Pretty high. People have this idea that sex is just laying on the floor waiting for anyone to pick it up, yet single people tend to have far less sex than married people. (Yes I know we’re talking about sexless aka zero).
There’s always my hands. There’s always waiting.
Now if you said ‘loveless’ or ‘intimacyless’ then yeah, the marriage is over.
I think i could stay in it if there were still a lot of love and trust in the relationship, the older i get, the less i care about sex to be honest, it’s just easier to masturbate a lot of the time lol
I mean, I’ve got a wand. If I am in love, and my partner chooses or cannot have sex, I’m not going to necessarily call it quits. I can take care of myself.
High. I’ve been in one for 7+ years, I truly love her.
But we’re both troubled by past relationships (she has pretty much only bad experience, and not much of it at all) and she also developed a chronic fatigue issue 5-6 years back. Recently we have started working on ourselves and are planning on making up for lost time and lost life, I can feel my pep coming back, we talked VERY openly just last week and honestly even at 35 I can feel us both kicking our feet and being 18 again.
Sexless relationship 100% as long as everything else is good I can get sex somewhere else, even from myself bc I have hands and $ for lubes,toys,etc..,etc..
Zero. I was in one and I eventually left, after about 6 years of constant rejection. I think it’s shitty for one partner to unilaterally decide celibacy for the relationship.
It depends on the situation. If the spark just died, I would probably leave. If my boyfriend became unable to have sex due to physical or mental health, I would stay
Sex is something important to me in any relationship, especially in terms of getting to know my limits/likes and my partner’s as well- My boyfriend feels similarly about sex too, so we wouldn’t be able to make it work if it were sexless-
I mean I love sex, both for the literal pleasure giving aspect and for the intimate physical connection it provides between me and my partner
Is a relationship better with sex? 101% yes, won’t argue against that
But
I also think that removing the partnered sexual aspect out of it does not mean it’s a dysfunctional or doomed relationship, it isn’t always the glue that makes a relationship worth preserving
The idea a sexless but otherwise loving and happy partnered relationship is impossible or not worth it I think is mistaken
Sex is the be all end all for some and that’s perfectly valid but it’s not the universal truth
I think sex isn’t everything and if everything else is good, you have lots of common interests, you’re happy in each others presence, you have lots of non-sexual physical intimacy, and the only missing component is the sex, I do think that can be fine and isn’t a reason to throw the whole thing away 😐
Everyone’s different so there’s no one “right” answer, but personally I’m on the side that depending on the particular people involved, it’s worth staying in, and I apply that to myself and my own relationship
Preferably I’d have everything plus the sex but if I had to go without it, I would without hesitation
I stayed with my ex gf for 3 years from HS to college and not having sex with her. We had breaks in our relationship and during those breaks… I had so much sex. When we’re back together it would be sexless and tons of wet underwear from the grinding. She ended up breaking up with me because she felt we both weren’t in the same “wavelength” like no shit. I blame myself ofcourse bc I stayed in the relationship knowing that before her I had tons of sex but I guess I was in love with her in a sense of feeling the need to not have sex with her and being a sexless relationship would help us be a strong relationship? But wild times indeed.
Never again. If I’m in a relationship where it becomes a pattern again I won’t tolerate that level of disrespect. It’s one thing to be rejected constantly when your partner gets it elsewhere but makes you think you are the problem. To make you feel worthless and depressed within the relationship is complete shit and waste of time. Then feeling like they are the shit to get it elsewhere when I could do the same if I wanted to. It’s such bs.
The only way is for it to be friendship, part of how I fall in love also includes intimacy and above all that it is mutual, so if you don’t want that with me, cool, but don’t ask me for a love relationship because the only thing I could offer without sex is my friendship.
Depends on the circumstances. If she clearly says in the dating phase that she don’t want to have sex with me, I’m out… If I’m already happen to be in a loving relationship and she just cannot having sex with me for medical reasons etc., I’m fine with that.
Less than zero. Take care of your business, or I am justified in finding someone who will. If there is a medical issue, make arrangements. If you just don’t care to fuck me anymore, let me go no harm, no foul. No bullshit excuses about differing libidos or the cliche “desire declines over time.” That’s how the politically correct enable shitty behavior. How many people are on the planet Earth? Enough that I am guaranteed to find at least one who will never pull the cut off.
