My father passed away Tuesday; and the first this woman texts me on Saturday is “I know you’re busy right now but were you able to get extra tickets to LO dance recital?” (There was a maximum number of tickets per family and there was only one for her or FIL). I’m so irrationally angry right now.
Like yes Karen; I just picked out an urn for my father and am trying to scrape enough money together for his cremation but let me get the focus back on what really matters …you.
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I’m so so sorry for your loss.
I’d be seething too. Ignore.
Tell her that. She is crossing a line by ignoring your grief and that’s not ok. She clearly doesn’t mind about making YOU uncomfortable so you should do the same, nobody cares about it anyway because, let’s be honest, your father just sadly passed away (I am so so sorry for your loss! I hope you actually have the support you need right now)
So very sorry for your loss OP – I’d be seething too. Your restraint is admirable.
Ignore her. She is not worthy of your time.
She couldn’t have asked her own son about that? Seriously. I hope your husband handles her now and from now on.
Do not answer her, tell hubs to handle his gawd awful mother. And to pass along a message.. to F all the way off.
I’m sorry for your fathers passing, and hope you are getting help, hugs and support.
Just wanted to say that I’m so very sorry for your loose.
And no, you are not overreacting.
So, I hate her for you. I would not get her tickets, and if you already have, I would not give them to her. After her selfish text, it would boil my blood to have to sit and watch that grinning goblin watching my child perform and acting like she gives a damn about anyone but herself. And I would send her this response: “Dear MIL, I confess I haven’t had time to give any thought to your social life due to the recent passing of my father. My grief has been overwhelming, and I have been swamped with all the decisions that accompany such an event. Tickets for you to play Gma of the Year were the last thing on my mind. But on a lighter note, I will be much better able to help and support my dear SO when they have to do this for you, having gone through it myself, and will have a clearer head then because grief won’t a distraction.”
Karen’s got some nerve. You’re still grieving, and she’s asking about dance recital tickets? That’s textbook selfish. Don’t respond, or better yet, send her a “Can’t talk, grieving” text and see if she gets the hint. Prioritize yourself right now.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Tell your husband to deal with his mother.
I know MILs being Monsters is typical but this is disgusting.
Maybe she thought your dad had a spare ticket.
Your Husband/Partner needs to speak to this woman.
These bitches are rotted to the core.
I’m sorry for your loss. And I’m sorry you are in a position of having to put up with such an awful woman.
It kind of seems like she’s implying “now that maybe some people are too sad to attend is there another ticket for me”.
Anyway. As a favour to her, as well as you, just block her and let hubby screen her messages. Also do this for anyone else that lacks tact or you just don’t have the spoons for. It’s fine. You don’t have to be there for anyone other than your kids. Outside of your kids the next priority is your dad’s immediate family or anyone truly impacted by his death
Honestly you don’t need to listen to the insensitive platitudes or have to comfort people. It’s better if you don’t let them damage your relationship with them. A lot of people truly suck around grief and forgiving and forgetting can be hard
Why the hell couldn’t she text your husband instead of bothering you with this?!?! I hope he had a talk with her.
I’m sorry for your loss
You should just respond “are you serious right now?” And then never respond to her again.
I’m so sorry for your loss, her bullshit is the last thing anyone ever needs in this situation.
Is the anger really irrational?! It sounds like, from what you described, that she is hoping to get an extra ticket BECAUSE your dad died. Is that correct?!?
I’d be fucking fuming
I am so sorry. My mother-in-law would have done the same, she had no boundaries. Ignore her and take care of yourself. Focus on your father and all those special times spent with him.