My 4 year old was telling me he loves me for the 10th time today and I was thinking this is so bittersweet. It’s adorable but he won’t be 4 ever again and I’m going to miss this toddler stage. Then I started feeling bad we are low contact with MIL knowing she is missing out
Then I remembered having 2 pregnancy losses in a row (an actual problem that was corrected with surgery) and her speaking to hubby about it. Saying me being chubby might have caused it. Maybe if I ate more vegetables a pregnancy might take. Or that my perfectly safe during pregnancy medication was at fault. Now I’m enraged and nope she doesn’t deserve any time with my kids. F her
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Good for you for staying strong. Never forget what she has done. Write it all down if you have to so you can read it any time you start to waver. She will never change and if you let her back in she may be nice for a little while to get what she wants but these MILs always revert to their old selves and wicked ways.
My MIL used my slightly elevated weight as reasons for many things. Definitely eff her. You don’t deserve that.
Please, be happy and feel good. You are awesome.
Nope, you are absolutely correct. She doesn’t deserve to spend time with your kids if she is that negative towards their momma! You just enjoy that 4yo – they grow too fast! Protect them and their momma from that negativity!
Yes, f her
I’m so sorry she treated you that way after such devastating losses. F her for sure