50/50…it’s one less thing I have to do to keep someone happy, and honestly I don’t really care about sex that much to begin with. With that said, I do still enjoy the birthday blow job or spontaneous foreplay-esk stuff in unfitting settings.
I don’t think anyone that values sex as a necessary connection to their partner could stay in a sexless marriage without getting depressed.
I would feel so unloved and wonder what I did wrong; I can not imagine being happy with them for the rest of my life. Some of us genuinely need the release with our partner to feel connected.
So many zeros. But what happens when your relationship ‘becomes’ sexless. How important is sex versus the time you’ve spent with your partner (possibly the mother or father of your children). That’s a much harder question to answer.
With my wife? 100%. She is the most amazing person I’ve ever met, and that doesn’t change based on what we do or don’t do in the bedroom. I want her for the rest of my life, regardless.
Depends, I intend to keep my family relationships strictly platonic, potential partners? Yes why else would I date you? To be friends? If we are in a romantic relationship yes its required otherwise we are just friends and you can buy your own stuff like rent, car bill, phone bill, friends don’t use other friends like that.
The whole point is having the most intimate moment shared with a loved one. That is the most intimate moment.
Having kids and sex are the only reasons for a relationship otherwise what you described is called a friendship Not a relationship. There are friendships that involve sex that aren’t relationships but the opposite cannot be said.
maybe 10%? Im a woman, with high libido and i need my sexual life. So if you don’t want it even months after dating, I’d probably assume that something is wrong with your thing.
None. Sex is part of relationship. No sex = go back to being single unless there is a medical problem in her part that is salvageable which I will put up with.
It would be very, very complicated! For love, I could stay but I will have to find sex elsewhere (escort, mistress). However, this will not be satisfactory and risks being grounds for a breakup.
Pretty good, wife’s libido stopped existing after she started antidepressants. It’s a fair trade off for having her stable and actually mostly enjoying life otherwise. We’re both happy and support eachother.
-20. I’m after heart failure and they want to put inside of me a defibrillator. And I still don’t imagine not having sex. I prefer to die with a smile on my face. I know I’ll get there and maybe I’ll get down, but whoever doesn’t take risks, doesn’t drink champagne.
Agree with younger me would have said no chance, after 30 years together, it’s really not that important.
We do are own thing most of the time. Shes a busy body, I’m still coming off a big bout with C, and am not the project oriented type guy. Do separate bedrooms.
We travel.as a family and hang by the pool a lot in the summers. We both have unlimited freedom, so I travel a lot with buddies, and hang out with my original gang from elementary-high school.
If I wanted to she’d be down, but honestly it’s just easier. Old lazy in a nice routine. I guess knowing it’s not a problem if I had the itch makes a big difference, and we love each other, and our kids to death. Life is good.
Had sex once in 3 months official. Chances are high, hoping things turn around, and we spend more time together and become more comfortable to be more intimate more often.
I only see my girlfriend about once a week if that due to extremely busy schedules
If my wife developed a medical condition that made sex uncomfortable or painful then that’s one thing.
If my wife decides it’s not something she wants to do or put effort into investigating why she doesn’t want to then to be honest that would lead to a conversation for sure.
Pretty good, as long as she is a genuinely good person I’ll be fine, I think I’m in one now, (for now?) and I’m okay with it cause that’s not an important part to me, I can hold her, I can hug her, that’s enough for me
It depends… im married, it would come down to why my wife and I lost our intimacy. If she got sick or some other reason that was clinical I would stay without hesitation.
But if she lost her desire for intimacy for me permanently because our love had waned in some way that we could never work on and fix together I dont know…its hard to imagine knowing we had a problem that large and couldn’t fix it and still being happy with each other for the rest of our lives.
Close to zero, but not for the reasons you might think. If I were to date again, I would actually prefer a relationship to be sexless, however finding a partner who is just as happy with that as me and whom we have a bond and mutual respect with is almost impossible I feel
I don’t care. I hate sex and the pressure that comes with it. Someone teases me with an end of the day thing? Anxiety all day. It’s a very in the moment thing. I care more about closeness, cuddling, and such than sex. (I’m probably the problem coming from that).
