Am I the asshole ?
I was working for a company, that my friend manages. It’s a season short season of only 10 weeks.
There are two companies that are right next to each and buy the products as it comes in fresh. Well the other company gives beer to their sellers every weekend.
We figured we could do one better and have a bbq and give them a drink (non alcoholic) and a cheeseburger or sausage or hot dog.
I mentioned this to the manager (my friend) multiple times before the actual day of the bbq. Invited her to get a cheeseburger on her lunch. My partner and I paid for everything ourself. (My partner worked there with me).
After we had already purchased the meats and buns and drinks for the bbq, my manager calls the day before the bbq and says “she doesn’t think it’s a good idea. It could start drama between the sellers if someone who doesn’t sell to us gets a burger or a hot dog.
At this point all of the sellers were aware of the bbq and expecting it. So there was no way we couldn’t do it. It would have made us look like jerks by promising this bbq to them and then pulling back the day before it to say no sorry we can’t do this. So my partner decided he would still physically work that day but not take a pay so that he was feeding them not on company time but his own. Everything went wonderfully everyone loved the food. They all had a great time everyone got along.
So the following Monday the manager has an HR meeting with us to say although it was a kind gesture and all, not to do it again or we could be suspended from work. She also told us that the meeting was confidential and that if it was shared with any of the sellers it would get back to her since she talks to the sellers every day. She said that her boss was super mad and wanted it dealt with right away. (Which he was not, I spoke to him and she only told him that she said not to have the bbq and we did it anyways, leaving out the multiple conversations about it and the fact that she said it right before)
Well it turns out that SHE was breaking confidentiality and sharing information from the meeting with other staff in the company.
Now we were friends before I started working there.
Shortly after all of this she stopped speaking to me personally, blocked me on social media. Started to micromanage my work by repeatedly telling me how to do my job that I have been doing no problem for 5 of the 10 weeks already. She would not address my concerns for the discrepancies in weight, and labeling of the product that was delivered from another site.
My final straw was when she messaged me and explained to me how to stack the products for the delivery truck, exactly how I’ve always had them stacked.
So we handed in our resignation letters and quit.
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I was working for a company, that my friend manages. It’s a season short season of only 10 weeks.
There are two companies that are right next to each and buy the products as it comes in fresh. Well the other company gives beer to their sellers every weekend.
We figured we could do one better and have a bbq and give them a drink (non alcoholic) and a cheeseburger or sausage or hot dog.
I mentioned this to the manager (my friend) multiple times before the actual day of the bbq. Invited her to get a cheeseburger on her lunch. My partner and I paid for everything ourself. (My partner worked there with me).
After we had already purchased the meats and buns and drinks for the bbq, my manager calls the day before the bbq and says “she doesn’t think it’s a good idea. It could start drama between the sellers if someone who doesn’t sell to us gets a burger or a hot dog.
At this point all of the sellers were aware of the bbq and expecting it. So there was no way we couldn’t do it. It would have made us look like jerks by promising this bbq to them and then pulling back the day before it to say no sorry we can’t do this. So my partner decided he would still physically work that day but not take a pay so that he was feeding them not on company time but his own. Everything went wonderfully everyone loved the food. They all had a great time everyone got along.
So the following Monday the manager has an HR meeting with us to say although it was a kind gesture and all, not to do it again or we could be suspended from work. She also told us that the meeting was confidential and that if it was shared with any of the sellers it would get back to her since she talks to the sellers every day. She said that her boss was super mad and wanted it dealt with right away. (Which he was not, I spoke to him and she only told him that she said not to have the bbq and we did it anyways, leaving out the multiple conversations about it and the fact that she said it right before)
Well it turns out that SHE was breaking confidentiality and sharing information from the meeting with other staff in the company.
Now we were friends before I started working there.
Shortly after all of this she stopped speaking to me personally, blocked me on social media. Started to micromanage my work by repeatedly telling me how to do my job that I have been doing no problem for 5 of the 10 weeks already. She would not address my concerns for the discrepancies in weight, and labeling of the product that was delivered from another site.
My final straw was when she messaged me and explained to me how to stack the products for the delivery truck, exactly how I’ve always had them stacked.
So we handed in our resignation letters and quit.
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Your manager’s mad because you’re the cool one, obviously. That’s toxic work culture 101. You dipped just in time. You handled that like a champ, quitting was the move.
Nah, she’s an asshole. Explain to your boss that you’ve agreed upon it, and canceling it last minute would’ve caused disappointment. Still, it’s none of your problem. You & your partner wemt out of your way for a thing that doesn’t benefit u.
What industry only has 10 weeks that you were working? Christmas trees?