CHARGES.
And Mr Instagram won’t be too happy if his profile gets BLOWN UP with this, now, will he???
Oh, and FUCK THE EX. She can fight her own battles.
It’s early yet. The police may be moving towards making arrests, but they wouldn’t tell you, bc you might leak that information to the accused, which will change what kind of pressure will work on the accused.
You may need to pay an attorney/solicitor if things don’t progress.
Make it more of a headache to ignore you than to do their jobs.
Updateme
I am worried about the ex. If this were my brother, she would be worried about me.
Your brother cannot go there by himself. He needs a lawyer.
He needs to record all interactions live with you recording too on facetime
These people are disgusting..
Updateme!
Updateme
I am soooooooo angry for you and your family. What a bunch of bullies 😡. I really hope you get justice OP.
Even without witnesses their story is very unlikely. That all three of them were present is not disputed and is documented. They are claiming that a single guy (with no prior history of violence) decided to attack the mother in front of the giant husband and giant marshall arts proficient son. Does not stack up
I’m ride or die for my brother, too. Good luck, OP. Hope this all works out for the best. Please keep us updated. Hugs!
Updateme
Updateme
If he presses charges, the case will go to court. The police should be looking for witnesses. After all, the assault happened in public and the one who was injured was your brother. What did neighbors see? Does someone have a camera on their front door? His injuries are documented. Let the process play out.
As for the property, your brother needs to use a lawyer (solicitor?) to handle the property settlement. One suggestion I would make is to ask the GF to buy out your brother’s equity or vice versa. If she buys him out, then the matter is settled without anyone losing all that much money.
Life lesson: Do not buy property with someone you are not married to. The thing about marriage is that however messy divorce is, or however cracked in the head your spouse is, there is a well-established legal process to divide property.
And for heaven’s sake, don’t give one moment’s thought to the girlfriend, who after all brought these people into your brother’s life. She leveled down, so your brother dodged a bullet. But no more buying stuff with GFs.
Updateme
I’m very sorry your brother was jumped and beaten up. I would say do not do anything with the home and selling it. Wait until you find out what’s happening with his assault.
Do any neighbors have external or doorbell cameras that might have caught footage of how this all started?