I’ve been in a relationship for two and a bit years now. My partner came out as asexusl a few months in and out intimacy has dropped to almost nonexistent.
We still love each other, still love being with each other.. but it is a struggle. Especially if someone is talking to me about their sex life…
Zero. You can get by for a while at first, but it starts eating at you eventually.
There may be some people who are able to do it if they are inclined towards low sex drive – but even then the lack of intimacy is going to upend things eventually.
100%. As we grow older, things happen. People get sick, injured. Everyone will face times when sex is just not an option. I think it’s pretty shallow vows that anyone would bow out simply over no sex.
Honestly zero. I have a pretty high sex drive and while I can easily masturbate for the majority of the time, I still need it sometimes. At times my relationship has gotten to the point of once a month but we’ve had discussions about this and it’s now usually once a week, and I’m fine with that.
But I don’t think I could wait several months or even years. My love language is physical and that’s just how it is.
Decent because our lifestyle allows me to get it elsewhere. We’ve been ENM/poly for 25+ years now. When my wife’s libido was temporarily inaccessible due to perimenopause, I had plenty of girlfriends to keep my libido healthily satisfied. Now that her girlfriend is living with us, it’s actually reawakened her libido, so a dying bedroom turned into frequent threesomes. There’s always hope.
When my partner became abuse because of their drinking, I had multiple talks with then how it’s hard to be intimate or engage is sex with then if they were drunk. They acknowledge they were the abuser and promised to be better. I knew it was a lie because their drinking ruled their world. I stopped engaging completely and would turn them down when they were intoxicated. Due to a series of events, it was apparent they had found someone else. After almost 5 years they decided to end it.
I guess long story short, slim to none.
Absolute zero. Was in one for many years. These days usually three to four times a week. Both love and enjoy it. More you get it, more you want it more.
To be honest if one partner figures they are not physically attracted to another, it is probably the end of it.. How to near yourself to being happy if you don’t want to be all over someone you spend most of your time with?
If you do it just to be all fancy instead of for having a real reason like physical disability etc. then it’s just a disrespectful waste of time. Been there for longer than shoulda been, wouldn’t do it again. If she’s not into you then she’s just not into you, just unwilling to say it.
High. I think I am somewhere on the asexual spectrum.
I am pretty upfront about it. Twice a year is more than enough for me.
I used to try and do it as much as my ex-partner wanted (once a week) but I ended up resenting them and fell out of love with them. Having sex when you don’t want sex is really awful.
Gotta make sure your sex-drives are matched going into the relationship.
Almost zero but there are some definite exceptions. If my partner whom I truly loved had health issues suddenly which impacted intimacy, I feel like I could still make it work
I know Reddit hates the idea of offspring but I think that’s the make or break for me. If I have kids and they have a loving mother I’m not going to change “mom and dad” to “mom or dad” over sex.
Zero. Because it’s more than sex that I’m missing out on. For me being sexless is not being seen and accepted for who I am. It’s not being loved the way I deserve to be loved.
Zero but at the same time, I fear connecting to someone’s body because it feels to vulnerable. I can’t resist the sensations that I’ve already felt but the idea behind it paralyzes me as I can’t disassociate from whatever my partner’s feeling atp.
I wouldve thought zero. But medical shit happens. Sometimes lady parts malfunction and just dont ever work right again. But there is other stuff you can do. If you love someone you make it work
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Zero (illness and injury, etc., aside)
Probably zero.
Pretty high. People have this idea that sex is just laying on the floor waiting for anyone to pick it up, yet single people tend to have far less sex than married people. (Yes I know we’re talking about sexless aka zero).
There’s always my hands. There’s always waiting.
Now if you said ‘loveless’ or ‘intimacyless’ then yeah, the marriage is over.
I think i could stay in it if there were still a lot of love and trust in the relationship, the older i get, the less i care about sex to be honest, it’s just easier to masturbate a lot of the time lol
I mean, I’ve got a wand. If I am in love, and my partner chooses or cannot have sex, I’m not going to necessarily call it quits. I can take care of myself.
