In your very own personal experience, how important are your breasts for your OWN sexuality?
(Not anybody else’s sexual or moral gaze or interest).
How do you perceive your own breasts? As something sexual, or something ‘asexual’?
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In your very own personal experience, how important are your breasts for your OWN sexuality?
(Not anybody else’s sexual or moral gaze or interest).
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How do you perceive your left ankle? How important is your elbow for your own sexuality?
They’re part of my body. Like many parts of my body, it can feel good when my partner pays special attention to them. I don’t find that I base any part of my sexuality on them, though.
I love my breasts! Seriously they make me horny and happy!
As something annoying. I’m a 32/34 G/H (brand dependent). I hate them so much, they’re ugly. They make clothes so bad on me, make me look severely unproportional, they make exercise hard, they get in my way while moving/sleeping, god they’re seriously so horrible. I realize this is probably internalized misogyny but I feel I’d be taken more seriously if they were normal sized. So, I’d say sexual, since they make me feel shame & because they distract people from me as a person, I feel like walking tits. Unless im wearing a XxL tshirt (and then just feel like a tent).
Both tbh they can give me sexual pleasure and can be used sexually but 99% of the time they’re just boobs
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Pretty close to zero on the sexy scale. They’re an annoyance more than anything. Wearing a bra. Finding one that fits, looks good, and doesn’t cost a fortune.
Mine are super-sexual, yeah. Some weird leftbook person called me a pervert for having a “breast fetish,” but, like… nipple stimulation makes your brain produce oxytocin. It feels like that’s the opposite of a fetish.
Hmm, how do I perceive my breasts? …a literal pain in the neck. I’d love it if they shrivelled up and went away, the constant weight causes a lot of pain. They’re just a body part (and a part that has done its job, feeding babies), not a sexual thing as far as I’m concerned.
I love my tig ol’ biddies. I think they’re so sexy and make me feel confident. But I also just like having them around non-sexually, they’re like portable stress balls and also great for when my hands are cold and I need to hold something to warm them up.
I never really felt sexual about my breasts. They were something to be perceived as sexy but nipple play or breast play never got me going. After having a child, breast feeding, and being a human pacifier, I feel even more like it’s just another body part. Like, to me, my breasts are like my nose or my toes. I would equate my breasts to my vulva.
I see them as part of my body.
They look good, I look sexy… but I don’t see my boobs in any significant way being the reason for why I am or look sexy.
Both, depending on the activity.
But if I’m being completely honest, I view them as a pain in the ass. They get in my way and are hot as hell underneath.
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i feel positive about them, i accept them & have found things that work for them for comfort/aesthetic.
I don’t view my breasts as sexual or asexual. I view them as a nuisance.
I was raised very religious and from puberty had grown men accusing me of making them “stumble” or “lust”. I try to see them as my neutral body, but I still constantly am insecure and overly paranoid about being told I’m sinful for having a body
There’s like 2% of times when I actually like them being perceived as sexy. Any other time, they’re like an annoyingly large and sensitive elbow
I definitely see my breasts as sexual because that’s what I want.
They are not sexual at all to me. They are things on my chest that others might sexualize, but they’re like a nose to me. Just a part of my body that I appreciate for what they do, which for my boobs is warn me when my period is gonna come with pain.
They have their use. I would miss them if they were gone especially as they are an aspect of my appearance so my clothes would fit differently and I would look different. But they aren’t sexual.
Although nipple stimulation is a big thing for me, I still wish I could just lop ’em off.
An inconvenience. They’re not too big or anything, I just hate having them.
I’m currently breastfeeding so i perceive them as my baby’s biggest source of comfort and food/hydration. They are my easiest tool for putting my baby back to sleep. Honestly i’m amazed at how important my breasts have been in parenting my 3 kids and what i’ve been able to accomplish. The gallons of milk I’ve cumulatively produced, how i was able to keep my oldest from a hospital visit when he had a stomach flu because of breastfeeding. I currently don’t view my breasts in a sexual way at all other than to acknowledge my husband does still see them that way.
They’re so big and cumbersome I really wish they would shrink or just disappear. They are an unending multi level pain in the ass from trying to find a bra that contains them, finding one that won’t completely break the bank, one that isn’t a boring as hell single color, and one that won’t completely destroy my shoulders, neck, and back. I don’t feel anything when I touch them (they have no feeling), unless I really go out of my way to really REALLY crush my nipples which isn’t fun or arousing at all. When I masturbate, they just get in the way. Always trying to slip under my arms and just won’t stay put. They also completely obstruct my view so it’s always a little guessing game on which am I close to my clit or not. Really they are a bigger issue and annoyance than they are worth.
This is so interesting… mine are very asexual for me. Literally no sexier than my kneecaps or my earlobes 😆
I’m glad I’m not the only ones that doesn’t view them as sexual!
