Hi, I’m 23F and just discovered this sub and felt like sharing this. My mom had an affair with her boss and ended up pregnant with me despite thinking she was infertile. To make things weirder, I was raised by her and the husband she cheated on, with my bio dad also having visitation. I didn’t know which one was my real dad till I was 11. Ask me anything!
I’m the product of my mother’s affair with her boss. AMA
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As an adult do you look at your mom any differently because of this past?
How’s the relationship with the men?
What was your reaction
Do you call them both dad? Do your dads get along?
What was the explanation given to you for the bio dad’s presence in your life? How did your mother’s husband come to terms with the infidelity so that he stayed with your mother? Did it affect your relationship with him?
Who’s going to walk you down the aisle on your wedding day?
Why wouldn’t they tell you who your biological father was, that’s not what makes them your “real”
Dad anyways… it’s the one that invests the time and emotions to raise you. You could have two real dads, you could have none.
Which Dad do you prefer and why?
How did you not know who your biological father was? Who did they tell you he was to explain his presence in your life?
Which one do you like more?
Do you ever confront your mom about this?
I’m almost certain I was from a one night stand, affair, or prostitution. My mom doesn’t even know who my dad is. Idk how thats possible unless you were prostituting and never knew a name or had a quick fling type thing
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I know someone who’s exactly just like you (2 siblings). This someone I know resents his father for an unfathomable reason as he’s put the other family at a very advantageous position in life
Is your surname Deeds?
Did it change your opinion on men as a whole? Or even women for that matter.
If I missed something-I apologize. So, your bio dad would visit-but he visited you the first 12 years once or twice. I know you said it felt weird someone like you say ‘visiting’ dad. Didn’t your step dad also find it weird? He didn’t find out you weren’t his until later during the divorce? So, I take it there were other issues that led to the divorce outside of this secret?
Has anyone ever cheated on you?
How’d your non bio dad react to the revelation? Did your mom ever give justification as to why she did it? Why did non-bio take her back?
Did your bio dad provide your mom with child support?