I mean eventually we’re gonna get too old to do it.
I would stay because I believe it’s something that can worked through. I believe marriages are sexless for a solvable reason.
High. I’ve been in one for 7+ years, I truly love her.
But we’re both troubled by past relationships (she has pretty much only bad experience, and not much of it at all) and she also developed a chronic fatigue issue 5-6 years back. Recently we have started working on ourselves and are planning on making up for lost time and lost life, I can feel my pep coming back, we talked VERY openly just last week and honestly even at 35 I can feel us both kicking our feet and being 18 again.
zero. like none. i left.
Sexless relationship 100% as long as everything else is good I can get sex somewhere else, even from myself bc I have hands and $ for lubes,toys,etc..,etc..
Zero. I was in one and I eventually left, after about 6 years of constant rejection. I think it’s shitty for one partner to unilaterally decide celibacy for the relationship.
It depends on the situation. If the spark just died, I would probably leave. If my boyfriend became unable to have sex due to physical or mental health, I would stay
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If it is an open relationship, I can see it
I mean I’ve taken care of myself just fine I can continue to do the same.
Zero percent chance-
Sex is something important to me in any relationship, especially in terms of getting to know my limits/likes and my partner’s as well- My boyfriend feels similarly about sex too, so we wouldn’t be able to make it work if it were sexless-
0%
0 . I watched my dad slowly lose his mind because of it.
higher than what people think
personally, zero. i’m lucky enough that my wife and i have the same “love language.” we need intimacy once in a while.
If there’s love there then it’s fine.
Zero at my age
I mean I love sex, both for the literal pleasure giving aspect and for the intimate physical connection it provides between me and my partner
Is a relationship better with sex? 101% yes, won’t argue against that
But
I also think that removing the partnered sexual aspect out of it does not mean it’s a dysfunctional or doomed relationship, it isn’t always the glue that makes a relationship worth preserving
The idea a sexless but otherwise loving and happy partnered relationship is impossible or not worth it I think is mistaken
Sex is the be all end all for some and that’s perfectly valid but it’s not the universal truth
I think sex isn’t everything and if everything else is good, you have lots of common interests, you’re happy in each others presence, you have lots of non-sexual physical intimacy, and the only missing component is the sex, I do think that can be fine and isn’t a reason to throw the whole thing away 😐
Everyone’s different so there’s no one “right” answer, but personally I’m on the side that depending on the particular people involved, it’s worth staying in, and I apply that to myself and my own relationship
Preferably I’d have everything plus the sex but if I had to go without it, I would without hesitation
About the same i guess, sex is just symptomatic of a healthy relationship, generally.
Will she still do sexual favors? If so, yes. If no, then my partner isn’t caring about my needs so…
0
0%
I stayed with my ex gf for 3 years from HS to college and not having sex with her. We had breaks in our relationship and during those breaks… I had so much sex. When we’re back together it would be sexless and tons of wet underwear from the grinding. She ended up breaking up with me because she felt we both weren’t in the same “wavelength” like no shit. I blame myself ofcourse bc I stayed in the relationship knowing that before her I had tons of sex but I guess I was in love with her in a sense of feeling the need to not have sex with her and being a sexless relationship would help us be a strong relationship? But wild times indeed.
Zero.
Zero
Absolutely zero, that’s called a friendship not a relationship.
High, I’m on the asexual spectrum
0%
Never again. If I’m in a relationship where it becomes a pattern again I won’t tolerate that level of disrespect. It’s one thing to be rejected constantly when your partner gets it elsewhere but makes you think you are the problem. To make you feel worthless and depressed within the relationship is complete shit and waste of time. Then feeling like they are the shit to get it elsewhere when I could do the same if I wanted to. It’s such bs.
Zero
0%
The only way is for it to be friendship, part of how I fall in love also includes intimacy and above all that it is mutual, so if you don’t want that with me, cool, but don’t ask me for a love relationship because the only thing I could offer without sex is my friendship.
Depends on the circumstances. If she clearly says in the dating phase that she don’t want to have sex with me, I’m out… If I’m already happen to be in a loving relationship and she just cannot having sex with me for medical reasons etc., I’m fine with that.
