Accept it’s natural, not a betrayal. People grow. You grow. Not everyone’s gonna be on your same wavelength forever. That’s okay. If it’s clearly fading and the effort’s one-sided, just release it. No need to hold on to dead weight.
It’s hard. I’ve been in this position for the past 2 years since my divorce. Friendships are a two-way street. I know and accepted that I have no grounds for complaining or have the feeling of being ghosted if I don’t make an effort myself.
There’s a really good Mel Robbins episode on adult friendships that helped me and I highly encourage you to listen to it to feel more at peace. the real reason adult friendship is so hard
Me and my bestie grew apart for a while. I went to uni in another city, while she started working and had a kid. We kept in touch, but it just wasn’t the same. Fortunately, things got better after a few years and we’re very close again now. I think if the friendship is really deep and meant to be, it can come back naturally.
Go on about your life and embrace your major life changes. They’re bound to bring in new friendship dynamics that you’ll get something out of. People are in our lives for a reason, season and lesson. That’s what I try to remember, at least.
View it as part of life and value the relation for what it was, even if it is not for life. Also, just because a friendship changes form, or is less intensive than before, doesn’t mean it’s over or that it will be like that forever.
Our time available to friends changes as life changes.
I am now watching my mother in her 70s, spending more time with her childhood friends than she probably has in 50 years. Strong friendships last, also through times with less contact.
I’m still grieving over the loss of my longest deepest friendship I’ve had in my lifetime. Best friends since elementary, (I’m in my 30s now) did our own thing but always came back to each other for support and just to be… us. Then the biggest breakup was during covid. Or right before covid. I think everything happens for a reason and maybe we weren’t meant to be in each others lives anymore. But the funniest thing is that after 3 years, I realized she had a baby around the same time I had my baby… I just kept thinking how it would’ve been so amazing to raise our kids together but life has a different plan for us and now it’s been about 5-6 years since we’ve been separate… so I guess… I’m still grieving haha
When I was 29-32, one of my dearest friends back then was a colleague, a consultant we hired in. She was 20 years older than me and was so wise and cool, and had lived the absolute most exciting and unconventional life I’ve ever heard of. And she said about friendship “friends for a reason, for a season, for a lifetime”.
It was her way of comforting me when I was sad about some other friendship that I was dealing with. People come and go, and sometimes you just need to accept that not everyone will and can be there forever. She herself turned out to be a friend for a season, she moved away again for another work to some other part of the world but I think a lot about her, and I miss her dearly! I hope we cross paths again ❤️
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Idk, I don’t think I can control anything. If it meant to be it will be.
Accept it’s natural, not a betrayal. People grow. You grow. Not everyone’s gonna be on your same wavelength forever. That’s okay. If it’s clearly fading and the effort’s one-sided, just release it. No need to hold on to dead weight.
It’s hard. I’ve been in this position for the past 2 years since my divorce. Friendships are a two-way street. I know and accepted that I have no grounds for complaining or have the feeling of being ghosted if I don’t make an effort myself.
There’s a really good Mel Robbins episode on adult friendships that helped me and I highly encourage you to listen to it to feel more at peace. the real reason adult friendship is so hard
Me and my bestie grew apart for a while. I went to uni in another city, while she started working and had a kid. We kept in touch, but it just wasn’t the same. Fortunately, things got better after a few years and we’re very close again now. I think if the friendship is really deep and meant to be, it can come back naturally.
Mourn them. For a long time.
Then I get busy. Join new groups, find new hobbies. New friends follow.
Go on about your life and embrace your major life changes. They’re bound to bring in new friendship dynamics that you’ll get something out of. People are in our lives for a reason, season and lesson. That’s what I try to remember, at least.
View it as part of life and value the relation for what it was, even if it is not for life. Also, just because a friendship changes form, or is less intensive than before, doesn’t mean it’s over or that it will be like that forever.
Our time available to friends changes as life changes.
I am now watching my mother in her 70s, spending more time with her childhood friends than she probably has in 50 years. Strong friendships last, also through times with less contact.
I’m still grieving over the loss of my longest deepest friendship I’ve had in my lifetime. Best friends since elementary, (I’m in my 30s now) did our own thing but always came back to each other for support and just to be… us. Then the biggest breakup was during covid. Or right before covid. I think everything happens for a reason and maybe we weren’t meant to be in each others lives anymore. But the funniest thing is that after 3 years, I realized she had a baby around the same time I had my baby… I just kept thinking how it would’ve been so amazing to raise our kids together but life has a different plan for us and now it’s been about 5-6 years since we’ve been separate… so I guess… I’m still grieving haha
When I was 29-32, one of my dearest friends back then was a colleague, a consultant we hired in. She was 20 years older than me and was so wise and cool, and had lived the absolute most exciting and unconventional life I’ve ever heard of. And she said about friendship “friends for a reason, for a season, for a lifetime”.
It was her way of comforting me when I was sad about some other friendship that I was dealing with. People come and go, and sometimes you just need to accept that not everyone will and can be there forever. She herself turned out to be a friend for a season, she moved away again for another work to some other part of the world but I think a lot about her, and I miss her dearly! I hope we cross paths again ❤️
Walk on. Grieve them, but keep walking.
Mel Robbins has a great podcast about this. I just heard it the other day and made so much sense.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000690051846
It’s tough, but cherish memories and stay open!
Acceptance. See it for what it was, a season which I’ll forever hold the memories made close to my heart. Then move on.