About 99% sure my baby’s father is gay but hasn’t officially come out the closet. I think he’s telling me without actually telling me. Hes in love with his friend.. Yesterday morning, he said “if he (his friend) was a woman, i’d be with him”. That basically confirmed it.. and this morning in the car, he talked about dating women and I jokingly said “You know you’re not gonna date a woman haha your next relationship gonna be with a man..” 😭 yall all he did was chuckle slightly and look off to the side… then he said his friend is coming over to his house since he has the house to himself. I said “awww yall gonna have a honeymoon or something??” And he said “get out my business” likeee 😳. Yall I’m heartbroken.. he spends more time with his friend then his own son. this is why he couldn’t commit to working on our relationship.. my baby daddy gay 😒!
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I mean that could be the case or you talking like that just makes him not wanna be around you💀
He could also be bisexual
Was this you using your baby daddy a little financially? https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1g9e6qd/comment/lt6swyb/?context=3
Not sure what you need help with relationship wise(?)
This doesn’t sound like a relationship but you’re mad he’s gay?
This is probably really fking tough for him to navigate, especially since he’s got this kid with you. Like, imagine having to deal with your own gayness and also being a dad, that’s some heavy shit right there. Maybe instead of confronting him directly about it, try talking about how you feel in a non-accusatory way… like, express your hurt but also show empathy for where he might be at mentally.
happy gay month cuz uk u gay n shit😛
no but fr tho sorry u goin thru that but u jus gotta accept it. him being around his friends more than his son isnt cool tho. will u be supportive if he 100% comes out?
Wait. Are y’all together? Or are you just being a huge homophobe? Please clarify.
You sound so immature it’s incredible lol I hope you guys can coparent together and he keeps you a football field length away.
If my child’s other parent put my info online like this, speculating my sexuality with total strangers, I would never forgive or trust them. Not sure why you’re post this tbh
Well things are what they are
I suppose you could go to counseling to hash through a break up.
You also need to go to court to determine custody and support.
Thank goodness you didn’t marry, that will save you time and money.
But for WHATEVER reason he bailed on marrying you and is now slowly exiting your relationship.
You can’t nail Jello to the wall.
Have you considered… and I know this might shock you… that bisexual people exist?
Sorry to hear this.
You should seek full custody.
I’m not sure this isn’t rage bait. It doesn’t sound like you’re a couple anymore so, follow his advice and stay away of his business.
Based on your info you guys started dating when you were 15-16 and he was 17-18? And then you got pregnant and engaged were around 20 and 22? You guys are really young and in a very stressful situation. Clearly you guys were “kids” and different people when you started dating. The age he’s in now is when a lot of people grow into their true selves.
I’m not sure what advice you’re seeking but:
If you’re aiming for a relationship and think he has a thing for his friend, you need to decide now if you want to be in a open relationship. If not, he very well could cheat on you. And for the love of god, use protection with him. Please.
Also if you’re not in a relationship, him being gay isn’t really your business tbh.
Overall, decide what it is you actually want and don’t string this man along if he’s not a good father and not even faithful to you. Teach your kid to be a better man than that. If it’s money you’re seeking (based off of what other people dug up from your post history), there are much better ways to get resources that don’t include leading your son to believe he doesn’t have a dead beat dad before dropping the truth bomb on him when he’s old enough to comprehend it.