100% unfortunately.
Zero obviously
What a very nice question
very high im ace
Zilch
Less than zero. Take care of your business, or I am justified in finding someone who will. If there is a medical issue, make arrangements. If you just don’t care to fuck me anymore, let me go no harm, no foul. No bullshit excuses about differing libidos or the cliche “desire declines over time.” That’s how the politically correct enable shitty behavior. How many people are on the planet Earth? Enough that I am guaranteed to find at least one who will never pull the cut off.
Zero.
If she insists on monogamy and refuses to have sex with me, I’ll have it with someone else and still be monogamous.
Ill take it into my own hands
Zero (bold)
Very little sex, but with emotional depth? Sure.
Absolutely none? Unlikely.
50/50…it’s one less thing I have to do to keep someone happy, and honestly I don’t really care about sex that much to begin with. With that said, I do still enjoy the birthday blow job or spontaneous foreplay-esk stuff in unfitting settings.
I don’t think anyone that values sex as a necessary connection to their partner could stay in a sexless marriage without getting depressed.
I would feel so unloved and wonder what I did wrong; I can not imagine being happy with them for the rest of my life. Some of us genuinely need the release with our partner to feel connected.
0
So many zeros. But what happens when your relationship ‘becomes’ sexless. How important is sex versus the time you’ve spent with your partner (possibly the mother or father of your children). That’s a much harder question to answer.
Zero
With my wife? 100%. She is the most amazing person I’ve ever met, and that doesn’t change based on what we do or don’t do in the bedroom. I want her for the rest of my life, regardless.
22 years and still going…
Depends, I intend to keep my family relationships strictly platonic, potential partners? Yes why else would I date you? To be friends? If we are in a romantic relationship yes its required otherwise we are just friends and you can buy your own stuff like rent, car bill, phone bill, friends don’t use other friends like that.
The whole point is having the most intimate moment shared with a loved one. That is the most intimate moment.
Having kids and sex are the only reasons for a relationship otherwise what you described is called a friendship Not a relationship. There are friendships that involve sex that aren’t relationships but the opposite cannot be said.
Zero.
Having said that, does 3 or 4 times a year count as sexless?
Well I’m currently sexless and single so tbh a sexless relationship would be an upgrade.
Saw a study that about 15% of happy relationships are sexless. So it’s possible, but personally I couldn’t do it
maybe 10%? Im a woman, with high libido and i need my sexual life. So if you don’t want it even months after dating, I’d probably assume that something is wrong with your thing.
Zero
None. Sex is part of relationship. No sex = go back to being single unless there is a medical problem in her part that is salvageable which I will put up with.
Zero
zero chances, like not at all
Low chance to none
Pretty much in one now lol. But i got my right hand. sometime i use my left hand to make the right jealous.
I went 7 years with my ex, not even a hug or hand hold or anything. She beat me down emotionally to the point it didn’t even matter to me anymore
0%
ZERO
That’s called a friendship
It would be very, very complicated! For love, I could stay but I will have to find sex elsewhere (escort, mistress). However, this will not be satisfactory and risks being grounds for a breakup.
Apparently quite high, younger me would have said 0%
Pretty good, wife’s libido stopped existing after she started antidepressants. It’s a fair trade off for having her stable and actually mostly enjoying life otherwise. We’re both happy and support eachother.
That really depends on how strong my feelings are. I could do it for the right person.
Zero if she ain’t putting out I’ll fuck her bestie and she ain’t hearing from me again
Pretty high if I had kids. Zero if I didn’t.
The only healthy answer should be 0% unless youre both asexual.
The only healthy answer should be 0% unless youre both asexual.
Null Comma null.
Why would I stay with someone I’m incompatible with?
Zero, even if I’m waiting til marriage I’m gonna do it at least once
0%
100%. I’m not going to abandon the commitment I made.
-20. I’m after heart failure and they want to put inside of me a defibrillator. And I still don’t imagine not having sex. I prefer to die with a smile on my face. I know I’ll get there and maybe I’ll get down, but whoever doesn’t take risks, doesn’t drink champagne.
