A friend helped me but another guy told me I was useless for bothering someone. . . so now IDK.
Men, should women be able to change flat tires without asking you for help?
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A friend helped me but another guy told me I was useless for bothering someone. . . so now IDK.
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I think everyone should know how. But getting help makes it easier for everyone even if you know how.
Weaponized incompetence in shambles…
Yup! It isn’t hard and I remember teaching student drivers how to do it if the opportunity presents itself (men/women).
Everyone should know how to
Trust me not 100% men know about it
It’s an exceptional requirment and I don’t think it should be associated with gender and capabilities
Anyone can do it with practice
Yes.
I mean, if you asked me for help on the street, i would help you. That doesn’t mean you can go on the rest of your life without learning such an essential skill for owning a car.
If they don’t want to ask for help then don’t need to, if they want to, then ask.
I am (M) and my sister showed me how to change my first flat tire.
I know how to change a tyre but often I’m too weak to crack the nuts that have been tightened by the tyre dealership.
There has even been times where I was the only person who knew how to change a tyre when I was driving around a car full of men
I mean, it’s a useful skill, regardless of one’s gender.
But I’m happy to help if my help is needed.
Yes. You simply never know if there will be help available, so it’s an important thing to know how to do. It’s not a gendered thing, it’s just a basic skill.
Knowing how is good because you never know when or where you will have a flat tire.
Making a decision on this topic yourself without asking men would solve this as well. 🤷♂️
I mean it’s pretty simple BUT if you don’t know how, be ye man or woman, I’m not gonna shame you.
I’m just gonna help you change it.
Because that’s what I would want someone to do for me.
If you drive a car, you should be able to change its tire, regardless of gender. There are some life skills that everyone should know.
The person who said you were “useless;” get that person out of your life.
There is nothing inherently wrong with asking for help, there are a lot of things that I as a man “am suppose to know” (according to society) but I dont. That doesn’t make me useless, or anyone else for that matter.
You shouldn’t think it’s ok to not learn just because you’re a woman. It’s ok to not know how to do things but relying on others to do things for you isn’t the best attitude
Depends if it my wife or some other women that some what important in my life I’ll do it no issue, any other women I’m not helping
Every one who drives should know how to change or repair their flat tire
Aside from the elderly, or people with injuries or disabilities, any adult should be able to change a tire.
Yes, its good if everyone knows how to change a tyre. But if you don’t know how to do it then yes, its absolutely reasonable to ask for help.
It’s a simple job, but you need to know what to do and where to place the jack so you dont kill yourself.
Unless you’re physically disabled. Yes.
If you have a license and own a vehicle you should be at least aware of all the things that need maintaining on it. Man Woman, or else. No excuses.
My car doesn’t even have a spare.
I just call roadside if I get a flat. That said, I do have an air compressor so I’d really just top off as needed.
Umm, if they are strong enough go for it. If they want help I’ll help. I don’t get the question.
If you can drive a car you should know how to change a tire.
Whether or not you can often comes down to physical strength. Lug nuts can have a torque spec of 100+ ft lbs. As anyone that has worked on cars can attest, a nut/bolt torqued to spec can require far more torque than spec to remove. I’m about 190lbs and have had lug nuts that I know were put on to spec (because I put them on with a torque wrench) that I needed a 3′ cheater bar to take off. That’s about 570 ft lbs of torque. If you weigh 100lbs (not outside the realm of possibility for adult women) and only have what’s in the tire change kit that came with your car, there’s no way in hell you’re getting that tire off.
If you have a drivers license, you should know how to change a tire, but that doesn’t always mean you can change a tire.
My daughter is 10000% learning.
Yes, women should be able to change and do anything without asking for help (to an extent).
Why bring gender difference into this? This new generation is equal except for certain countries which we won’t worry about.
Everyone who operates a vehicle should know basic maintenance, including how to change a tire, just in case you need to use the knowledge.
However, if I’m asked, I’ll gladly assist someone in changing a tire. Male or female.
Depends on the woman and the relationship.
If she’s always yapping about men/ women issues and is a liberal progressive. Yes. She should be self sufficient in every way.
If she is a more traditional woman, then no, those things are not expected.
Yes.
Yes you should but just know it makes us feel really good to help a woman change her tire, it’s like +50 man points to do that. You’re not bothering us.
This… will never happen. 😉
Everyone should know how to cook, do laundry, and change tires, regardless of gender
Yes, waiting for someone else is just stupid. To be fair most dudes don’t even know the basics of their own cars so there is that
um, yes
One of my dad’s rules for me learning to drive was that we could change a tire.. there were a handful of others related to driving manual, being able to handle basic maintenance, and emergency situations.