I have a love – hate relationship with them. Sometimes I hate them – can’t wear certain tops, back pain
Sometimes I love them 😍
How do you perceive your arsehole? Do you just shit out of it or do you think f it as sexual and asexual ?
Every part of my body is… a body part so I perceive it as a body part. They’re there and i don’t think about it.
Throwing a different perspective in here:
I have almost no sensation in my entire chest because I had a double mastectomy with reconstruction. So now I have no natural breast tissue, no sensation, AND no nipples (yeah, I bet a lot of you didn’t know that sometimes after a mastectomy, you don’t have nipples anymore! Isn’t that crazy? It makes you look like you have Barbie boobs.).
So I think of my previous, natural breasts as sexual sources of pleasure for myself and my partner, and I see them as the tools that allowed me to nourish my babies. I still have dreams that I’m nursing them again or that I need to nurse a baby but can’t because I have blank boobs. I do NOT have dreams about the sexual pleasure they used to give me. So I think that says something about which meant more to me.
These days, I think of my breasts kind of like fake nails. Yeah, they look great. And when they’re all dressed up, they look real and natural and pretty. They help me feel feminine. But ultimately, just like fake nails, they’re all for show.
They don’t seem like anything inherently sexual to me. They’re just a part of my body, like my knees or my pancreas. They don’t seem like a very important part to me, however. I would miss my pancreas a lot more.
Used to be sexual but now that I’m breastfeeding they are a source of food for my baby and nothing else. I can see they are bigger and will like how they look in certain outfits but dealing with oversupply means that I am more often thinking of how to empty them or if they are leaking then enjoying them. Although I do enjoy that my baby is fed by them.
I have fed all 3 of my children from mine so they have a dual function I guess. I don’t think I’ve ever really considered this question from my own POV.
Very sexual. They turn me on and make me feel sexy. I love when my partner pays attention to them.
Mine are asymmetrical and tuberous. They’re also not sensitive at all. I wouldn’t say I see them as asexual… They’re a sexual aspect of my body but I don’t think they’re especially sexy. My previous partners have been perfectly delighted with them though so I guess they think otherwise! It takes some effort to make them look sexy in clothes but I manage it.
It’s a love/hate relationship. I think they’re very cute and I do think about them sexually sometimes. But, they’re also painful a lot of the time and annoying.
I always thought they were too small and they made me self conscious, but now that I’ve had 2 kids and I’m still breastfeeding the second one, I miss the way they were. My husband still appreciates them, but they’re sad deflated versions of their former selves…. so, not sexual anymore cuz my baby girl is always on them lol.
As long as noone’s messing with them they’re just there like any othee part of my body. But they’re an erogenous zone so I have to ask my bf to stop playing with them after a while if he doesn’t want to take things further. They only work sexually for the person I love though. If anyone else were to touch them nothing happens.
I don’t like them and I often think about having them removed.
Pretty sexy but only when I’m topless (and bra-less) other than that they are stress balls!
As a goddamn inconvenience. I wish I could change their size on the fly or take them off at night to sleep. They mostly just get in the way.
Something hideous. Mine are disgusting. Small and saggy. They’re a nuisance because I always need a bra because they’re so saggy, and bras never fit right.
And I have 0 tolerance for anyone touching them, ever, at all besides my cardiologist. Shirt is staying on, bra at the very least if I’m having one of my skinny years. And I’m actively not.
Depends. Sometimes they’re a turn-on (I’m bi, so all kinds of bodies can be a turn-on for me, even my own), sometimes a fun accessory, and sometimes I don’t really think anything about them, they’re just there. They’re extremely sensitive and they’re the first thing I look at/touch when my clothes are off, so I do consider them sexual (if I’m considering them at all).
Very important to me sexually. I love them
I never thought too much about them until I gained weight while trying to find better antidepressants in 2022. A lot of the weight went to my boobs, and while I eventually lost close to half of what I gained, my boobs stayed pretty big. My ex-husband shamed me for them the last time we went to the beach together and all of the sudden I became embarrassed of them.
Now that he’s gone and I found r/abrathatfits, they make me feel more confident about my body (regardless of whether I show it off or not) even if I’m no longer as thin as I once was. Whenever I wear something low cut women compliment them all the time. About a month ago, I had a lady at a bar keep complimenting them and her husband was like “leave her alone or she’s gonna think we’re looking for a third” and she laughed and explained that she used to work at VS and it’s rare to find women who wear their correct size.
I’m on all of the apps, but none of the pictures show them off, and I usually wear crew cut tops for the first couple of dates so it’s funny to watch a guy see them for the first time as we’re about to sleep together because they’re always like “Where did these come from? 😲”
TLDR; They make me feel confident in my body and my sexuality so I like them as they are.