None. Why be in a relationship if you cant completely connect?
Agree with younger me would have said no chance, after 30 years together, it’s really not that important.
We do are own thing most of the time. Shes a busy body, I’m still coming off a big bout with C, and am not the project oriented type guy. Do separate bedrooms.
We travel.as a family and hang by the pool a lot in the summers. We both have unlimited freedom, so I travel a lot with buddies, and hang out with my original gang from elementary-high school.
If I wanted to she’d be down, but honestly it’s just easier. Old lazy in a nice routine. I guess knowing it’s not a problem if I had the itch makes a big difference, and we love each other, and our kids to death. Life is good.
High, I hate having sex and would love a sexless relationship
No divorce where I’m from so 100%
I didn’t. I got divorced. I tried to make things work, but after a year of various problems sex was the least on the list, but it still made the list.
can’t have a sexless relationship if you can’t have a relationship at all. modern problems require modern solutions 😀
Had sex once in 3 months official. Chances are high, hoping things turn around, and we spend more time together and become more comfortable to be more intimate more often.
I only see my girlfriend about once a week if that due to extremely busy schedules
Very high. I have schizophrenia and I feel like I cannot give consent to sex because I am so drugged. So, I am taking a break from sex right now.
Zero. Sex is a very important and crucial thing for me :/
Would depend on why it’s sexless.
If my wife developed a medical condition that made sex uncomfortable or painful then that’s one thing.
If my wife decides it’s not something she wants to do or put effort into investigating why she doesn’t want to then to be honest that would lead to a conversation for sure.
Not sexless but very rare. Neither of us mind that this is the case.
It’s overrated.
high i guess, i honestly don’t care for sex in a relationship though i don’t mind it either
Pretty good, as long as she is a genuinely good person I’ll be fine, I think I’m in one now, (for now?) and I’m okay with it cause that’s not an important part to me, I can hold her, I can hug her, that’s enough for me
It depends… im married, it would come down to why my wife and I lost our intimacy. If she got sick or some other reason that was clinical I would stay without hesitation.
But if she lost her desire for intimacy for me permanently because our love had waned in some way that we could never work on and fix together I dont know…its hard to imagine knowing we had a problem that large and couldn’t fix it and still being happy with each other for the rest of our lives.
Close to zero, but not for the reasons you might think. If I were to date again, I would actually prefer a relationship to be sexless, however finding a partner who is just as happy with that as me and whom we have a bond and mutual respect with is almost impossible I feel
I don’t care. I hate sex and the pressure that comes with it. Someone teases me with an end of the day thing? Anxiety all day. It’s a very in the moment thing. I care more about closeness, cuddling, and such than sex. (I’m probably the problem coming from that).
I’ve been in a relationship for two and a bit years now. My partner came out as asexusl a few months in and out intimacy has dropped to almost nonexistent.
We still love each other, still love being with each other.. but it is a struggle. Especially if someone is talking to me about their sex life…
Zero. You can get by for a while at first, but it starts eating at you eventually.
There may be some people who are able to do it if they are inclined towards low sex drive – but even then the lack of intimacy is going to upend things eventually.
Nil. My wife is a bit of a nympho.
with me 0%
Zero
High if everything else is satisfactory (mutual love and respect and basically sex is the only missing component).
I say this even if I’m a highly sexual person.
80/20 rule or smthn like that
If she lives me 100%faithfully
I don’t mind going sexless for rest of the life
100%. As we grow older, things happen. People get sick, injured. Everyone will face times when sex is just not an option. I think it’s pretty shallow vows that anyone would bow out simply over no sex.
0.000.0.000000%
Honestly zero. I have a pretty high sex drive and while I can easily masturbate for the majority of the time, I still need it sometimes. At times my relationship has gotten to the point of once a month but we’ve had discussions about this and it’s now usually once a week, and I’m fine with that.
But I don’t think I could wait several months or even years. My love language is physical and that’s just how it is.
Zero
Decent because our lifestyle allows me to get it elsewhere. We’ve been ENM/poly for 25+ years now. When my wife’s libido was temporarily inaccessible due to perimenopause, I had plenty of girlfriends to keep my libido healthily satisfied. Now that her girlfriend is living with us, it’s actually reawakened her libido, so a dying bedroom turned into frequent threesomes. There’s always hope.