That other guy was a dirtbag.
Is it a good skill to have? Yes
Is there anything wrong with getting help with it? Absolutely not
Of course and men should be able to sew and braid a girl’s hair unassisted.
Yes? What if there’s no one around?
Yeah….. who else is gonna help me if I get a flat?
I feel like every woman should know how to, but shouldn’t necessarily have to if there’s a dude around to help
>change flat tires without asking you for help?
What happened to feminism equality and strong independent women not needing men and doing anything that a man can do? LMAO
Yes. So she doesn’t have to ask a stranger. But if I’m present I’ll do that. I got her an electric impact wrench with the right torque setting for her car. So it’s easy. Edit and an electric jack
Yes. But that’s not always practical. Have a backup plan. Always have a backup plan.
Barring any physical disability, I would expect anyone who owned and operated a vehicle to be able to do basic maintenance, such as changing a tire or checking fluid levels.
A real man changes a ladies tire
But if she really wants to do it Then power to her !!
If im expected to make the sandwich, wash my own cloths, and suck my own dick, then she can learn to change a flat tire.
Should she know how to, so that she is able to avoid dangerous situations, yes. Should she be comfortable relying on me to do it is I am around, also yes.
They should be able to but should never have to. BTW. I have found that changing a tire is much harder than it used to be. The last few times I did it really sucked. I’m a man, and I’m calling roadside assistance.
I’m a girl and yes, I can. No one stopped to help me. I was raised to handle myself.
Yes?
If my wife went to visit her gram 5hrs away, and halfway there got a flat, I am not hauling my happy ass 2.5hrs there, putting the spare on, guiding her to a shop for proper tire repair, then driving home.
She knows how to swap a tire for a spare, and I need to review with her how to use a tire plug kit. I’m not sure if she knows how.
Both cars have slime + inflator kits, and tire plug kits. Hers has a spare, mine does not, but I also don’t travel outside an hour from home with my car (EV).
I mean. Are you a strong and independent feminist? If the answer is yes. For sure.
Yeah. I’m supposed to be hearing you all roar right? We’ll start roaring and proving how much you don’t need no man.
Anyone who drives should be able to change a tire. From a practical safety perspective, that is not how anyone should find themselves stranded.
I taught my wife and kids to drive. Lesson 1 was changing a tyre, checking fluids and checking tyre pressure and wear.
Having said that, I will never discourage or disparage someone who asks for help doing a physical task. People get hurt if they do things they are not strong or skilled enough to do.
Lol what a funny but asinine question. I would want all the women in my family to know how, but I’d prefer they ask for help from me whenever
You can ask women too. You’d be less likely to get assaulted that way.
That other man was a garbage bag with legs. Much like many of the men on Reddit, (just read the comments lol).
Best to learn yourself anyway, in case you wind up in the middle of nowhere with no cell reception.
everyone should know how and have the tools. having the physical strength to undo a lugnut is an entirely different story and asking for help isnt unreasonable
I taught my daughter how to change a flat. My son as well, but you specifically asked about women.
So, yes. Yes they should.
A couple of years ago, I was having a drink at a quiet patio cafe and noticed two young women changing a tire. I debated offering help because honestly, if it was a guy, I probably wouldn’t unless he looked lost.
I ended up going over and offering assistance. They thanked me and said they should be fine- unless I was an expert at this? I’m not. So I let them know where I was sitting if they hit a wall and went back to my drink.
There’s nothing wrong with offering help. But you should respect the answer given. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing how to change a tire. I’d say it would be good to be open to learning how though.
Yes, for multiple reasons. If I’m available, I have no problem doing it, but otherwise you should really know how to do it. You should know the basics of maintaining your car, and for your safety, you should be able to change a tire so that you’re not stranded and forced to rely on a stranger.
Yes. You shouldn’t be asking for or accepting help from random strangers just because you’re a woman and they’re men.
If you think you’re not strong enough to crack the wheel nuts, get a 1 metre long 50mm aluminium pipe for extra leverage on the tyre lever, or buy a 3 mode impact wrench and learn how to use it.
No, that’s one way I use to meet hot girls and cougars.
It’s a fairly simple thing, if you have the tools and your phone, you could easily figure it out starting from 0 knowledge.
Yes they should at least have the knowledge because…why not? Some guys are just horrible
Rage bait.
Changing a flat is a good life skill to have for anybody
Yes, because you never know. What if you’re in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the night and have no phone service?
But it applies to most things really. Knowing how to do things is never a bad thing
Should men be able to make a sandwich?
Should give you an idea
She should in the sense that life is hard and she might find herself alone and in such predicament. Now the sad part is how we made a word where a woman might not have someone to rely on when in need.
