Hi. 34 female here. In December 2023 I took a DNA test with Ancestry for fun for Christmas and found out the person I thought was my dad was not my biological father. Instead, I found relatives that I didn’t know existed, discovered I was half Hispanic, and lost trust within my own mother. I am still processing the situation. Ask me anything.
I found out the person I believed to be my father was not related to me through a DNA kit AMA
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Do you know how it happened?
sounds complicated.
Happened to me too. Within a couple of minutes I knew they were my family and what my mother told me was a lie. All the same last name. One I had never heard of. Mine were raised completely different on the other side of the country…They are my facebook friends now. He has been gone a long time. I found out 4 years ago.
Do you feel like this has caused you to have an identity crisis?
I ask because I have been dealing with this since finding out the dad who raised me and who is in my bc is not my biological dad.
You have no idea what the circumstances are. Talk to your mom. The man who raised you is your father whether he is related to you by blood or not. DNA is not important unless you are searching for family medical history.
You have no idea what kind of person your biological sperm donor was. For all you know he could have been someone you would never want to associate yourself with. Or he could be a good person.
Either way, does not sharing your blood really make that big of a difference to you ?
Does both of your parents did their best to raise you? And love you regardless?
Do you know who your bio dad is? Does your dad know?
Can you reach those relatives and ask them who he is?
does your dad know and what was his reaction?
Are you going to learn Spanish?
This happened with my children’s older half sister recently. Her bio mom passed when she was just 6! Their father passed away in 2012. I’m not sure what the circumstances were or why she took a DNA test however she found out she was not related to them at all. She’s still an amazing big sister to my kids I’ll always see her as part of their family and I cannot imagine how devastated she was, have any of your family relationships changed?