Last 4 years up to the death of my wife from cancer.
When my partner became abuse because of their drinking, I had multiple talks with then how it’s hard to be intimate or engage is sex with then if they were drunk. They acknowledge they were the abuser and promised to be better. I knew it was a lie because their drinking ruled their world. I stopped engaging completely and would turn them down when they were intoxicated. Due to a series of events, it was apparent they had found someone else. After almost 5 years they decided to end it.
I guess long story short, slim to none.
Absolute zero. Was in one for many years. These days usually three to four times a week. Both love and enjoy it. More you get it, more you want it more.
Zilch. If it goes and there’s no effort on both sides to find a solution it’s over
Opposite of fucked if you do, it should be a decision you both make not one party or the other.
Never gon’ happen for me
To be honest if one partner figures they are not physically attracted to another, it is probably the end of it.. How to near yourself to being happy if you don’t want to be all over someone you spend most of your time with?
After being in a sexless relationship for ten years previously, 0% am I doing that again.
If you do it just to be all fancy instead of for having a real reason like physical disability etc. then it’s just a disrespectful waste of time. Been there for longer than shoulda been, wouldn’t do it again. If she’s not into you then she’s just not into you, just unwilling to say it.
None what-so-ever.
Sex isn’t everything, but a relationship without it sounds miserable. I’d probably seriously resent my partner.
That is not healthy.
Zero
My ex shot me down at every turn. Eventually I just quit trying. Took a while before I even started to initiate with my new fiancé.
I would say 50%. I can look for sex with other people.
0
High. I think I am somewhere on the asexual spectrum.
I am pretty upfront about it. Twice a year is more than enough for me.
I used to try and do it as much as my ex-partner wanted (once a week) but I ended up resenting them and fell out of love with them. Having sex when you don’t want sex is really awful.
Gotta make sure your sex-drives are matched going into the relationship.
Due to uncontrollable circumstances, 100%. Maybe I’ll get lucky and come across a friend with benefits.
No chance
Almost zero but there are some definite exceptions. If my partner whom I truly loved had health issues suddenly which impacted intimacy, I feel like I could still make it work
Yeah I wouldn’t be up for that.
Seeing as I want children of my own…
I was in one, figured it’d come eventually because i loved her deeply and at least at some point she felt the same.
Idk if i did something wrong or I changed, or maybe she just got bored of me
but it didn’t work out.
thing is, now that we split up I don’t really want sex anymore cause if it isn’t with the woman I loved i don’t really see the point.
Zero chance.
I don’t date Redditors.
I know Reddit hates the idea of offspring but I think that’s the make or break for me. If I have kids and they have a loving mother I’m not going to change “mom and dad” to “mom or dad” over sex.
Short term? High, a lot of things can mess up a relationship that need fixing before sex is fully back on. So I will be understanding on that.
Long term? Zero.
Zero. Because it’s more than sex that I’m missing out on. For me being sexless is not being seen and accepted for who I am. It’s not being loved the way I deserve to be loved.
absolute 0, I need mine several times a week.
Zero
Everyone be saying zero but when they find themselves in one many if not most of you would stay in it.
Because you don’t have many options in women.
None
Zero but at the same time, I fear connecting to someone’s body because it feels to vulnerable. I can’t resist the sensations that I’ve already felt but the idea behind it paralyzes me as I can’t disassociate from whatever my partner’s feeling atp.
I went 14 years. Divorced and found a guy
Zero.
0%
I wouldve thought zero. But medical shit happens. Sometimes lady parts malfunction and just dont ever work right again. But there is other stuff you can do. If you love someone you make it work
i can easily have no sex without a relationship, so why bother?
4yrs so far for me
Pretty high given that I’m not getting laid regardless
Depends on your definition. If she wants to be sexless that’s up to her, I won’t
Mate has become Colder than a refrigerator. So I decided to eat beer.
Zero (unless we turn 50+ than it be aight)
None, especially after I’ve just got out of an eight year “twice a month is a bit excessive” relationship. Crushes your spirits and self worth.