Yes
Yes. I am a guy and wasn’t raised to know basic car maintenance despite the fact both my parents owned cars. I learned how to do basic things and will ensure my children regardless of sex learn it too. There is no valid excuse to not know these things if you own a car.
It is a good skill to have regardless of gender. There are plenty of men that can’t do it. I can, but I’d never expect my wife to do it herself. I’ve also called my dad for help just because he has better tools. It is one thing to change a tire on the side of the road in an emergency with a scissor jack and tire iron, but if I need to change a tire in my driveway I’m calling the guy with a hydraulic jack and impact wrench. Depending on who tightened your lug nuts some ladies might struggle with the tire iron. (Not everyone keeps a bar handy for leverage either.)
Should they? Yes. Alas a lot of people are raised in sexist environments that believe something like changing a tire is a “man’s job” so daughters are never shown how and are discouraged from learning.
Much like all men should know how to cook and do laundry, but a lot are raised to believe that is “women’s work” so don’t learn.
All drivers should be able to change a flat, check the fluids, and jump a battery.
I expect my daughters to learn to change their own tires. I expect them not to have to if there is a man around.
If they want to do road trips by themselves, it could save their life. But calling AAA and having an active membership is also a solid move, as plenty of people get hit by cars while changing their tire on the side of the road.
Everyone should be able to do change a tire, I think you know this.
Everyone should know how to.
Ideally yeah that’s a very good skill to have for anyone.
That said, I’m a bit of a brute and I’ve run into lug nuts that I had to go 12 rounds with to get loose which means there are like 20 women on the planet who could have managed them given triple the time I spent fighting with it. That is to say, yeah you should learn but there’s nothing wrong with using the right tool for the job and generally speaking a man is the right tool over a woman in that situation.
Yes. They SHOULD be able to change a tire on their own. Anyine who owns a car should be able to perform basic car maintenance, like change a tire, keep the air pressure checked, check fluid lvls, pump gas, know when the oil needs changed etc..
That being said, it doesn’t mean that they should Have to change their tire by themself if they have someone that can help.
It’s a basic skill, like cooking, or changing a lightbulb, or whatever. You need to know how to change a flat. Hell, you can youtube it, and you’ll be much more self sufficient.
you’re not “useless for bothering someone” but you should know how to change a flat. i’ve gotten myself out of a couple gnarly situations with that knowledge.
it is extremely simple. i did for my first time ever after having happened to read about it one time as a teen.
highly recommend trying it out for yourself!!
Everyone should
I’ve come across plenty of grown men who for one reason or another never figured it out. So don’t feel bad
It’s a good skill to learn but it’s not mandatory for life. AAA is a thing for a reason or a friend who isn’t an asshole would help without issue
WTF is wrong with some of these fucking men?
Some tire shops over-torque the lugnuts. I know, I’m a 220lb man and stood on breaker bar, trying and failing to loosen lug nuts to replace a flat.
Some times it’s less about having the skill, and more about others just make it fucking impossible for you. And that goes for men and women.
I think everyone, regardless of gender, should at least know how to change a flat. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help in a difficult situation, but you owe it to yourself to not be utterly helpless.
I dont mind helping
This is ridiculous
Yes.
If we want an egalitarian society where everyone is considered ‘equal,’ then men should learn to do ‘traditionally female things,’ and women should be able to do ‘traditionally male things.’ Changing a tire is a necessary skill if you own a car, it’s basic maintenance. Every person should learn basic life skills, whether that is in the kitchen or the garage.
But I think it’s okay for people to help each other, if they are better at certain things. Many men are more than happy to help women do such things. I don’t see a problem with that, unless it is ungratefully expected.
All people, aside from those with disabilities preventing them from performing the tasks, should be able to do remedial car maintenance and repairs. Change tires, a headlight bulb, add fluids, etc. Even if you have people on hand to do it for you, they won’t ALWAYS be available and all drivers should at least have a working knowledge of how to do these things.
In driver’s education my teacher made EVERYONE change a tire. Even the rich little preppy girls who were the children of the executives at the company that ran the town. The spoiled sounding deflection of “we have people for that” fell on deaf ears. They changed tires too.
Yes. Phones die, go out of cell range, and people don’t answer. Self reliance is always better than betting someone else will always be around for you.
Everyone should at least have some car maintenance knowledge, because it is a life skill after all.
No, most cars don’t give much to do it with. I’m lucky to get a lug nut off with the skinny thing, and let’s not mention the shit jack. If a woman gets a flat, she calls a man, we’re just plain old stronger. Not to mention i can put a real jack and wrench in my car when I come.